Post # 1
If I have a guest who goes by “Joe” I don’t have much hesitation to use the full name “Joseph” on the envelope. However, I have some guests who have NEVER gone by their ‘full legal’ name, and always go by a short nickname ex. Jim vs. James; Bill vs. William. I feel strange addressing them by their full name, and I’ve never heard anyone refer to them by their full name, however, I want my invites to be formal.
What did you do?
Post # 3
I did full legal names like so:
Joseph M. Smith III
123 Anywhere Street, Apartment No. 4
Post # 4
Ettiquette says use their full legal name. You are supposed to use people’s title also for ex. Dr. Melvin should be written out Doctor James Melvin. For formal invites everything gets written out down to the year and the state ……California instead of CA and two thousand ten instead of 2010.
Post # 5
I used people’s full legal names except in cases where we were really good friends with the person and knew they wouldnt want their full/legal name on there. For example – my best friend and bridesmaid’s name is Katelyn but she hates when people other than her family call her that so I addressed it to Kate! Other than scenarios like that we stuck with the full name
Post # 6
We used full legal names. They were quite formal invitations so we felt that was what was most appropriate. I would say you really can’t go wrong with using their full name.. it is their name after all.
Post # 7
We used the name they like to be called. The Fiance and I aren’t formal people.
Post # 8
Our wedding was casual, so I didn’t feel bad using nicknames. If it were more formal, I’d probably go with full names.
Post # 9
I did this on a case-by-case basis. Our invitations/wedding are quite formal, but there were still some cases where full legal name didn’t seem right. For example, we have family friends named Bev and Phil – my parents have known them forever and have never, ever, ever heard them referred to as Beverly and Philip – so we stuck with Bev and Phil. Using their full names when they never do would have seemed kind of…weird or affected.
Post # 10
Yep, if you want them to be formal, I’ve always heard you use their full name on the outer envelope, and can use nicknames on the inner envelope.
We intentionally stayed away from full names, but our wedding is also intentionally NOT that kind of a formal affair. I think some of my FMIL’s older friends might have been peeved at it, hahaha… because we got back RSVPs from all of them with their full names spelled out. For the record, I used names exactly the way she gave them to me, which in at least once case meant it was misspelled (according to the RSVP that came back). Oh well!