Did you surprise your husband with pregnancy?

posted 2 years ago in TTC
Post # 16
475 posts
Helper bee

I tempt since the start of our marriage, so he knew vaguely when we needed to use protection in when we didn’t. Ended up getting pregnant our first month of NTNP! (although I guess three times during fertile week isn’t necessarily not trying… 😆 )

I suspected for several days, and waited until a Saturday to actually take the test. I woke up early, tested, and got my bfp, then I wrote a note in a card that I had bought for this purpose and put the test in there too, and woke him up with it! So I really only knew for about 5 minutes longer than he did. 😊

I wouldn’t make him wait any longer than that, and I’m not sure I could handle knowing all day before he got home from work! 😆

Post # 18
7879 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

Once my Dh and I decided to TTC, I didn’t keep him up-to-date on anything except a positive pregnancy test. The mechanics weren’t really important, and I didn’t want sex to turn into a job to get done. He is really detail oriented, so had he known I was watching for ovulation and timing things, he probably would have started watching more closely than I was, asking me to temp, etc. I just didn’t want to stress him out. We were lucky in that it didn’t take us that long, because I was plenty stressed out for both of us!

Post # 19
10350 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

I surprised him the day I found out. I put together a little box with a CD in it and under that a onesie and positive test. He came right in while I was on the phone and opened it thinking it was cookies 🤣

Post # 20
10428 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

I really don’t know which is cuter, him finding out or him going ‘ooh yum cookies’ 

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Post # 21
1409 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I’m super interested to read people’s answers about involving partners in the process! I’ve been tracking cycles in prep for TTC this fall and have been thinking about how it might feel to say “ok babe, I’ve got some super stretchy eggwhite cervical mucus and a smiley on my OPK, now take off your pants!” But whenever I get to my few days of EWCM I get really excited and won’t want it to go to waste so maybe I’ll say just that lol. I think it would stress me out to have him there when I test- I think I’ll test on my own and tell him as soon as I see him after, no matter the result.   

Post # 22
1938 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We’re a mix of both. When we started out TTC, he told me it was too much pressure to know when i was fertile so I didn’t tell him anything at all. But then I wasn’t good enough at seducing him in th uh, appropriate way, during my fertile week. Lol. So then I had to start telling him it was time to try and just keep it as low key as possible. However after our miscarriage in March, I’ve been tracking my temps for the first time in years because my body is doing crazy things. We want to be pregnant again so bad, so he’s gotten really involved in the process and asks me what my temps are doing and stuff. I still never tell him when I’m testing though, he says he likes it when I surprise him so I keep that a secret 🙂 

Post # 23
151 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

I didn’t really keep my husband in the loop. I didn’t temp, took random ovulation tests, and we got pregnant our first month of TTC. 

Post # 24
2490 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Well, I went off birth control in January and was temping to track how my cycles regulated the first month. He thought it was pretty interesting but didn’t pay too much attention. Then I realized, I didn’t need all that because I could always tell when I was ovulating. He knew I was ovulating when we ended up conceiving. I didn’t tell him I took pregnancy tests aftewards. I just presented him with a box of new dad goodies, including a positive test, a few days later. He was pretty surprised! He might have become more involved if it look us longer to conceive.

Post # 25
613 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

My husband knows that I have ovulation sticks and he thinks I’m crazy as he honestly has no idea how hard it may be to fall pregnant so since we are just new at TTC I thought I’d save all the details until/if we hit a point were we have the conversation as to why we have yet to fall pregnant.

With regards to telling him, I always though I’d just show him the test but then the other day I was in this little crafts shop that he loves, to buy him a bday gift, and I saw a set of daddy/baby matching socks and they were soooo cute! It said something along the lines of the dad being a spud and the baby being a tater tot.. I’ll prob get him them as I’m always buying him silly little random gifts like that. 

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