Post # 1
My Darling Husband and I have now officially started NTNP/TTC. We are not telling people that we are doing this and, if we can, probably won’t tell anyone until I am 12 weeks when/if I do get pregnant. My sister told everyone that she and her Darling Husband were hoping to have a baby before he turned 40, well this was four years ago and still no baby. I personally wouldn’t want that pressure of knowing everyone is waiting for news.
So did you tell people/will you tell people or are you keeping it to yourselves?
Post # 2
FromA2B2013: Darling Husband and I most likely will keep it a secret, except for maybe a few close family members. Like you, we don’t want the added pressure of knowing everyone is expecting a BFP sometime soon.
Post # 3
I never understood the whole “we’re trying” announcing thing. Basically you’re just telling everyone you’re having lots of sex lol. It also invites invasive questions and encourages nosy people to be even nosier!
Fiance and I will be keeping it private. I have told 2 close friends that we will be TTC after the wedding but otherwise, I intend to keep it to ourselves until the 2nd trimester, gd willing!
Post # 4
We will, only because when we start – I don’t plan on drinking at all.
We often get together with his sister, Brother-In-Law and parents if they’re in town, and drinks are most certinaly comsumed. So, if I weren’t having a drink (I usually only have a couple), they would ask. I’m sure it wouldn’t be that big of a deal due to the circumstances, and he could just “mix” my drinks and give me a Diet Coke and no one would know the difference, but I’d rather just have it out there.
That would probably be it, and only if it came up.
Post # 5
FromA2B2013: My friends are NOSY 🙂
Honestly, it is no secret that we wanted a family, so when I talk to my greatest friends, they kindly ask/dance around if we had a better idea on the ‘when’ part. Because I want any potential news to be a kind of surprise, I just tell them we are not preventing, but not ‘worrying’ about it either. This way I am giving them a bit of an answer without letting them know that I am in a TWW, and eagerly awaiting to POAS.
Our families do not make mention of it, actually, which is kinda weird.
The hard part is that IF this is our month, I will know by Christmas, and the plans we have with family/friends always include drinking, cause we love wine…and booze. Yes, it would be too soon, but they will know – pretty fast – when I turn down a glass of vino. Sure, I could tell a lie, but my face would say it all.
Post # 6
I told my 4 best friends in the world we were TTC as they were all in the same boat too. Other than that, I don’t really think anyone honestly cares how I bang my husband.
Post # 7
We’re NTNP as of last week and haven’t told anyone although its no secret that we want kids. A friend of mine was married last summer and it was well known that they were TTC immediately (actually they started before the wedding). She had a miscarriage a few weeks before my wedding in November. I don’t want people knowing personal information.
Post # 8
Unless there are problems down the road, we likley aren’t telling anyone. I don’t understand why people tell other people they are trying right away. You welcome invasive questions or you have a bunch of people that just don’t care.
If we have problems, I will likely talk about it with my mom as her and my dad went through the same thing and I would want advice. Probably wouldn’t with my in-laws as I don’t think DH’s parents had trouble and my SIL has three little oops (who I love dearly) and isn’t very sympathetic to her SIL who is having trouble.
Post # 9
FromA2B2013: nope for exactly the reason you said, I’m terrified we will struggle and don’t want constant questions! We only got married in November and I have had a lot of comments already about when we will have a baby. I just brush It off. This is the one thing I’ve kept purely between Darling Husband and I.
Post # 10
Newbie1982: I also just got married in November and only my mother has asked anything yet. Last Saturday she said that she thought we’d be having kids right away lol.
Post # 11
Misswhowedding: “You welcome invasive questions or you have a bunch of people that just don’t care.” What I think!
Post # 12
FromA2B2013: We initalliy kept it a secret, not wanting to place too much attention on this subject, but with much difficulty and plenty of doctors visits/medication/& impending surgeries (lap), it was just best for us to get some support from our families & some friends. It’s continuing to prove to be an uphill battle and it’s nice knowing others have been praying we get our wish soon. Not to mention I get to talk out my feelings about everything, and that helps wth my stress level, so I don’t feel it’s so bottled up.
Post # 13
Friends know it’s going to be within the year but not that we are now. A nosy friend literally asks if I’m pregnant any time im sick and doesn’t seem to want me to be pregnant while she currently is! I do talk with my mom about it though! It’s helpful to have someone who knows where I’m at in my cycle and is praying for us!
Post # 14
My close friends/family have a general life timeline, but I won’t officially be telling. My BFF told EVERYONE they were going to try right away. It has been 4 months and still no BFP and people ask her if she’s preggo yet a decent amount– esp her mother. I feel like it creates a lot pressure and reminders of BFNs in her case. But everyone’s situation is different.
Post # 15
Nope! Well, mostly nope. My best friend knew but that’s it. I’m very close with my mom but it just wasn’t something I wanted to share with her. It was more fun just telling her when it happened! More people know for #2. My best friend again, and I’ve told two other friends but they have probably forgotten by now! I also have a handful of mom friends who know, some who are trying around the same time as us.