(Closed) Did you tell your fiance what carat you want?

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 31
554 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

Kind of, but we both agreed a 2 carat centre stone would be a good size for me.

Post # 32
600 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

After looking at rings we both felt like .5 carat center stone would be the best size since anything less looked too small with my finger.

Post # 33
4509 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

My Fiance told me what size carat he wanted to gift me and I felt it was a little on the large size.

Post # 34
479 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2003

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chachamaru :  No.  I was a single mom and always thought if I ever got engaged that I would have just a plain white gold band (not knowing I am allergic to gold), no engagement ring because e-rings are so expensive!  When my DH was ready to propose, he did so without a ring so that I could pick exactly what I wanted.  He wanted it to be around 1 carat, any diamond shape or ring style I wanted.  I picked a 1.06 carat princess cut in a plain platinum cathedral setting.  I LOVED that ring and was devastated when the corner chipped years later.  

Post # 35
7550 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

I didn’t ask specifically for a carat size, it was more what carat size he could afford in the ring I wanted. I was thinking around half a carat (or slightly over) though, because my fingers were quite small. I got 0.61 carats.

Post # 36
8516 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

No. His $, his choice. 

Post # 37
480 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

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Kaymar :  it might be a gift, but my fiancé wanted to get me something I wanted. I think gifts should be about the recipient as well as the giver. 

Post # 38
1949 posts
Buzzing bee

Yes, I suggested and helped pick out the diamond and ring. My Fiance had no clue about jewelry. When asked by the jeweler he said he wanted a 10 or 12 Carat diamond. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ needless to say I’m wearing a 1.22. So he just misplaced a decimal point, he’ll call it an honest mistKe. I’ll call it sticker shock πŸ˜‚

Post # 39
402 posts
Helper bee

He asked me what carat size was my dream ring— I told him but he went with what size he wanted..which was bigger! πŸ™‚

Post # 40
3527 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

I have bigass man hands. I told him I would prefer if it were af least 0.5 but no bigger than 1. I got a .56 :)))

Post # 41
1392 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

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blackraine04 :  Do you mean “gaudy?”


My Fiance and I talked about styles we liked, but he had absolutely no idea what to look for in a diamond. So we had some general education conversations about cut, clarity, color and carats. I told him that I wanted him to pick it, but I did also do a lot of research on diamonds because hey I was excited. Lucky enough, his favorite style also happened to be my favorite style — a round solitaire. We went in person to try some on so he could see how they looked and I tried on everything from 1-2 cts. He bought a 1.5 ct on his own then, which is honestly exactly what I would have wanted. Anything bigger felt like too much but I admit I like the finger coverage. I feel very lucky that he put so much effort into making sure it was what I wanted but still picking it himself, which is more sentimental to me. πŸ™‚

Post # 42
868 posts
Busy bee

I was convinced I wanted a solitaire. And I told DH it should be an oval or an emerald cut. I was never fond of princess cuts, and I thought rounds were too common. But he chose the ct size all on his own. 

He proposed with a gold band and told me we could go e-ring shopping together. Good thing he did that!!! After spending months insisting on a solitaire, I ended up in love with a 3 stone. Annnnnnnd of course it’s a round center stone. And it has princess cut side stones. LOL!! Who knew? But I can’t imagine any other ring being so “me”. 

I think if the woman wants to be surprised  and let the guy handle it, then that’s great! But if she does want to be involved I STRONGLY reccomend trying them on in person. Sometimes the rings we love on line aren’t the ones we love IRL. 

Post # 43
163 posts
Blushing bee

I did–I was worried he would have spent too much on something too big. I prefer smaller with ideal cuts. In the end it didn’t matter because he inherited the ring and I’m in love with it!

Post # 44
297 posts
Helper bee

Fiance and I went to look at rings together for the sole reason of him wanting to know what kind and size ring I would want, when time came.  We both preferred it this way, because it’s a huge investment and he wanted to make sure I liked it; in turn, I wanted to absolutely love what I’d see on my finger everyday.  We ring shopped before he even knew when he would propose.  When he was ready, he went back to our jeweler and selected the stone and created the setting all on his own.

Post # 45
357 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

Yes, because he asked. I ended up choosing my center diamond and he chose the setting – perfect marraige of our ideas!

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