(Closed) Did you specify attire on your invitations?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Did you specify attire on your invitations?
    Yes, I wanted formal wear and didn't want confusion. : (11 votes)
    13 %
    Yes, I wanted semi-formal wear and didn't want confusion. : (4 votes)
    5 %
    Yes, I wanted casual wear and didn't want anyone over-dressed. : (0 votes)
    No, I had a casual wedding and didn't care what people wore. : (5 votes)
    6 %
    No, I had a semi-formal wedding but assumed people knew how to dress themselves. : (43 votes)
    51 %
    No, I had a formal wedding but formal wear is de rigueur among my circle. : (4 votes)
    5 %
    Other, I'll explain below. : (17 votes)
    20 %
  • Post # 3
    2154 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I put that information on our wedding website. Hopefully people will read it…

    Post # 4
    690 posts
    Busy bee

    I voted other.  While I’m having a relitively formal wedding I felt strange telling people how to dress.  I’m realllly hoping that guests know that a suit is appropriate (based on formality of invitation, venue, etc).  I’d love for some to wear tuxes, but I don’t expect it.

    Post # 5
    5655 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2011

    No I didn’t put it…And we haven’t had it yet so I’m not sure how it will go

    but we’re having a “Brunch” so I would hope that people would put together that Brunch usually = a Sunday’s Best attire without being too over the top.


    After my Fiance getting into it with my Future Father-In-Law about wearing a tux instead of his wranglers/shirt/BLACK jacket (in our blue/chocolate/orange/white wedding) I figure people are gonna do as they may… lol

    Post # 6
    8353 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2011

    I didn’t put it on the invitation, but I am hoping they got the idea from the formality of the invitation and also from the formality of the venue. One can only hope. My sister put formal on her invitations when she got married and she had a few people show up in shorts and t-shirts.

    Post # 7
    3316 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    Our notes on attire were on our website, not on our invitations.  Originally, I thought we would specify cocktail attire.  However, NotFroofy pointed out that we have some geeky friends who probably don’t even own business suits.  We ended up specifying “party attire.”  Most of the men wore suits, and most of the women wore nice dresses, so we really ended up with what we were looking for.

    Post # 8
    7296 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    i wasn;t going to put it anywhere even though my wedding planner told me to put it on my wedding website.  but then guests started asking me what to wear to a beach wedding, so i finally update my wedding website with the info.

    Post # 9
    542 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    I didn’t even think to mention it for some reason. lol. I kind of wish I had though. And it’s a pretty small affair so I never took the time to do a wedding website. Mine is only semi formal, so I am hoping that the majority of people know how to dress for a wedding. I am hoping no one shows up in something super casual, but who knows. lol.

    Post # 10
    6824 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    No I didn’t, I really don’t care what the guests wear to our wedding as long as they are dressed lol. 

    Post # 11
    4520 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    We didn’t mention attire anywhere (both not really caring and assuming it’d be kind of intuitive–we had your basic 5 pm wedding at a normal venue), and I was surprised by how many people emailed us asking what to wear. It would have been simpler just to include something on the invitation!

    Post # 13
    7695 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I didnt put it on our invitations. The only thing I specified attire for was our rehearsal dinner because I didnt want people thinking they had to be really dressy (it was a BBQ outside) so I put this on our website:

    Please join us for a rehearsal dinner and welcome celebration the night before the wedding! Attire is dressy casual (jeans and a button up okay, khakis, sundresses or skirts for women, no T-shirts

    I figured people would know how to dress for a summer wedding and no one came in anything I would think was inappropriate

    Post # 14
    3526 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    We put it on our website.

    This is what we put:

    That Garb That You Wear!

    People, we’re going to be outdoors and it’s summer. Be comfortable, be beautiful, wear a suit if you want, wear khakis & a sportscoat if you want, tie or no tie or even a bowtie!, wear a sundress if you want, wear a cocktail dress if you want.

    We just ask that you do not show up in a t-shirt, torn jeans (yes even if they cost 100 buckaroos) and flip flops.

    If I had to define the dress code -or lack thereof- it would be summery-dressy-casual.

    P.S. Just remember there will be a photographer floating around so whatever you wear will be in our wedding album for all of eternity……just saying…

    Mind you we still had idiot relatives of mine that showed up in a tshirt and jeans. It was ridic.

    Post # 15
    5657 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2012

    I’m not going to put it on my invitation, but I will have it on my wedding website.

    Post # 16
    3564 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    We wrote black tie optional on our invitations. I wanted people (mainly relatives) to know not to show up in casual trousers and a short sleeved shirt.

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