Post # 1
Hi Bees-My Fiance is away for business this week, and I am stressing out about a test I have tomorrow and slept TERRIBLY last night without him. I woke up every hour or so and there was a lot of forcing myself to lay in bed with my eyes closed instead of looking at my phone. Today I’m soo tired. I think I would still be stressed out about the test if he was here but I would just snuggle into him and fall back asleep I think. (We normally sleep cuddling every night).
Here is my wedding weekend timeline:
Friday noon: Legal wedding (I’m an EU bee), long lunch with families
Friday evening til 11 PM: Welcome event
Saturday 11 AM: Church cemeremony
Saturday 12:30-4 PM: Church reception
Saturday evening 6PM – 3AM: Evening reception
Sunday 3AM-7 AM: Late night party
Sunday 11 AM: Brunch
So it’s a LONG EXHAUSTING weekend. My question is if I should sleep apart from my Fiance on Friday night. We will already be legally married at that point, but I don’t want to “feel married” until after the church ceremony. I worry if we sleep in the same bed Friday night we’ll have an “omg, we’re married!” moment. If we don’t spend the night together I think the events will run together more and we won’t feel completely married until after church. However, I’m worried that if I sleep seperate from him on Friday night, I’ll sleep really poorly and spend my wedding day completely exhausted, and be a zombie after 2 nights without sleep on Sunday afternoon. I really need to sleep well on Friday. What did you do? What should I do?
Post # 2
- Wedding: Hawksnest Cove Beach St John USVI
We slept apart (separate islands actually lol) mainly due to logistics of my hair salon. I didn’t sleep at all but that was due to freaking out about the wedding, freaking out about the weather – it poured all night, and my stepmom snoring next to me. I still think it turned out fine, and it was nice to have that super excited to see him the next day.
Post # 3
We slept in the same bed at the beach house we rented for the reception. It was nice to have a little “relaxation” the night before!lol
Post # 4
No, I felt I’d be more nervous/anxious if he weren’t next to me. At that point we’d already lived together for years and I didn’t see any point in being apart. However, if we didn’t already live together, maybe I’d have felt differently.
Post # 5
we slept separately, I had a chamomile tea and a sleeping pill and a I slept like a baby. Woke up the next morning feeling amazing. NOramlly I don’t sleep great when DH is away but we both really wanted to not see each other until I walked down the aisle
Post # 6
We’re getting married out of state on November 20th next year. We’ll be staying at his mom’s house and I know we’ll be sleeping in the spare bed there together.
For he second ceremony back home, we’ll still be sleeping together the night before since we share a house together and I know there’s no way he’d want to be apart. I can have the flu and he’ll still refuse to sleep in the guest bedroom (it’s a comfortable bed too). Same as if he is sick…he’ll still come sleep next to me lol.
Post # 7
- Wedding: March 2013 - Callanwolde Fine Arts Center
We slept apart and I actually loved it. We had a really long couple of days before Rehearsal dinner, so it probably helped that I was thoroughly exhausted.
Thursday we had our Bachelor/Bachelorette parties and then on Friday me and my bridesmaids got our nails done, followed by a luncheon thrown for us by my DH’s Aunts, and then finally we had the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner. I was exhausted, but we went for a walk around our Alma Mater and then said our goodnights. One of my bridesmaids stayed at the hotel with me, so we chatted for a bit and then crawled into the big King bed.
The morning of the wedding, I woke up, got in the shower, and had a moment when I realized that this was my last shower as a single woman (weird, I know). I started to get anxious when we were at the ceremony/reception site until we did our first look and I got to hang out with him again.
Post # 8
yes, our wedding was on a saturday night.
i went to my mom’s house on wednesday night and then slept at the hotel with her on friday night.
DH’s bestfriend/best man came into town on wednesday or thursday night and was staying at our house. i figured they could have some alone time together as well.
this worked for us. but do what makes you feel comfortable.
Post # 9
We slept apart and I slept totally fine. I dont particulary like sleeping alone in our house without him but I was at my dad’s house w/all my bridesmaids around so I was comfortable.
Are you really partying until 7 am?! And then having brunch at 11?! Are you nuts?! LOL
Post # 10
We slept apart because we didn’t live together. I didn’t sleep well at all, but I don’t think it would have been better if DH was there. I was just so excited/nervous/anxious! My sister stayed over with me, and I ended up watching TV until 2am because I was too amped up to sleep.
Post # 11
We slept in the same bed like usual. But we’re not traditional, either.
Post # 12
We had our wedding in my home town, which is 6 hours from where we live now. We slept together and I’m so glad we did. I actually got some sleep and in the morning he went to his best friends room to get ready so I would have privacy in our room with my friend. It worked great.
Post # 13
We slept apart, mainly due to logistics (some of our bridal party stayed with us at the venue the night before, so I shared with my Maid/Matron of Honor and OH with his best man, as otherwise they’d have had to get separate rooms). Slept absolutely fine.
Post # 14
We lived together for 5 years before our wedding, we slept in the same bed (I use the term slept lightly because I was so excited I probably slept an hour all night). It was fun, we got to giggle at 3am over my dream that someone kept moving the place cards I’d put in alphabetical order
Post # 15
We spent the night together. I got up around 7 the morning of and left for my parents’ hotel while he was still sleeping. I went out to breakfast with just my parents and sisters and it was one of my favorite memories of that day.