(Closed) Did you start TTC sooner than you initially planned?

posted 5 years ago in TTC
  • poll: What would you do if you were me?

    Start TTC in November

    Start TTC in December

    Wait to TTC until January

  • Post # 16
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    We started two years earlier than planned (started TTC in 2014 right after our second anniversary) after my doctor told us she was worried about my fertility due to medical issues even though I was only 25.  It took us 26 months  to get pregnant with lots of complications along the way, but I’m 6 weeks today with our first.  On the flip side, my cousin, my sister-in-law and my sister all got pregnant on their first NTNP months.  

    In your situation, I guess I’d start trying sooner than later just in case it does take a few months, you could still get an October baby.  It sounds like you’re ready even if it does happen right away which is great!  And hopefully you’ll get a happy surprise!  But, it can take a lot longer than you think it will too so earlier would be better in my mind. 

    Post # 17
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    We were originally going to start last June, but ended up starting in January instead. We are 30w pregnant and due in December. No regrets. 

    The thing is you never know how long it will take. It only took us 3 months but it can more than a year for some couples. I had plans of a June due date, but that wasn’t realistic when factoring in everything else. October night not be your winning time no matter how much you plan. Also, it might take a while for your body to adjust without birth control. 

    Post # 18
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: Cathedral of the Immaculate Conception/The Gallery

    Our “plan” is to actively start trying next summer but, now, following the wedding, we’re both ok just NTNP. I do track my cycles (have been off BC/IUD for a while now and we were TTA before the wedding). So, though I do know when I’m fertile, we’re not purposely BDing at that time. If it happens, cool, if not, cool. 

    In your case, you sound more ready for a baby than most people, I’d just give it a go and see what happens. 

    Good luck!

    Post # 19
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    We were hoping to start trying next year… well, We had an “oops” and I ovulated late one month ( thought there was NO way I was ovulating) and BANG! Pregnant. haha. You never know what the journey to baby will be like.

    Post # 21
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    Buzzing Beekeeper

    we were going to wait and then I missed a period while I was on the pill. It was right after the honeymoon so we decided not to start a new pack just in case I was pregnant. Turned out to be a false alarm but we just rolled with it and never restarted the pill. Although 2 years later still no BFP and I just started IVF. You can only control so much – I say if you’re ready now then go for it now!

    Post # 22
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    We started ttc earlier than we planned because we figured if we had any issues ttc it would buy us some time. We always had thought we’d have misfortune of not being able to conceive naturally. I got pregnant on the 1st try without ovulation or temp charting, laying in a certain position afterwards, etc. I don’t even have ovulation syymptons so we kind of winged it and I guess all the stars were aligned that day. So even though we knew it was possible we were both surprised.

    Post # 23
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2016

    It took us just under a year. You might get lucky but you sound ready if you do. 

    Good Luck. Being a parent is amazing. I can still say that despite feeling so tired I can barely function. 

    Post # 24
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2015 - Holly Hedge Estate

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    annonbee857 :  I wish we did. Apparently this shit is harder than we thought. Isn’t it just put the stick in the hole and a baby pops out? lol…..no, no it’s not. If I’d have know we would be trying for so long I would have started quite some time ago.

    Post # 25
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

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    annonbee857 :  I think I’m going to go against the grain and say wait just a bit. You could very well get pregnant right away. According to this website http://www.countdowntopregnancy.com/tools/age_fertility_calculator.php, there is a 36% chance that you will get pregnant in the first two months trying. My experience is as follows: My husband and I figured a mid-summer due date (like July) would be ideal for my job, but we got excited and impatient and started trying in July (would’ve been an April due date). It took us until late October to get pregnant, though, resulting in a…wait for it…July due date. It worked out SO WELL. I was so glad, in hindsight, that I hadn’t gotten pregnant right away. It was just kind of a load off amidst all the uncertainty of becoming parents and all the changes a baby brings. However, we just TTC again and once again started in July. This time I got pregnant the second cycle and am due in May. It’s not ideal but I am still thrilled- it will just make things much harder at my job in April (I coach skiing….so I might not be able to ski at all when I’m 8 months pregnant!) So actually I’m not sure what the moral of my little story is, I would just go on how you would feel if you got a BFP right away and were due in August….would be you a little regretful and wish you had been just a little more patient? Or would you be 100% excited and not care about the timing? I do think extra time off with a small baby around the holidays would be a really nice thing for both you and your husband, but it really doesn’t sound like there is a wrong answer here. Best of luck no matter what you decide and happy baby-making!

    Post # 26
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    Busy bee

    We were planning on TTC in Jan 2017 and I am currently 6 weeks pregnant! 🙂

    Go for it. I know you are really trying to plan this out, but it could take several months for you to get a BFP. And in the grand scheme of things, having a few more weeks off or whatever is not that big of a deal. A couple of months is not going to make that big of a difference…

    Post # 27
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    Busy bee

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    MrsAKSkier :  
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    annonbee857 :  I am in the 30% window of only had to try for one cycle. I hate to even say this because there are so many wonderful women that it takes much more work and it isn’t fair. BUT I will say that it can happen on the first try so be prepared for that too! 

    Post # 28
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    We originally planned for August 2016.. and started in June 2016, 2 months before our original plan. Do I regret it? No.. im still not pregnant..I thought I would for sure be pregnant by now but sometimes things don’t go as planned. If anything I say I wish we had started sooner lol.. If you are in a fine place now, I would just start!

    Post # 29
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I wouldn’t purposely overlap maternity leave with those weeks.  That time off would be nice to have after you go back to work.  I saved my vacation time and took 1-2 days off a week for the rest of the year.  Baby was born in July, back to work in October, short work weeks for the rest of the calendar year.

      Are you trying to do 2 weeks (100% paid) + 5 weeks (60% paid)  + 1 week (thanks giving) + 2 weeks (christmas)?  Are you allowed to break up your STD with those paid weeks?

     

    I wouldn’t wait to TTC, but that is because it is taking me what feels like forever to get pregnant…

     

     

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