(Closed) Did you show your FI your dress before the wedding?

posted 8 years ago in Dress
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  • Post # 47
    5136 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @dancindavinci:  no no no. Don’t show him!

    BUT what I did do was, if a commercial came on or we were watching a wedding show like SYTTD, I would ask what he thought of certain styles. To give myself an idea if he would like it.

    However, even that is not a good idea bc if I pointed out a dress htat was similar to mine and he said he didnt like it, then what? Get  a new dress? Once your Fiance sees you in the dress, its so different, bc he already thinks you are beautiful so whatever you wear, is going to be amazing bc its YOU thats wearing the dress!

    Post # 48
    3997 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I showed him a stock photo before we got engaged because it was my dream dress for a long time (: He won’t see me in my dress until I’m walking down the aisle though

    Post # 49
    582 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    i showed my Fiance a pic of my dress that i bought last weekend. i respect his opinion and he will forget what it looks like by next year anyways

    Post # 50
    401 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I’m still shopping for my dress, and finding it soooo hard not to ask his opinion! So far I’ve just shown him stock pictures of dresses but not any pictures of me in dresses. I actually broke down and asked him if I could show him a picture of me to get his opinion but surprisingly he said no! I didn’t expect it because he’s really untraditional about most wedding stuff, but he does want to have that surprise on the wedding day.

    Post # 51
    4554 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I didn’t for a few reasons:

    1. It will spoil “the moment”

    2. What if he hates the style? That’s another $2k+ down the drain…. whereas if we wait until the day, I think he will be so preoccupied with the fact that I’m all fixed up and he’s getting married that he won’t really care about the details

    3. I will never look as good in a wedding dress as a bunch of 15-year-old Photoshopped models. Full stop.

    4. Most men just don’t care about this kind of stuff. I know that’s a generalization, but how many of you can truly say your man cares as much about clothes as you do–especially women’s clothes? If I did show him, and gave him five full minutes to look at the picture, then quizzed him afterwards, he would probably say “Hm. Puffy. White. Has sleeves.”

    Post # 52
    655 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    My Fiance helped me pick my dress! We always clothes shop together and this was no exception. It was a lot of fun!

    Post # 55
    360 posts
    Helper bee

    Yes and no. I won’t show him my dress, but he did go with me to try it on and to order it. He saw me try on the sample dress, but it was a size too small and he has bad memory so in a year and a half we won’t remember anyway, lol. I was extremely worried about the superstition, but my MoH’s boyfriend told me to stop being stupid and believe it or not, it helped. Haha

    Post # 56
    754 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @dancindavinci:  I kept it a secret. I enjoyed watching him squirm with the suspense. :-P. I did however, show him the picture of my face in it (just blocked the dress out with my hands over the computer screen). 

    Your fiance will love whatever dress you pick on your wedding day. Remember sometimes girls dont get the reaction they want when they show the dress ahead of time. Men don’t always get it to the full extent. But on that day, when you look your best and he knows he is marrying the love of his life and you walk out in a dress that reflects your personality and you are glowing – believe me, he will LOVE everything about your dress and you! 🙂


    Post # 57
    74 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: July 2016

    @dancindavinci:  I saw you had another post asking about identifying a Monique Lhuillier gown.  I am also in love with that dress!  Now I’m interested to know what dress you ended up getting!  🙂

    Post # 58
    3154 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @dancindavinci:  I kept it as a complete surprise and he loved it!

    Post # 59
    84 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I bought it with absolutely no intention of showing him the dress. Then over the summer, we went to a bunch of weddings and he was telling me his opinion of all the brides’ dress (“too poofy”, “too tight”, “weird fit”, etc.). So I got paranoid and showed him my dress. He didn’t hate it, but I could tell he didn’t like it. I told him I already paid half and he gave me recommendations on how to “fix it”. I was totally crushed and now I have dress regret. I don’t want to go down the aisle and see his, “There are thousands of dresses you could have chosen and you’re wearing THAT?!?!” look. Cry

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