(Closed) Did you show FI your dress pre-wedding?

posted 6 years ago in Dress
  • poll: Did you show FI your dress pre-wedding?
    No, we saved the moment for the big day, and were happy with our decision. : (33 votes)
    55 %
    No, we waited until our wedding day, but I don't think seeing the dress ahead of time is a big deal. : (6 votes)
    10 %
    Yes! And I'm glad I did. : (11 votes)
    18 %
    Yes, but I wish I wouldn't have. : (1 votes)
    2 %
    Yes! He helped me pick my dress. : (9 votes)
    15 %
  • Post # 3
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    2063 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I did! He helped me choose THE dress. He’s pickier than me by a long shot!

    Post # 4
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    1962 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I didn’t show him exactly… I showed him a picture of my dress (on a manequin, not me). I knew he’d forget about it by the time the day rolled around and I wanted to see what he thought of it. Showing him picutes of dresses in magazines was fun. I can’t tell you how many times he just stared with a confused/horrified look at some dresses.

    If you are worried about wanting to have that moment where he sees you I say just show him a pic. When he sees you in it, it will be a completely different experience. Then you can at least gauge his opinion. You could always post your dress on the boards and let all of us “ooh and awww” over it too if you think that would help. : D

    Post # 5
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    786 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    I’m not married yet, but I’m not showing him my gown before the day. However, the other day, Isaid “aren’t you curious about the dress??” and he was like “I know that it’s going to look like that grace Kelly one you’re always talking about”. ๐Ÿ˜ฎ and he’s right – that’s what it looks like ๐Ÿ˜› so he kind of already knows basically what it looks like lol.

    Post # 6
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    949 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I’ve shown him stock photos and photos of other brides in it, but I don’t think I’m going to let him see me in it until the day of, but less because of “bad luck” or what have you- more because I know him and even if he loves it, he would say something iffy or noncommittal that would give me dress doubt for no reason. But having his opinion in the original decision was important and helpful for me, personally.

    Post # 7
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    434 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    I did but it was “accidental.” Not accidental in the sense that he accidentally saw me, but I wasn’t planning on showing him and it just happened. I HATED my dress when I first saw it and he saw some cropped photos of the dress when I was crying my eyes out about how bad I felt in the dress. Then, after I got the dress home there was a stain on it and my hours at work didn’t really allow me to make another trip to the bridal salon so he took it for me. He was looking through all the appliques to find the stain lol. But in the end, seeing it on me that day (he never really fully saw me in it all the way) was way different! 

    So yeah, I didn’t want him to but then I had a bridal meltdown.

    Post # 8
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    2254 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    He actually asked to see it, and I’m so glad I did bc he was literally speechless (in a good way). OP, I think if you are having dress regret show it to your Fiance. His reaction may help you decide if you want to keep the dress or find another. Showing my dress to my Fiance reinforced for me that I picked the perfect dress. Don’t worry about spoiling the surprise. 4 months later, all my Fiance remembers is that its white.

    Post # 9
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    1056 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    HECK NO!! I’m not letting mine see it and thank goodness he doesn’t want to see it or know anything about it either!  he doesn’t even want to know the price later on.  I said ok…even though you would be surprised I didn’t pay a ton!

    I’m not showing my dad either until the day of because I want him to be surprised as well.

    Post # 10
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    1297 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I accidentally left the bag open and he saw it… whoops. Otherwise the plan was for him not to see it until the day of.

    Post # 11
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    1471 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    Dont show him, save that special moment!!!  I think its sad when people take their SO dress shopping and show them the dress before the wedding.  The guys will think you look great in anything you pick out, its not like you will pick out a dress that look terrible on you or is not flattering. 

    My Fiance wouldnt look even if i wanted him too, the wants it to be a surpirse and wants it to be special on that day, becides its bad luck ๐Ÿ˜‰

    Post # 12
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    379 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I’m not married yet, but we decided he wouldn’t see it until the day of. He doesn’t even want to do pictures before the ceremony, he wants to see it as I walk down the aisle. I actually already have my dress (crazy early, I know) and his family doesn’t know about it yet. I put a picture of it on Pinterest just to see if it would garner any interest and had an “Oh, crap!” moment when I realized that Fiance puts stuff on my Pinterest page and made him wait until I pulled it down, haha.

    Post # 13
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    1512 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I didn’t vote because my option isn’t up there. He’s seen a couple pictures of it, but he hasn’t seen me in it- and he doesn’t want to. I showed him before I bought it, telling him it was the one I wanted. Then once I got it, I told him it was the one I loved. So he knows what it looks like, but not what it looks like on me. He hates that he’s seen pictures, but maybe by the time the day rolls around, he’ll have forgotten.

    Post # 14
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    12 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    @MalbecMe:i didnt have anyone else to take with me dress shopping so i brought my Fiance with to the shop and showed him when i tried it on. i had looked online before and knew which one i wanted. he said it was gorgeous and i looked beautiful in it. although he has never said i looked horrible in anything. if he didnt like it i would know about it. i dont regret it cause it helped me relax knowing he liked it and by the time the wedding happens he will have forgotten what it looked like anyway. : )

    Post # 15
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    1098 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    I did because I think seeing a picture of a dress on a dress form on the internet and seeing it on me with all the accessories and makeup are totally different things. Plus he can’t even remember where he parked is car or left his wallet half the time so I doubt he will be able to recall what my dress looks like by the time the wedding rolls around. 

    Post # 16
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    906 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I’m not married yet so I didnt vote, but I dont plan to let him see the dress until the day of the wedding. What I am doing instead, since I havent gone dress shopping yet, is show him pictures of the dresses I like on the models, and if he doesnt like it its off the list, if he does, then I’m trying it on! ๐Ÿ™‚ I agree with other bees of showing him a picture of it but not on you, and you should post it on here as well! ๐Ÿ™‚

    @yearns4god:  I dont plan to take my dad or brothers shopping with me either, I want them all to be surprised! Although they may see the dress because we all live in the same house, theres nowhere I can hide it, but I am going to try my best to not let them see it!

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