(Closed) Did you tell anyone you were TTC? Who?

posted 6 years ago in TTC
Post # 31
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I’m pretty open about it. A few family members and friends have asked and I tell them. I don’t plan to tell our parents we are because I want it to be a total surprise, but we’ve told some close friends and DH’s cousin last weekend (who just found out she’s expecting! So I got some pointers from her lol) If we have any trouble with getting pregnant, it’ll be nice to have some people to talk to.

Post # 32
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I mentioned to some friends when we were going to start trying and I wish I hadn’t. Two of my friends started at the same time and will be having their babies soon. And I’m still not pregnant. It just makes me feel shitty that other people are probably thinking “oh what’s wrong with her/him/them”. We had a few months of bad timing and international travel so I’m hoping that’s why I’m not KU and that it’ll happen soon!

Post # 33
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

We probably won’t start TTC for awhile, but have discussed some for when the time comes. DH and I have agreed that I won’t drink while TTC, as we have 2 nephews with special needs and both his sister and SIL drank while they were TTC. We know that alcohol may not be the factor for that, but we want to rule that out anyway. So, pretty much anyone we’d go out with would know if I didn’t order a drink. Although, it’s not uncommon for me NOT to order something… but some may ask. People would ask, and I would probably just tell them.

Like right now, I’m just getting over Influenza and won’t be drinking until the symptoms are all gone.

Post # 34
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

We’re in our 2nd month and aren’t telling anyone.  I talked to my mom about my frustrations waiting for DH to be ready, but she doesn’t know that we’ve started now and I’ve been dodging the topic since.

Its exciting, but its also a) not necessarily going to happen right away, and telling people is going to put them on alert to wait for an announcement/look for a bump, and I wouldn’t want that kind of anticipation and pressure if its not happening right away, and b) it IS basically just a change in your sex life, which is a thing I do not discuss with people other than DH

I also allow myself to drink freely when I’m not in the TWW, and I wouldn’t want to have to explain myself when people see me with a glass of wine!

Post # 35
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We didn’t tell anyone. Even without knowing we were TTC, friends and family were pushy enough. (Seriously, hollering goodbye at the airport and shouting “COME BACK WITH A KID”; “So when are you having babies?” “How long are you going to wait anyway?” Agghhh).

I know these questions and comments were coming from a place of love, but I felt like even without the information that we were TTC, our loved ones were dangerous enough on their own, lol. I was a “drink til it’s pink” TTC’er anyway, so there wasn’t much difficulty hiding it.

Post # 36
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

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brlabrat:  Oh the questions and comments!  I’ve mostly gotten it from DH’s side of the family, but OMG it was nuts that first year.  We were getting “so when are you gonna have a baby?” comments within a month of the wedding (I wanted to answer “When our careers are more stable, my student loans are paid off, my worn-out college car is replaced, and we’re living somewhere bigger than a tiny 2 bedroom apartment?” LOL).  Now that SIL just had a kid, its died down a bit (MIL in particular was chomping at the bit for grandbabies), but I wouldn’t want to dump gas on that fire by telling people we’re TTC!

Post # 37
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

We weren’t going to tell anyone…but I had to tell my BFF! She’s brought the subject up because she is tentatively TTC, so of course I had to spill as well 🙂 I don’t plan on telling anyone else! It’s nice that I have someone I can talk to about it, and probably tell when we get the BFP. We won’t be telling parents until at least week 8, if we are able to not let it slip or be obvious about it.

Post # 38
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2014

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Soonerbee07:  I told my mom we are going to start ttc next month. For inlaws, other family members, and a couple of close friends, I said we are going to start trying “this year”. 

Post # 39
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I was SO excited when we started TTC that I told my two best friends right away. My mom found out, but that was by accident. It worked out though because she was really excited for us. I planned on waiting until I was 6 weeks to tell family and friends on Christmas, but I was too excited that we told all of our immediate family the day after we found out. 

Post # 41
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

We recently just moved TTCing up to starting last month instead of May as we had planned. I kept it to myself for about two weeks before I told my mom. Kinda wanted to keep it a secert longer but I couldn’t help it.  She knows and so does my father, so does my Mother-In-Law, most likley her husband my Step Father-In-Law. Think my Father-In-Law has figured it out on his own. My older sister knows. I don’t think my younger sister or DH’s sister knows. But I would think they might through our mothers. So basicly all close family know. 

Post # 42
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

After my 34th birthday I became very open about TTC. I was old enough and wanted my side of the family not to worry too much or start asking a bunch of questions. So on my 34th birthday I told my dad. My mom had known for awhile before. Most of my siblings found out too. Just didn’t want them to think something was wrong with us.

Post # 43
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

We got married in August and knew we would start TTC right away. When any family asked during our engagement when we would have kids we would say we wanted them right away. That was a huge mistake. We are our 7th cycle of TTC and I’m so over family asking why we arent expecting yet.

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