Post # 1
- Wedding: August 2012 - W Hotel Silicon Valley
I haven’t told my parents or any of my family that we are TTC (okay, NTNP ). I just don’t want to deal with my parents on my back about it or anyone asking about it if we don’t get pregnant right away. I’ve only told two friends so far and plan to keep it that way until we get a BFP–and even then, I’d like to wait to tell anyone else until we are “in the clear.”
Did anyone else feel the same way when TTC?
Post # 3
I’m not telling anyone when we start to TTC….I’d feel really weird telling my parents that our sex will now be unprotected.
Post # 4
- Wedding: October 2010 - The Pearl S. Buck House
I couldn’t help it. We didn’t want to tell anyone, but it was such a big desicion I really wanted my mom to weigh in and I had work/baby woman-centric questions. So… she knows. Then I say things that are so obvious to other people… it’s weird not drinking around friends… so, yeah. I haven’t told Mr. T I’ve told anyone, but… I’ve told people “it’s on the table/we’ve talked about it/I ovulated yesterday” I have a big mouth 🙂
Post # 5
Only Brother-In-Law & SIL because SIL is a nurse and has 2 babies (one very new) and I know I’ll be wanting to ask questions about pregnancy and such but no one else. We don’t want the “so, pregnant yet?” questions and we’d like to surprise people with the news as well so if they know we are TTC, everytime I refuse a glass of wine or something people will assume I’m pregnant and if we are having trouble it will make it worse.
Post # 6
@moniquaa: ooh yes. I’m with you 100%. We’re waiting to be in the clear as well to tell people, even my family. My mom and best friend know but other than that it’s just a wonderful secret between the two of us. 🙂 I don’t think we’ll tell anyone else if I test positive but rather spend that first week or so enjoying the news alone before we make it public.
Post # 7
my ILs know more than my family. Its nice to be able to be open about it with them,and they are aware of our problems TTC (my PCOS) My Mother-In-Law has been the best,she is extremely suppportive and encouraging and great at listening when Im having a crappy time or struggling with things. She also cant wait for a grandbaby!! lol. When people worry about not wanting to have that pressure or people on their backs,it doesnt bother me. We will have a baby when we have a baby,but then,no one really badgers us too much because theyre (family anyway) are aware of the situation were in. Its nice to have someone there when Im feeling down about it,or just want to vent my feelings and worries out,I cant unload on DH all the time!
Obviously complete strangers or people we dont know that well get told to mind their own business!
Post # 8
We have not told anyone! I’ve told the Bees lol but thats just so i can ask questiins and vent. My family isnt interested in my life per say. My SO wants to surpruse his dad and step mom 🙂 He has mentioned to his cousins that we would like to have a baby in the next year or two. My family is all out of state, dads in MI where im from and grandma/aunt are all in FL.. SO dad/cousins live in CA/AS and were in Illinois lol i guess I just anticipate issues with pregnancy and dont want the questuons or feeling sorry for me. Since everyine has kids and never had any problems.. 🙂
Post # 9
We did not tell anyone we were TTC. In fact, I didn’t tell anyone I was pregnant until I was past the first trimester since you’re most likely to miscarry in that time frame.
Post # 10
I’m going to say that we won’t, because it’s none of anyone’s business. I just feel like it would be really awkward to say, “Hey, we’re having lots of sex right now so that we can get pregnant!” No thanks.
Post # 11
I think it’s awkward to talk about TTC, especially with parents. I don’t want them thinking about my sex life.
Post # 12
not that I’m even TTC, but I wouldn’t tell anybody about it at all. That’s just awkward!
Post # 13
- Wedding: September 2012 - Mother of the Bride\'s residence
Most of our friends know our timeline, honestly. Mr. D sometimes tells sort of random people which is kinda weird, but hey, if it means he’s excited, good! But parents, no — unless the siblings we’ve told have spread the word. 😛 They do know that it’s vaugely in the future.
Post # 14
I would never tell anyone. No added pressure needed! I hope we have a happy accident so I don’t get too stressed if/ when we decide we’re okay with it.
Post # 15
No, I think telling people (that you know, no discussing on boards) that you are TTC is odd and pointless. They dont care if you’re TRYING…. they want to know when you ARE.
Post # 16
We told people when they started asking the baby question right after our wedding that 1) we were not trying/it’s not the right time and 2) we do plan on having children. I don’t plan to go back and update anyone on the status. I don’t want to be inundated with questions such as “Well, any updates?”