(Closed) Did you wait to finish school/career change before getting engaged?

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 31
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Helper bee

Age is playing a factor in our decision.  We are 30 and 32.  I recently had a health issue and a career change…. so now I’m unemployed and back in school to change careers.

Things we need to accomplish, not in order. just all at the same time: 1. get married 2. start having babies 3. save up money for a down payment for a house 4. buy a house 5. Finish my schooling 5. find a job for me……..  so stressful!

My biological clock just wins out on this. If I were younger, I would feel that I have the flexibility to plan this out better. 

Post # 32
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2018 - Omaha, NE

We’re waiting until I’m done with college, mostly because we can’t afford a wedding until I get a real job with my degree 🙂 We want to get married but we also have bills to pay and we want a nice wedding for our family and friends, which just can’t happen with bills to pay and a student’s part-time salary…

Post # 33
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Helper bee

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nzurikabisa:  We couldnt wait lol.. I’m waiting to start my masters program and he is finsihing up his engineering bachelors.  We got engaged in December with the idea of getting married when he graduates in 2016.  Now we are getting married in September!  I’m not someone who wants a super lavish wedding to begin with mine is costing about 5 grand.  If we werent getting married in September I’m pretty sure wed be running off to Vegas to elope, were just too damn excited.  

Post # 34
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Blushing bee

We didn’t wait. We figure love triumphs all so we got engaged halfway through my nursing course. Worked out well, I am finished the course and we are almost finished with all our planning and payments for the wedding with 15 months to go. I’ll prob apply for my masters next year too. 

Fi has just started a new course for a career change to nursing last month AND we are ttc. Bit crazy at this end but loving life haha

Post # 35
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

We’re not waiting to get engaged until we’re done with school but we are waiting to seriously plan the wedding until we’re done. I don’t think I could handle class and student teaching and wedding planning, and he’s fine with a long engagement! I will finish at least one semester before him so Im sure I’ll get a little antsy while he’s still in school lol!

Post # 36
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

But he might want to move out of state for grad school and we definitely want to be married for that, so that plays a role in not waiting. 

Post # 37
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Newbee

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MrsKolache:  We’ve got a similar strategy. We got engaged about a month before I’m moving out of state to start my PhD program. We’ll be doing a long distance engagement (he can’t move because of his job and we want to settle down in this area anyway). We haven’t decided on an exact timeline but we’re thinking 2-3 years before the wedding – I want to wait to set the timeline until I get started in my program and get a feel for what it will be like to juggle classes, research, clinical work, and wedding planning! I’m also not a huge fan of the idea of starting our marriage long-distance, so I’m leaning toward waiting until I am back home for my internship year rather than getting married with a year left out of state. 

Post # 38
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

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nzurikabisa:  Nope, DH proposed to me towards the end of my placement for school. I hadn’t officially graduated yet and I did not have a job. Lol… winning!

It worked out well though. Within the next year before the wedding (We were engaged for a year and 5 days) we bought a house, and I started my career (almost right away which is really lucky for my line of work). Of course it could have gone another way, but I’m happy with the way things happened and we didn’t put our life on hold. 🙂

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