(Closed) Did you thank people who attended your wedding with no gift?

posted 6 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

No. You should only send a thank you note to those who gave you gifts.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I agree with PP. Thank you cards are for gifts.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Echoing Brielle–according to Ms. Post, you don’t need to send thank you letters to people unless they gave you gifts. It’s sort of like thanking people after they came over to your house for dinner! 

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

I used to work at Crate & Barrel, and some people truly believe that you have up to a year to give a wedding gift. So they may keep trickling in…

If you’d like to thank them for sharing the day with you, then go ahead, but it’s not an “etiquette must.”

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I think it would be a nice sentiment to acknoledge the fact that you enjoyed having them at your wedding. Thank you notes don’t HAVE to be for gifts. Then again I send thank you notes for lots of stuff. I just love snail mail.

As for appearing gift grabby, if they didn’t bring a gift to the wedding I don’t think that sending a thank you card will make them send you one. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Gifts are a definate get a thank you note, but just showing up? I dont think so. I agree with BothCoasts in this one.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Generally I think it would be nice to send a thank you for attending, even if they didn’t bring a gift. Many people spend money to travel in from out of town and it’s friendly to acknowledge that, even if that haven’t also brought a gift.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Yes, you send thank you cards to express your gratitude for them taking the time to help you celebrate your union.

Not Wedding Related – By The Way, I send thank you cards all the time for kind acts, not just gifts. For example, I just sent ones to my Future In-Laws for taking me to PT since I still can’t drive.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I will probably send TYs to everyone who attends regardless of gift but I’m having a Destination Wedding so I’m grateful they are paying to attend.  Otherwise, I don’t think you have to send TYs to those who didn’t gift.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I think it depends.  If someone is elderly and just coming was a challenge, I think it would be a nice gestuer.  Or if someone had to travel a long way, I think it would be fitting.  I’m having a destination wedding and plan to thank everyone who attends because I know they’ll have gone to a lot of trouble and their presence is a gift itself.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

We didn’t ask for gifts so we didn’t expect any gifts so we sent thank you cards to everyone that came with or without a gift.

 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

you thank them for sharing in your special day and being there for you. gifts are not be required (although, they are amazing!).

ok, for some reason, i thought u meant like a general thank you. that’s what i get for posting while at work. didn’t realize you were talking about thank you cards. those are for gifts. my bad, my bad.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

It’s my understanding that the reception is the thank you to people for attending – dinner, drinks, favors, etc. Thank you notes are for gifts.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Our guests are primarily out of town, our wedding is a Destination Wedding for all but us and maybe 10 people. I specifically said no gifts since they are coming to our wedding and that is costing them to do so, so we will be sending thank you’s to all who attend from out of town (and any who ignore the no gifts and get us something anyway.)

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