(Closed) Did you take your husband's last name?

posted 7 years ago in Names
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    I hyphenated it with my last name (ex. Smith-Jones)

  • Post # 17
    5285 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I took my husbands last name but I just got around to changing it recently and I have almost been married a year! It’s alot of work to change names and frankly I was lazy lol

    Post # 18
    9830 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I took his name happily. It’s not that much trouble to change most of the important things.

    Post # 19
    3877 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Nope I kept my name. His family was confused because they had never heard of anyone doing that, but my mom was all for it. I made it very clear when we started talking about marriage that I would be keeping mine. He used to be not so happy about the idea, but then he came around and now he couldn’t care less 🙂 it seems like other people care about our names more than we do!

    Post # 20
    1344 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013 - Vine Street Church

    I took his name and it’s been nice because I don’t have to spell my surname for people anymore!

    Post # 21
    164 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I was glad to take his last name, no more trying to explain to people how to correctly spell my old last name as the PP said!

    Post # 22
    472 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I like his last name perfectly well, and I love he idea of having one name as a family. But I also love my last name, and I’ve got thirty years of education, work history, and professional licensing under it.

    I’m pretty sure I’m going to add his last name on Facebook (becoming Firstname Maidenname Hislastname) to make the traditionalists in our families happy and respond to it socially where needed (in his line of work, everyone is called by their last names and most people will assume I’m Mrs. Him; it already happens we’re not even married yet)  but leave my legal name alone.

    My mom never took my Dad’s name (she had three degrees and a medical license already) but she responded also to Mrs. Dad when instead of correcting well-meaning people to Dr. Mom and it seems to have worked out fine for her.

    Post # 23
    511 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    I wanted to keep my name, I’m 40 and established and changing my name is going to be a crap load if work professionally and personally. Fiance did not like that. He wants us to have he same last name and actually wants us both to use his mother’s maiden name. He has no relationship with his father so he isn’t attached to his last name. I like thus idea, but still a lot if work and once he realize how much work it is, I would bet good money he won’t want to go through with it. So we will see what happens in another 18 months.

    Post # 24
    3277 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010


    I took my husband’s name. I saw it as a new beginning and symbol of our bond. My father and my mother-in-law both pressured me to take my husband’s name. Each of them mentioned “feminism” with so much contempt when they lectured me. I am proud to be a Mrs, even though it is still weird when people call me Mrs. (surname). My husband told me that he would support any choice I made, though he was honored that I took his name. 

    I’m not sure what the process is in the U.S., but it is rather simple here. 

    People can choose to assume a name or legally change the surname on their birth certificates. Most women just assume their husband’s names here. I changed my health card, SIN (Canadian SSN) and my ID. I got my passport after all of those documents were changed. I just had to show my marriage certificate. 

    Many women simply use their maiden names professionally and their husband’s surnames socially. This is what Jessica Simpson and Britney Spears did when they were married. 


    Post # 25
    486 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    Not married yet but I will take his name. I never even put that much thought into it, I just knew I would. To me, it’s just a name. 

    Post # 26
    129 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: February 2013



    I couldn’t wait to get rid of my last name! Even before falling out with my family I wanted his name from the second I said yes to his proposal.

    For me it signifies our new life together.

    I got married in a different country and although our marriage was legal it cost me a lot (over $300AUD) to change my name and passport and get all the documents together for it to be legal in Aus.


    So so worth it!

    Post # 27
    53 posts
    Worker bee

    My FH and I are both changing our last names together. 

    Post # 28
    4951 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    I’ll be taking my FH’s last name. I’m not attached to mine, and his is so much better. 

    Post # 29
    4688 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    Kept mine.

    Post # 30
    123 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

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    @Miss Wellies:  

    Yay, I’m not alone!  I’m keeping mine, and he’ll probably hyphenate if/when we have kids, because they’re definitely getting my name.  


    Post # 31
    9541 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

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    @LB15:  Woo Hoo! I don’t mind when women want to take their guy’s name but I’m glad it’s becoming more acceptable to do other things!

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