Did you upgrade your ring?

posted 3 months ago in Rings
  • poll: Did you upgrade your wedding set/ering?

    No - original

    Yes - after 1-5 years

    Yes - after 5-10 years

    Yes - after 10+ years

  • Post # 2
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

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    @lyni12:  I haven’t upgraded my ring and don’t have any plans to currently 

    Post # 3
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: Lake Tahoe, CA

    As you go through life you go through many stages in your marriage.  I have a husband who gifted me different rings for our 10, 15, & 20th anniversary, and I love and cherish them all them all because he bought them with love in his heart for me.  This past November my beloved hubby went through a very hard and life threatening surgery.   He surprised me at home for my birthday while he was recovering from his surgery and I certainly wasn’t expecting it at all. Out of the blue, he called me over to him and  put a vera wang diamond and sapphire wedding band on my wedding ring finger on my birthday.  When I’m at home, I don’t wear any jewelry except my rose gold wedding band.  He was recovering from surgery, and being home for my birthday was all I needed and prayed for.    So while I will always cherish my original wedding set, there are times when you may get other rings from the love of your life that matter just as much.  My diamond and sapphire band is certainly not the most expensive or exclusive piece of jewelry out there,but it is so beautiful and means the absolute world to me.  It is just as irreplaceable to me as my original wedding set.  I love everything he has given me.  Each piece he has given me has a special memory and each and every piece can never be replaced.  

    Post # 4
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    Helper bee

    I still have my original set, but I did upgrade the center stone in it. Still have the center diamond saved back, though. I also have several alternative diamond and moissanite sets, too. I’ve always loved jewelry, especially rings. My mom would switch up her set.  She loves rings just as much as I do.  My grandmothers didn’t really care about wearing rings, so they usually stuck to the same 2 or 3 rings (if any) because they weren’t interested in having any more. I guess it never really occurred to me to be sentimental to one set because the women closest to me didn’t do so.  I also didn’t have ANY say in picking out my original ring as DH totally surprised me when he proposed. He picked a very nice ring, but, since I love rings so much, I’ve always wondered if I’d still be wearing the same set if he’d taken me to pick it out. If I’m honest, though, I’d probably still switch it up. 

    Post # 5
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I did. Used a family stone at first then bought my own when we could. No shame in that game!

    Post # 6
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 1996

    I’m very sentimental about my original set, and I don’t want to change that in any way since we picked it out together.  But I do enjoy wearing other rings from time to time in their place.

    Post # 7
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2017 - A vineyard

    If by upgrade you mean got rid of the original to get a new one. Then no. My original is still sentimental to me. I could never get rid of it. I put it in a pretty box in a place of honour. I will probably offer it to my daughter or if I am lucky, granddaughter later on. But if you mean get another ring then yes I absolutely did upgrade.

    I have always dreamed of a sapphire ring since my first engagement. But lower enlisted don’t make bucks big enough for my preference. Luckily I had inherited a less than half carat diamond a year or two before meeting my husband so I offered it up as a solution since without it i would have no ring.

    Eventually we agreed I would get the ring I preferred someday and the inherited ring was not to be touched. He did try and make it in a style he felt was worthy of me… but our styles clash. Im more a solitaire girl and he’s more of a OMG UNICORN POOP AND HALOS EVERYWHARE type of person. So I wore it like a good wife because I love the man, not his money. And when we were more a little more comfortable he got me a lovely lab sapphire and an estate 3 stone ring with 2 mined side stones that will need some surgery that I just adore and am happy to wear the next 60 years once it’s had some parts replaced and straightened. This ring I wear now makes me very happy 😀  It was worth the wait.

    Post # 8
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

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    @lyni12:  Yep I upgraded, because we got married with wedding bands only and I eventually decided I’d like a set with a gemstone. So for our 5th wedding anniversary my husband got me a set with an “engagement” ring. For our 10th wedding anniversary he got me another set in a different metal/stone shape, because I love the sparkles and like options!

    Primarily I wear the 5th anniversary rings, but I also love to switch things up depending on my mood. I’ll probably get an eternity band (to wear alone, as a 4th set) for our 15th coming up. I also have thin eternity bands which I mix up with the two “engagement” rings now.

     Original (still love):

    First upgrade:

    Second upgrade (3 different rings):

    Possible 4th set:

    Post # 9
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Also just to add, when I first got married, like you, I couldn’t imagine wearing anything other than my original ring. But now after many many years I’m happy to have variety and also look forward to continually getting new sets for milestone anniversaries — it’s fun!

    Post # 10
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    Busy bee

    I agree, I had never heard of alternate rings/sets until this site. But I’d actually be more likely to consider that than getting rid of my engagement ring because 1) I’m sentimental, and 2) it’s called an engagement ring because it is what is presented at the engagement. I only know one person who upgraded. In high school, my friends dad re-proposed to his wife with all 4 children present in a special place to their family. I never noticed her original engagement ring, so I can’t tell you if it was modest or not, but they married right out of college and though their families had money he was just starting out. He went on to be very successful and 20 years later he wanted to get her something special.

    Post # 11
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    Yes, I don’t intentionally try to break norms at every corner, but sometimes the norms just don’t work for me.

    I narrowed down the ering choice to 3 rings, and last minute he worried it wouldn’t be special if it weren’t a complete surprise. He bought something totally different. Not my style, and it felt (unintentionally) dismissive of the 6months of ring shopping I’d done.

    Needless to say, my style has changed anyway, and I didn’t pick what I initially had really wanted (princess cut with halo and pave twisted band).

    Instead, this is my all out set. Half the time I wear only the blue diamond band or the ering with a plain band. I’ll probably continue adding to my rotation throughout my lifetime. Personally, I like choices and no one really notices your ring after engagement in my experience.

    Post # 12
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 1997

    My Dh surprised me with something new, but it was at 20 years of marriage. Like a PP mentioned, we didn’t have much when we got married, and Dh went on to be successful. It was a gift, like the original set (which I still have).

    Post # 13
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2021

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    @lyni12:   We did, but only because when we got engaged 3 years ago we could only afford a super inexpensive ring, so we had always planned to upgrade when we could. We upgraded my ring a year ago and I love it, but in all honesty, the first ring would have sufficed.

    My original was a cz soliatire set in 14ct yellow gold. I now have a cz halo – yes another cz (I personally didn’t want a diamond due to the cost), but of better quality, halo set in 14ct white gold. It’s beautiful and I love it but no way would I upgrade a ring again purely out of choice.

    Pear and Round Cut Halo Engagement Ring White Gold

    Post # 14
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2017

    I haven’t upgraded yet although I did inherit my grandmother’s wedding set and I will probably wear that sometimes instead. 

    Post # 15
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    Helper bee

    Yes, I actually have about 4 sets that I switch out regularly. I still have my original that I love and cherish, but I love shiny things and I can’t imagine wearing the exact same rings forever. My dad bought my mom a new ring every year for they’re anniversary, so I guess I come by it naturally. 

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