Post # 16
stillnothing : We told no one we were TTC. We had no idea how long it would take and didnt want family getting their hopes up. I am now 5 weeks pregnant after TTC 2 months. Can’t wait to tell family soon! They had no idea babies were even on the radar!
Post # 17
stillnothing : I’ve told two friends but no family. My BFF I tell everything to and my other really close friend who is going through infertility. Also told a work colleague when I was having a moment of weakness after another cycle that didn’t work out. We work with kids and it’s hard some days. I will not tell any family as I really really don’t want the questions.
Post # 18
I originally didn’t want to tell anyone but it was hard to keep it to myself in the beginning when it was so exciting. I ended up telling my few closest girlfriends and I don’t regret it, but the few times I was asked about it after originally telling them was hard.
Post # 19
I’ve always been fairly open about my desire to have kids so when we got married, people just assumed we’d start a family. Depending on who / what they commented I responded with with Please God or plenty of time for that!
No one really offered unsolicited advice and the only person to comment was DH’s mother who rang the day we were married 3 months to ask if there was any news? Darling Husband put her back in her box and told her if she called and asked again she wouldn’t even be informed when / if I gave birth.
You know your ppl, discuss as it feels right to you!
Post # 20
We told a handful of friends and family – basically the people who I’d want support from in the even of miscarriage, which is exactly what happened.
When the miscarriage happened, I was quite open about it. I found it helpful as many women opened up with either their own personal experiences or those of close family/friends – it really made me feel less alone.
Obviously then many people knew we were trying and I was open that we would continue trying as soon as given the green light. It took 6 months for my next BFP (just got it last month!) but fortunately nobody has been pushy or asked directly other then asking after my emotional well being.
If there was anybody I felt would be the nosy sort, I would not tell them.
Post # 22
I didn’t tell anyone except 1 friend, and I only told her after we’d been trying a year. We didn’t have a super easy TTC journey and I’m so glad I didn’t have a million people asking me. I think it really only gets terribly upsetting and annoying for people to be asking you about it when you’re having problems. If you end up getting pregnant quickly, it’s probably not as intrusive as after you’ve been trying for years and people keep giving you stupid advice and asking stupid questions.
Post # 23
- Wedding: June 2016 - City, State
I told my best friend when we just started, mostly to commiserate about charting, temping, etc. Now I am kinda stuck because we got a positive within 3 months and I know she and her husband have been trying unsuccessfully for 2 years. So I am not sure how to break the news
Post # 24
I told my best friend and her fiance, and a woman at work who I am close with for a vent one day. Were both quite private and don’t like a big fuss at the best of times. They’re probably the only ones we’ll tell before 12 weeks too.
I got a positive a couple of days ago and part of me dreads telling our families because they can be so intense. We’ll definitely wait until 12 weeks!
Post # 25
I told my mom and that was it. It took us a while so I am glad no one else knew because I did not want to deal with the comments. We also didn’t tell family I was pregnant until 15 weeks. We are very private people though.
Post # 26
lantana : Not to derail too much, but I’d send your friend a text or email about your pregnancy once you’re ready to start sharing the news. if she’s aware you’ve been TTC a few months, it’s not going to come as a shock to her that you are pregnant…in fact she is probably waiting for this news. Telling her via email/text gives her a chance to digest the news privately rather than have to put on a happy face for you if she has a hard time with this news (not that she won’t be happy for you but it can be hard hearing about other people’s pregnancies when you’re struggling yourself).
Post # 27
- Wedding: October 2016 - Wedgewood Las Vegas
I’ve only told some of my close friends. No family yet. I have fertility issues, and I didn’t want to get the family excited only to have it never happen.
Specifically, we haven’t mentioned it to hubby’s parents. I’m sure they’d be happy for us, and I’m sure his mom would be over the moon. However, I don’t want her calling me every day asking if I’m pregnant yet. She means well, but in the past when she was pushing for grandbabies, she was full of ‘helpful’ advice. I don’t think I can take that pressure this time around.
Post # 28
Thank you so much for all of your responses.
I feel a lot better about it now. I know my best friend would be the first one I reached out to if we had trouble or if I had a miscarriage, so I am not worried about her getting too noisy/intrusive.
The other 2 a told… one unfortunately had a miscarriage last year so I feel like I would open up to her if anything were to happen. The other said they had been trying for about 5 months so I’m sure she will give me space and not be too pushy.
Def not telling my family though. I know they will constantly ask what’s going on.
Post # 29
- Wedding: August 2019 - City, State
I told her future SIL when we were going to start trying after she asked me when we were going to have another one. I regret letting that one slip. Long story but you can read my previous post that explains all of it if you really want to know. Congrats by the way! That’s very exciting ☺️
Post # 30
stillnothing : I told my mom, mainly because we had been trying for a while already, and it hurt me everytime she asked when we would have kids. She was really supportive after that. I also told some close girlfriends, which I was grateful for since I had a chemical pregnancy, and was struggling with how long it was taking for us to get pregnant. I’m now 14 weeks pregnant, and it was so exciting telling our friends and family, even the ones who knew we were TTC were super surprised and happy for us.