Did you tell your fiance what carat you want?

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 76
2509 posts
Sugar bee

I never had a chance – when SO and I had the talk regarding next steps, he asked me to build a pinboard for him. The next day, I invited him to it and he started pinning rings with very large stones + blingy halos.

I gently asked him that night how much he knows about rings to try to figure out if he understood the price tag on the rings he was pinning. He came right out and said, I know a lot about rings, I’m going to get you such and such size carat and spend such and such amount.

Thankfully, I’ve shaken him out of his blingy halo lusts lol! Nothing against blingy halos – I LOVE them on other people, but I personally love solitaires. 🙂

Post # 77
4877 posts
Honey bee

chachamaru :  I did not but I did go with him and pick the exact setting and exact stone with him.

Post # 78
582 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

No way. I was only concerned that he was going to ask and wanted to spend the rest of his life with me. I would also have said yes if you he used the metal thing from a bottle of champagne as a ring. I just want to be with him is all.

Post # 79
1549 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

chachamaru :  No, that would dictating how much money he would have to spend. I trusted my Darling Husband to pick something out for me.

Post # 80
903 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

My original e ring was a complete surprise,we had never discussed styles or sizes or anything of the like.  For my upgraded ring, I chose the diamond on my own with a budget we came to with together, so I guess that would count as me telling him what size I wanted lol. 

Post # 81
415 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

nickels :  No it doesn’t. Larger carat size does not always mean bigger price, since not everyone gets or wants a diamond. 🙂 I got a 3 ct morganite for approx $900, a diamond at that price would be a half carat or less.

Post # 82
2486 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

We shopped and bought it together. We agreed on what a good price would be for us (we both pitched in to pay for it, mostly because I would never let him buy me something so expensive on his own, I would feel too guilty). Originally I said I wanted .75, ended up getting a .9 because it was within budget and I thought it looked better on my finger.

Post # 83
2925 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

He set the budget (and wouldn’t tell me what it was) but we did shop together.  I had ideas about what size *I* liked but I did not tell him that I really wanted xxx size.  He got me a much bigger ring than I expected.

Post # 84
9608 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2016

Yeah, we talked about it.  I told him I was willing to give up a bit in color and clarity in exchange for carat.  We did just that.  I know most people are all about “quality over quantity!” but whatever. I wanted something that I liked proportional to my finger size, but still within our budget.

Now if only I could have convinced him to go with moissy I wouldn’t have had to compromise…. 😛

Post # 85
2816 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2015 - City, State

I did lmao. No shame in my game. 😂 I like the way bigger diamonds look (~1.5) & my fingers aren’t very small so it works. We upgrade to a better quality/slightly larger diamond so I’m very happy now!

Post # 86
32 posts
  • Wedding: June 2017

I gave him a range because I didn’t want anything too big since I have such small hands. I went to a jewelry store and tried on some larger cts and they looked almost gaudy on my small hand. Plus I would imagine they would get caught and snagged on everything. In the end, he did a great job picking a tasteful and beautiful ring. 

Post # 87
596 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

Not carat, but size.

My centre stone was always going to be an oval sapphire and a 3ct and a 1ct can look very very similar with sapphires. I tried on lots and knew that I was after an 8mm x 6mm. 

I was the one organising having the ring made with our jeweller and had her source stones in that size range for me. The stone I’ve ended up with is absolutely perfect in colour and just slightly smaller than my ‘wish list’ at 7.2mm x 5.5mm. It’s 1.27ct and I love it.

Post # 88
55 posts
Worker bee

Yes – we looked at rings together and mutually decided what would look proportionally right for my small fingers.

Post # 89
1257 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - victoria educational gardens

At the time we got engaged, he proposed without a ring and let me pick what I wanted. Then I only got what I semi-liked so now…5 years later I’m getting an upgrade to what my heart initially wanted in the beginning LOL I picked both rings out by myself but I did keep him involved in the process like what do you think of this or that.

Post # 90
224 posts
Helper bee

I didn’t tell him. I asked. I wanted a full carat at least. 

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