(Closed) Did you tell everyone?

posted 4 years ago in TTC
Post # 16
Member
103 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Darling Husband and I have told a few close friends and I have told my mom.  I wouldnt post it on FB for my casual aquantiences to see but I see no harm in letting my friends in on the big secret.  No details just the general fact “hey we ditched the birth control and are hoping for a baby”. Everyone was really supportive and excited. 

I also let it slip to the director at my daughters after school care program, I asked about infant rates and she gave them to me and asked why so I told her. I’m glad I did turns out they are already full for 9 months from now and she wanted to be sure I wasnt going to wait too long to get on a list.

Post # 17
Member
3564 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

TTC for right at 2 years here…

At first, we didn’t tell anyone.  As time went on and it became apparent that it wasn’t going to happen fast, I told my mom & my best friend.  Mostly because I needed someone to talk to, to vent to, and to understand why I wasn’t feeling that excited for the 2 baby showers coming up. 

At this point, 2 of my closest friends know, my brother knows, and while I have posted infertility related articles on FB, I haven’t come out and verbatim said we’re TTC or having fertility issues. I just think that infertility should be talked about, because it does feel like you’re alone dealing with it.  

I can’t imagine putting it on social media that you’re trying, and then still be sitting here years later with no baby. 

Post # 18
Member
424 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Hubby and I told family and friends when asked that we will try after our 1 year anniversary. Little did they know.. we kept it a secret that we were trying right after our October wedding. We thought it would take a few months to conceive.. we conceived a few days after the wedding according to our doctor!

It is weird that she posted that comment on FB…

Post # 19
Member
899 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I’ve told my mum we are trying (she and I are super close) and one friend who is very understanding but I haven’t told any of my friends with kids as I know they will ask all the time if we are pregnant if they knew. The extra stress it would add would just do my head in! We’ve already been trying for a while and i’m so glad I didn’t tell people. I can’t imagine why someone would want to tell the world! I feel the same about people who announce their pregnancies before the pee has dried on the stick, some things don’t need sharing instantly.

Post # 20
Member
9123 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

we didn’t announce on FB that we were TTC, we didn’t even announce on FB that we are expecting.

but i did tell some friends that Darling Husband and I were going to start trying right away, when we did start.  it did end up taking us 2 years and a lot of money to be successful.

i say to each their own.  i’ve seen people post their BFPs right away and others wait until 5 months to share. 

Post # 21
Member
2181 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I can see both sides….  while personally I wouldn’t post something like this (but then again I post about 5 things per year so I am not the most prolific facebooker) I can understand getting really fustrated with people constantly asking about it and maybe saying something on facebook to just get it out there and be done with it… yes people I get it we are married and not getting any younger – we are working on it!!!!

while I understand why people keep it a secret personally I think that everyone would be a lot better off if it wasn’t like that – if people knew that you were trying they wouldn’t be all on your case trying to “convince” you that you NEED to have a baby – I don’t think that you have to post every detail but if more people knew what was going on then it wouldn’t be such a big horrible secret you have to keep  

Post # 22
Member
1025 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

. I vaguely told sister in laws a year or 2 Until we would be trying… We started trying a few weeks ago, I told one friend. told my mom we are excited to be parents fairly soon, and know she would be thrilled!! His sister told us when they were trying.:. rathwr surpirse people with a pregnancy 

Post # 23
Member
176 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

My best friend and her family (her mum, SIL etc) all know we are ttc because we see each other all the time. She is also ttc but has been trying for nearly 2 years to conceive her second baby. It’s nice to have someone also ttc and whose been there and done that to talk to. my sister also knows. My mum has an idea that it might be soon (she asks me if I’m pregnant all the time). My Mother-In-Law has made it very clear that she can’t wait for grandchildren. She even mentioned it in our wedding video! My other set of in laws have no idea and won’t until we’re expecting! They think we should wait 5+ years. 

It is quite frustrating when you’re ttc and people ask when your going to start a family. If it was up to us we’d be pregnant at the moment but it’s not that easily unfortunately. 

Post # 24
Member
984 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Personally, I am over 35 so as soon as I got married, people started asking about kids…. do you want them, are you going to try… so on. 

So when we started to try, if people asked I said yet we would like kids.  I really didn’t tell anyone, it was more along the lines of answering yes to their questions of are you trying to have children.  Talking about wanting children is one thing but announcing it on FB is something else. 

The only thing I could think of in her defense is that she is sick of being asked if they trying, I remember answering people when they asked right after our wedding, well we are not actively trying but we are also not trying to prevent it.  IE if it happens it happens.  That was way before I started tracking cycles and seeing Dr.s and so on.

Post # 25
Member
1445 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I guess some people are just a lot more open on Facebook than others. A month or two ago my sister posted about how one of her students tried to trick the principal into thinking she (my sister) was pregnant, and clarified that she isn’t, but “soon, hopefully.” And her Darling Husband commented on it too. I know she’s been off BC since her July wedding but I was kind of shocked she put it out there like that. But that’s her, she has very little filter.

I’m not TTC yet and we probably won’t post anything about it on Facebook until I have a clear bump, but Darling Husband and I are more private. Once we start I’ll probably tell my best friend and maybe my sister but she sucks at keeping secrets haha.

Post # 26
Member
1400 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I told my very best friend but other than that, no one. It felt too personal, I wanted it to be for us. The bestie knows because, well she is my female support person and it felt like the right thing to do. Having her there to support me and back me in the “female stuff” part of it has been so very relieving!

Post # 27
Member
2109 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

My husband has told a few people. I have told a few close friends, but that is it. Haven’t told family. My husband’s family is already pestering us enough and we’ve been married a whole 3 months. We’re kind of in the we’re not trying very hard, but just letting happen what will happen. Which is what i’ve told people, seems to keep the questions down. My husband has been telling people we’re trying I think, which is probably why they’re being a bit more of pests about it 😛

Post # 28
Member
3199 posts
Sugar bee

I don’t think it is tacky, but I wouldn’t personally. Like others have said, I wouldn’t want the added pressure of others continually giving advice or asking about the progress. However, thinking about it, if more people were open about these things (and the accompanying stress, planning, and complications), maybe things like miscarriages and responsible financial planning wouldn’t be such taboo topics in society and a lot of good could come from it.

Post # 29
Member
1514 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I told my best girlfriends and that was it.  I had a couple people ask if we were trying and I thought it was super rude.  Especially because it was a long road to get pregnant.  I was glad to have my besties’ support though.

Post # 30
Member
1579 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

mrscross1020:  We got married at 22, so we have been asked the “When are you having kids?” question for YEARS now. Someone even went as far as putting their hand on my (non-pregnant) stomach while asking that question. Not a happy camper after that one.

Now that we are TTC, we have told absoultely NO ONE and will probably continue to keep quiet about it. Not even my mom and sisters know.  I sometimes feel guilty about not wanting to share that with them, but in the end, it’s a private matter and decision the hubs and I made together and when/if we do concieve, we will happily tell our families the news asap. Just not before 😉

 

The topic ‘Did you tell everyone?’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors