Did you tell your SO how you'd like to be proposed to?

posted 3 months ago in Engagement
Post # 16
1164 posts
Bumble bee


Post # 17
639 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2020

I told him to make sure I’ve eaten first. I am horrid when I am hungry. His laughing response was, “But you’re always hungry!” Lol. Bet that’s an excuse no one has ever used to delay a proposal.

We’re putting the ring into production tomorrow! 

Post # 18
96 posts
Worker bee

I’ve brought it up before when we’re watching movies with proposals. I.e. I jokingly said if he proposes with the ring in food, I’d probably accidentally eat it. I also have mentioned I dislike public proposals because I’d feel really embarassed. He hasn’t proposed yet, so I’m curious to see what he’ll come up with!

Post # 19
270 posts
Helper bee

I told him my dream proposal ages ago because he asked. He tried to make it happen but i resisted it so he thought on his feet and came up with something better and sweeter IMO. He managed to incorporate very thoughtful things about me/us. My fiancé is a very romantic guy though! 

Post # 20
517 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

I told him I didn’t want it to happen in front of family and friends or at a restaurant. He told me he thinks public, especially sporting event, proposals are the worst thing ever. 

So I knew it wouldn’t be at a restaurant, in front of our families, in public or at a sports game. He planned the rest! 

Post # 21
4132 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Only that I didn’t want a public proposal (no Jumbotron for me!). The rest he did on his own. 

Post # 22
200 posts
Helper bee

I have laid out some genral dos and don’ts ….like PLEASE NO big public display. I would like it to be in a place that is meaningful to us OR some place he wants to be meaningful. 

I have some dream ideas of course… but I don’t like telling people what to do and I won’t be disappointed if he isn’t on the same wavelength … what I want to see is his interpretation…that will be so exciting. 

Post # 23
1080 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

bakerbee09 :  That’s my birthday! A good day indeed 😉 

paigelove :  The only thing my husband and I discussed around the proposal was the ring and general timing (I was pretty sure he would propose that summer). 

We were in our hometown for the Fourth of July and he took me to a “Before I Die, I want to…” wall in our town (it’s where we both said “I love you” for the first time). We both wrote on opposite ends of the wall and when we were done writing, he covered my eyes and walked me over to his side. He told me to read the line 5th from the bottom, I turned and it said “Ask SO to marry me” and when I turned back to face him he was down on one knee holding out the perfect ring! He had his brother take a video/pictures (though the sun was at just the wrong angle to get a good clear shot lol) and then we got to celebrate our engagement with both our families at the local tradition fireworks show! Lucky to be married to this sweet, romantic man! 

Post # 24
1963 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre

No the only guidelines I gave him was that it had to happen after I graduated from college.

Post # 25
1029 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2020

paigelove :  Because I had so much involvement in the ring creation I wanted NOTHING to do with the plans for the proposal. It was important for me to let the engagement process be exciting for him as well so I left him to his own devices. He’s extremely creative and truly knows me inside and out, so the proposal that he planned was more than I could have ever hoped for. 

Post # 26
733 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: London, UK

Yep. I told him that I didn’t really want a ‘proposal’ at all, I didn’t see the point as we already knew we were going to get married and designed the ring together. But I told him that if it was important to him to formally ask, then I wanted it to be very low key, at home, nothing contrived, I didn’t want an ‘impressive’ or cheesy story to tell.

In the end we got ‘officially’ engaged by way of a conversation during which we decided mutually it was a good time to do so. He got down on one knee (at home, whilst we were eating dinner on a Tuesday night in front of the TV) and asked if I’d marry him. I said “You know I will” and then we carried on with dinner. 

Post # 27
162 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

We talked about our time line (we wanted to get married right after we both graduated from college, and I didn’t want to be engaged for longer than a year). I also told him I wanted the proposal itself to be a surprise, to which he responded, well of course!

Our proposal was so lovely, he did a great job. He picked out the ring himself, asked for my father’s blessing (I know that’s a very unpopular thing on this site, but it was important to my husband and me), scoped out a place beforehand in a garden, and made sure his sister, who’s a photographer, was there to capture the moment. I didn’t know about any of this, so when he took me on that date to the garden and asked me to marry him, I was truly surprised. I’m smiling as I type this, it was such a happy, beautiful moment for us both.

Post # 28
468 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

Yep, we definitely talked about it, and I helped pick out the ring. The thought of anything public or involving family made me want to cry. Also, I’m not the kind of person who does well with things that are INTENSELY cheesy/romantic (like my college boyfriend sang to me and I almost cried because I felt so awkward), so I didn’t want it to be too over-the-top. From there, he nailed it! He left work early on a Friday, and I came home to some wine and a big cheese plate (we’re cheese fanatics) with a cake for dessert. His speech was short and sweet and simple and didn’t make me cringe. 10/10 how I’d want to get engaged again, if he got a redo. 

It is funny to me though, the pressure for things to be so over the top these days. I swear that every person I announced my engagement to asked how he asked, expecting some dramatic show. 

Post # 29
335 posts
Helper bee

I have the ring, but haven’t made a formal proposal yet (saying “marry me” over little things doesn’t count).

I have asked some specifics, though; to get an idea of what she might want.  She wants a fuss, loves movies & big, romantic gestures.She always thought she’d be the one proposing… but I think it’s important to get her vision on how she’d like to feel.

Post # 30
3446 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

I told him we could skip the proposal so we did. He “proposed” about 9 months into our engagement the day he purchased my ring. We got into my bedroom and he got down on one knee and asked me to marry him and I said considering all the deposits we’d put down for the wedding already, yes, I would still be marrying him.

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