(Closed) Did you tell your fiance what carat you want?

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

I did… I knew I didn’t want a full carat as it looks ghati… but I also wanted something that stood out… lol so .75 is what I asked for and what I got… 😁

Post # 3
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Busy bee

No. I didn’t tell him carat size. But I did tell him I wanted to be involved since I was so particular. First store we went into I saw a diamond I was absolutely mesmerized by. It was far larger than I could have anticipate him buying given our salaries back then. But he saw my face, did some negotiating and bought it. I was shocked and on cloud nine. He paid for it partially in cash that day and the rest on credit the following month after selling some memorabilia. Back then he frequently purchased and sold for profit and had a collection of items up for sale so I didn’t feel too bad. If I didn’t go with him I would have given a spec range I’d like to be within his budget.

In all honesty I don’t think you’ll notice a difference between .3 and .5 of a carat. Unless the .5 faces up unusually large for its carat weight. Keep in mind shrinkage happens and you’ll get accustomed to pretty much any size with wear. 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

We shopped together beforehand and got an idea of what size we were both happy with. Luckily we agreed!

Post # 5
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Blushing bee

We pretty much compromised in the middle on what carat size was ideal. 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

No.  It’s a gift.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Nope. I didn’t tell him anything. He picked it himself totally

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

No I didn’t – I left it up to him to decide what he could afford! Lucky for me he knew a lot about cut/clarity/colour, so once he was able to look for something that met his standards for those c’s then he was able to see what size he could afford 🙂 

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

Nope, he had it made without my knowledge.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

My husband wanted me to have input on the ring. So, we look around. In the end, he pointed out a ring to me and we both loved the design. We went custom because there were certain details we wanted changed such as having it made in white gold, adding half eternity on the shank, and a wedding band to match it and curve around it. I had the option of what size center and I liked the proportions I saw on the design we originally looked at so we stayed the same in that sense.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper

I didn’t give him a carat minimum. I had a general idea of what I wanted for an e-ring, and then I let him make the final call. He did get me a larger stone than what we’d looked at together, so that was a neat surprise. 

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2016 - Manhattan, NY

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chachamaru :  I didn’t even know what a full carat looked like on my hand until I tried one on at a jeweler, and I personally thought that was too big. I gave my hubby pictures of the style that I wanted, and even designed a ring on James Allen. If I remember correctly, I was able to pick the diamond size that I wanted because you can handpick the diamond that you want set into the ring. So that hinted at the size I wanted, and I ended up with a .70ct marquise diamond in my engagement ring. Just right for me 🙂 You could be more direct though, there’s nothing wrong with that. I just knew that I didn’t want a full carat because I didn’t like how it looked on me.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Yes, I gave a small range of sizes. But I also said that I didn’t mind if it was real or a simulant, depending on budget. I think it’s not ok to dictate a large size if it’s out of his price range. 

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Yeah I kind of did but only because we went with moissy and the price difference between sizes isn’t so dramatic. I basically fell in love with a particular ring so we had it copied and that is what decided it more than anything. I didn’t have a size in mind at all before that. I get why some people might feel uncomfortable stating a minimum carat weight for a diamond because the price difference can equate to thousands, but as long as it is realistic or within a previously agreed budget it makes sense to give him an idea of what you want. Most guys would probably be grateful to have something to go on, as long as it’s not outrageous. 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

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chachamaru :  I said what I would like but also did what we could afford. We live in the UK so diamonds are crazy expensive and even a 0.5 can cost like a quarter to a third of a lot of workers annual salary. Compromising and working within your means is important with this. 

When I got my 1.5ct Amora gem ultra I was able to go more with the size I would like, however for a much smaller fraction of the cost. 

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