Post # 1
I really have no idea if having a bridal shower is worth it. I dont plan on having one unless my Maid/Matron of Honor and BM’s plan one for me. SHould I give my guest list to her and to one of my main Aunts and a BM? Or wait until she asks for it?
Problem is we arent very close. My Maid/Matron of Honor is a Future Sister-In-Law. And no Im really not that close to people these days.I had a best friend in KS, but after my family moved, Ive never been that close to another friend. Im like a hermit.lol So I really dont think she will ask for the guest list because of that.
And then, Im concerned that alot of the people they would invite are Out of Town guests. So they wouldnt even come.And the family who is in town are mostly male cousins.Would you go to a wedding shower if you lived a hundred miles away??
I have been to several weddings and not once was there a wedding shower. I guess I see no reason to have one and think that its another extra that people think you should have for a wedding. Would you have a wedding shower even though you have never known anyone who had one, besides people online(:))??
What do u think bees?
Post # 3
i would give it to here and leave it up to her. My bridal shower is next saturday and Im super excited to have one….it a good time to celebrate before the wedding.
Post # 4
I would probably not give it to my Maid/Matron of Honor unless she asked. Also, I don’t really think a shower results in more gifts. When I am invited to a wedding I have in mind that I will speend a given amount. If there is a shower I divide this amount and get two gifts equal to that amount (i.e. a $50 shower gift and a $75 wedding gift) but if there is no shower then I get one larger gift (i.e. a $125 wedding gift). In other words, you would get the same amount from me. I think most people are like this.
Post # 5
What about a couples shower?? Then you could invite the guys too
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Post # 8
I would wait until someone asks. I would feel as if I was expected to though the shower if the bride was giving me a guest list. And, although it is sort of their duty to throw the pre-wedding showers and parties, (and assuming you don’t really care about having a shower) I wouldn’t want to put it on someone who isn’t the the position of throwing one.
You still have a lot of time before your wedding, could it be that they haven’t really thought about showers yet? Also have you talked to a family memeber (mom?) about it? My aunt volunteered to throw my shower almost the minute I got engaged! So my bridal party isn’t really going to be involved.
Post # 9
I would wait until someone asks for the guest list. Also, for what it’s worth, I have, at times (depending on how close I am to the bride), sent a gift when I was invited to an Out of Town shower that I could not attend.