Post # 1
I so badly want to talk to people IRL about our possible plans for TTC but I know both our parents wouldn’t like it because his parents think we should be like them and be married for atleast 5 years before TTC and my parents Believe there should be a year of “enjoying being married” which I agree with excpet we have been emotionally married and living together for 3 years. It just wasn’t legal/official yet. And my sisters have giant mouths and my BFF is jealous enough that I am married and have a dog and have graduated while she is stuck in school for another year (we started at the same time) and has been with her boyfriend for as long as Mr. Hedgie and I have been together. Oh, and she is obsessed with my dog because of how badly she wants one, in an apartment like mine rather than a dorm. So, enough jealousy in on that side. So, we are left with… nobody we feel comfortable sharing this with. Ugh… Good thing I have you guys!
So, did anybody else choose not to tell anybody whether it was personal or uncomfortable?
Post # 4
What, you mean besides on the Bee? Hehe.
I have already told my two closest girlfriends that I’ve bought my last 6 pill packs. However, I’m nervous to tell too many people in case it takes a long time or doesn’t go well for some reason. I *may* tell my mom…..maybe, if it comes up after the wedding, but it will probably only be a couple of girlfriends.
Post # 5
@MrsTCB: TTC is “trying to conceive”.
Post # 6
I told my mom & a few friends. My mom was begging for a grandbaby (& still is for that matter.) We was going to start ttc again (MC the first go) in a year but we have decided to wait a few years. Next time around we will probably tell more than last time.
Post # 7
We haven’t told anyone yet. I know a lot of people won’t agree with us and frankly I don’t feel like hearing it haha. I’m going to wait until we get the BFP to tell our closest friends and family. I’ve seen people tell their friends and family that they are TTC and have had trouble and are asked all the time, “sooo are you guys pregnant yet?” and it gets old and a little upsetting when you’re reminded all the time. At least you have the bee to share it with! Plus, you have women here that are going through the same thing as you.
Post # 8
I’m having my IUD taken out on Monday, and we aren’t getting married until July — we plan to really start TTC on our honeymoon. I’ve had baby fever for what feels like forever, and everyone assumes we’ll get pregnant right away, but I’m scared to tell people our plan because a) it’s no ones business and b) I’m terrified that it will take me a long time to get pregnant and I don’t want to deal with people (IRL) being nosy. 🙂
Thank god I have all you ladies 🙂
Post # 9
We didn’t tell anyone right away, but after 6-8 months of TTC, I needed the support. I told my mom and my best friends, and then later on told DH’s family because his father was dying (thought they needed a little positive news).
A year after starting TTC, I’m glad we haven’t told too many people – I couldn’t handle the constant “So, are you pregnant yet?” especially when we are having such a hard time with it.
Post # 10
I think I’d keep it private personally. I’d rather just tell people “I’m pregnant!” without potential months of “So are you pregnant yet? Have you tried these herbs/positions/teas/drugs?”
Post # 11
I would keep it private. Maybe a close friend who is going through the same stage or was recently pregnant. Otherwise no one else needs to know. A friend announced that they’re TTC at a party with 30+ people, let’s just say it was a tad awkward!
Post # 12
I’ve told our close friends that we are going to TTC on/after our honeymoon but that with my fertility issues it may not necessarily come easily. I’m hoping that will stop some of the deluge of “Are you pregnant? When are you having a baby?” after we get married – honeymoon will be seven months after the wedding.
Post # 13
No one will know until we announce that we are 12+ weeks pregnant.
Other than maybe my best friend.
You start telling people that, and they think it’s their business to give you advice, asking probing questions, etc. Especially if it takes longer than they think it should or you were expecting it to.
Post # 14
@Ms. Martian: that would be weird. why not just announce “Hey, we are going to start having lots of sex at opportune times!”
Post # 15
We told a bunch of people….then it took a year and a half to get pregnant. I wish I had never told anyone. It was incredibly painful to hear the “are you pregnant yet??” or “when you have your baby…” or the WORST (said jokingly but seriously insensitive) “are you guys doing it right?? Are you using the right hole??” Yup, that was actually said!
So, yea, if I had had any idea of how long it would take, I NEVER would have told anyone!!
Post # 16
LOL I should clarify that the people I have told have been close friends in private one-to-one conversations… I don’t see us doing a big Facebook announcement or anything. And once we are pregnant, we won’t be telling anyone but immediate family until the all-clear is given from the doctors!
I guess our case is also a little bit different like @redsmarties:, my mum has terminal cancer and so may pass before we have kids and so the thought of grandchildren (however potential they may be at the moment) is a joy to her and the rest of the family that life truly does go on.