(Closed) Did you wait to lose weight to go dress shopping?

posted 8 years ago in Dress
Post # 17
1477 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@FutureMrsT1221:  I knew I wanted to lose some pounds before the wedding, but our engagement is only 7 months, so being how long dresses take to come in, no, I did not wait. Had I had a year plus engagement, I may have waited, but some dresses take longer than others, so I don’t know. 

Post # 18
565 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I would say maybe set yourself a goal of 10-15 lbs loss and then start trying on dresses. You have a good amount of time but generally once you get closer to your goal weight you start plateauing so reaching your goal could take a little but longer than you have but the first 10-15 are generally faster to come off.

 I started a weight loss journey, I guess you could call it, back in January so I was already trying to make a lifestyle change and I’m not losing just for the wedding my intention in to keep it off for life. When my Fiance proposed at the very end of July I had lost 30 lbs but my ultimate goal is to loose 50-60 depending on where I feel most comfortable and what is the easiest to maintain. Anyway I am waiting until I loose 10 more lbs to try on dresses for 2 reasons: 1. it’s good to set mini goals for yourself so that the end goal isn’t so overwhelming and this way trying on dresses will be my mini goal reward and 2. I don’t want to pay too much for alterations lol.  

Post # 19
200 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2019

@MrsBtoBe14: +1


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@FutureMrsT1221:  We are built a lot alike and I made the decision not to wait to try on dresses. My fiancé loves me the way I am and if I didn’t lose any weight he’d still be so happy to marry me. The nice part is if you order at the size you are now, when or if you lose weight it is easier to alter the dress down! I ended up ordering a size 16 ( for my girls and stomach) and have lost about five lbs since ordering ! Congrats

Post # 20
757 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

OP, we have similar stats (my old ones vs. yours, anyway, not my current ones)!

I’m also 5’4 and muscular and have round thighs and a booty. People always guess I weight a lot less than I actually do, so I guess I carry my weight okay. In college, I fluctuated a lot… my highest-ever weight was 165, and my lowest weight was 140, at which I looked really good. My “normal” weight was about 150.

But then the year after college, I ballooned up to 200, and then was pregnant for 12 weeks, and was miserable and all I wanted was ice cream and I went up to 215.

This year I’ve slowly lost weight and gotten down to 180 without working out. Now I’m doing intense cardio and weight lifting every day to try to get to the 150s by Christmas time, when I’ll be dress shopping and having my engagement pictures taken. I know that seems like a lot of weight to lose in a short amount of time, but I can lose weight quickly when I’m really working hard at it… I lost 35 this year without working hard at all haha! I just feel like I won’t be comfortable enough with my body until I’m in the 150s again, and if I’m not comfortable that will show in the photos, and I’ll hate the photos anyway, and it will definitely impact the dress shopping experience in a negative way.

I just really want to be able to choose a dress based on what I want to wear as a bride, not what I want to wear as someone who is body-conscious. You only get one dress and one day to wear it, you know? And then I can continue to lose weight until the wedding in late August and just have it taken in :). I’m shooting for 130, but I might even be able to achieve 120!

Anyway, best of luck on your weight loss journey, and feel free to PM me if you want to chat or just support each other through weight loss :)!

Post # 21
7111 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I would shop and buy your dress based on where the weight you’re at when you need to get your dress. If you’re ordering you’ll want to have 9-12 months for the dress to come in and alterations. So I’d start looking. If it looks good now, it’ll just look better when you lose weight, and it’s always easier to take in than to let out.

Post # 22
203 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Although I plan on losing a significant amount of weight (approx. 40 lbs), I started looking at dresses before I started trying to diet/exercise. My rationale was that if a dress could make me feel awesome even at the higher weight, then maybe the weight loss process would be less stressful. I found my dress but didn’t purchase it yet because I don’t want them to have to alter it majorly/practically reconstruct the dress. I plan on buying in December when I will have lost (hopefully) 20-30 pounds. 

Post # 23
1762 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@FutureMrsT1221:  Nope…I tried on dresses at my earliest opportunity and am glad I did since it’s going to end up taking about 10 months for mine to arrive. But I am happy with my weight and don’t plan on losing a whole lot before the wedding. I am 125 lbs and would like to drop down to 116 or 117 but when I mentioned that to Fiance he kinda freaked out and said he loves me just the way I am and begged me not to lose any. I may just work on toning up in the new year. 

Post # 25
36 posts
  • Wedding: April 2014

No, I went shopping a year before because my mom was in town (she lives in another state). I was at my heaviest weight ever and thus really dreading the experience. I have to say that I was pleasantly surprised…wedding dresses are so well constructed that they really shave off the pounds. While I am also on a quest to lose 30 lbs (at the halfway mark now!), I would genuinely feel great in it even without any weight loss.

Now I wish all my clothes could have a built-in corset…LOL.


Post # 26
401 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I planned to shop before hand, but not order until I had lost the weight, but it hasn’t really worked out. I’m getting down to the wire to order my dress, and I haven’t managed to lose any weight yet 🙁

I have tried on some dresses now though, and I can say, it went better than I thought. I thought I was going to feel depressed about how big I look, but wedding dresses are built to be flattering and there were quite a few I felt good in at my current weight! I’m still hoping to lose before the wedding, but I’m going to just have to buy at my current size and alter if the dress is too big when it comes in.

Post # 27
97 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I lost some of the weight before buying my dress, around 18 lbs. I still have another 15 to go.

The lowest weight I”ve ever been was 140 which is what I am now. So I decided to get to atleast that point because realistically I’m already 41 and not sure if I will ever see 125 on the scale. Come Jan I am planning to push hard to lose atleast 10 more, which shouldn’t be much to alter I think.


Post # 28
2315 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Honestly, I don’t think I realised that I needed to/wanted to lose weight before I saw myself in a wedding dress. That’s when it dawned on me that I’d put on a few kilos since Fiance and I met. I’m also 5’4, and currently at my heaviest ever – 147. For comparison, I was 110 before I started working a super-stressful job. I used to be one of those ‘naturally skinny’ people and as a result, never developed good food/exercise habits…which is making shedding that weight really hard.

Anyway, so no – I didn’t wait to lose weight before I went dress shopping, but I think if you have enough time then it’s not a bad idea. I think if you want to lose weight for the wedding, then going in at or close to your ideal weight when trying dresses will give you a better idea of what you’ll look like on the day. If you’re heavier than you’d like, it may also affect the dresses that you choose and what you think you can or can’t pull off, style-wise.

Post # 29
3479 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

If losing weight is your goal, the sooner the better! I’d lose before you try on dresses. You will feel much more confident and have many more options for the dresses. You will also get a more accurate sizing.

good luck!!!

Post # 30
2354 posts
Buzzing bee

I didn’t, I my weight hasn’t changed significantly these past months but I must say I always put around 5 more during winter. I’ll just wait for the alterations, until I’m back to my stable weight. 

But in your case though OP, 30 pouds can make you order a dress that’s 1 or 2 sizes smaller than your current size. I would try to lose at least 10-15 pounds before going, the first pounds are usually easy to lose (sometimes it’s water bloating more than fat anyway), because altering a dress that’s 2 sizes over is doable but I would think it’s more expensive.

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