(Closed) Did you specify attire on your wedding invitations?

posted 4 years ago in Paper
  • poll: Did you specify attire on your invitations?
    Yes, stated cocktail attire, semi-formal, etc on the main invitation : (13 votes)
    25 %
    Yes, stated in a different way : (5 votes)
    10 %
    No, didn't say anything : (31 votes)
    61 %
    Other... comments, please! : (2 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
    3170 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I don’t think it’s my place to tell anyone what to wear.

    Post # 4
    7908 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

    You only need to mention attire if the average guest wouldn’t assume correctly.

    We had a wedding on the beach, but we needed our guests to know it was still a semi-formal event, so we researched a lot for the best wording, and found on either Real Simple of Martha Stewart, the term “beach formal” which is kind of like resort casual. We put it in small letters on the bottom corner of the invitaiton. We were planning not to say anything, but guests had already asked my husband if they could wear shorts… and, um, NO, so we realized that beach wedding in Florida might give people the wrong idea.

    Post # 5
    8141 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    We wrote “formal attire requested”



    Post # 6
    2363 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @Almost Mrs.P:  We specified “Cocktail Attire” in the bottom right corner of the invitation.  Our venue has the word “Cafe” in the name, so we were worried that people might think it was a casual event.  When we announced where we were getting married, SO’s great-uncle announced he would we wearing a Hawaiian shirt.  Um, no.

    Post # 7
    306 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    yes i wrote smart casual , no jueans as this is glof club house rules.x

    Post # 8
    14005 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    We didn’t write anything and assumed that the time of day, the venue, and the formality level of the invitations would communicate the level of formality of (and thus appropriate attire for) our wedding. It worked well for us; I don’t remember seeing anyone who was dressed inappropriately.

    Post # 9
    1498 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I don’t care what people wear, as long as it isn’t a bathing suit or sweatpants.

    The people I invited are all people I love and will have a good time with, so they can wear a dress or jeans, it doesn’t matter 🙂

    Post # 10
    9692 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    @Birdee106:  +1. Why do we agree on everything?! We are all adults and don’t need to be told how to dress. I would not lilke to see this on an invitation. I’ve heard brides go so far as to specify the type and colour of clothing that “must” be worn. Give me a break. 


    Post # 11
    11239 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Nope. I put something on the website, but our wedding is pretty casual.

    Post # 12
    11177 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    We indicated “formal attire requested” at the bottom of the invitation. On our wedding website we indicated suggestions and a request for no jeans/khakis etc.

    Post # 13
    9956 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012


    From Traditional Etiquette POV it is improper to put a Dress Code onto the Wedding Invite… it is usually only seen on the Invitation to the Reception, and then in a discreet way (ie lower right-hand corner)

    And then it should never appear as an Order / Directive… but just simply put.

    So… Black Tie would be correct

    BUT … Black Tie Preferred would not be

    Today this sort of info … is something that is most often relegated to the Wedding Website… and one of the Info Pages which is fine.

    Lol, as I have admitted many times on WBee… I happen to know ALL the Rules, but am not above breaking them on occasion (or more correctly evaluating the risk when making a choice… which is what every Bride should do)

    Our Own Back Home Reception Party was very casual… as were our Invites.  So we had a bit of the “theme” for the party… and I put that info on the backside of the Invite Card. As in “Feel free to get in the festive mood, and dress accordingly”

    Hope this helps,


    Post # 15
    30 posts
    • Wedding: October 2009

    We didn’t state attire on our invitations, we just included a note with our save-the-dates to check out our wedding website for pertanant information like directions to and from the church and reception venue, registry links, and infromation about attire (ours was somewhere between casual and semi-formal).

    Post # 16
    3281 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I also do not find it acceptable to tell grown adults what to wear to my wedding. I could care less what they wear as long as they are there and supporting us! 

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