(Closed) Did you use a gift table sign?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
Hostess
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

We didn’t.. we had a card holder and that was pretty obvious.

Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

winterwoodlandbride15:  People who bring gifts to a wedding will usually look for an empty table. I would not label it a “Gift Table”.

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper

No signs.  I find them in poor taste. The  considerate thing to do is to send gifts ahead of time, so that the couple does not have to deal with them, but in reality the majority of our guests brought checks in cards and handed them to H. He gave them to one of the dads to lock up in a box down the hall. 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

Well, properly, no-one should be carrying parcels to any formal event. Wedding presents ought to be sent to the bride’s home prior to the wedding, or to the couple’s home following the wedding (and yes, I do realize that in 65% of cases nowadays those two homes have the same street address.) Anyone who brings an envelope to the reception should hand it directly to the groom, who will pass it along to the best man to take care of.

Those who do bring presents to a social event, ought to find a private opportunity to hand the gift to the hostess unobtrusively. However, the world is full of people who are afraid they will look like cheapskates unless they are seen by all present to be giving a wedding present, or have not negotiated the logistics of having a kitchenaid mixmaster delivered from the shop where it was bought — and it is arguably impossible to hand over a kitchenaid mixmaster unobtrusively.

A hostess must accomodate her guests graciously even if they do not know the rules of propriety. If you move in circles where people routinely bring packages to formal events, then you must be prepared by having somewhere to put them. The best solution is to have a staffmember (or trusted and generously helpful relative) standing by the door to greet guests and relieve them of their packages as they arrive, whisking the gifts away to a table in a secure storage room, ideally located off the main entryway. But I believe that those who routinely bring presents to weddings, also routinely look for a table to plonk them down on, so even in the absence of a greeter-and-present-handler at the door they should be able to find the gift table without needing a sign.

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