Post # 1
My father isn’t coming to our Destination Wedding wedding. Over the phone my stepmother said they were coming, we discussed attire and where they were going to stay. I called again after the invitations were sent and on Father’s Day, Sunday. On Monday I got thier RSVP with the Regrets checked… While I understand they aren’t coming, the approach was less than tactful.
My back up was my brother would walk me down the aisle, but now he cannot make it. Which again I understand, and I am tapped out finacially as far as helping 🙁
I just can’t decide how to order the processional now. I have my Maid/Matron of Honor, a Jr. Bridesmaid and a flower girl. Then theres the Best Man and one Groomsmen, both Fiance and my mother and then of course me. I thought about going alone, then about having my Fiance meet me halfway. I am just having a hard time picturing it in my head!
Any feedback is apprecitated 🙂
Post # 3
It depends on the relationship you have with her, but in that case I would walk with my mom.
Post # 4
I’m sorry. That sounds like a painful situation. Any option is fine, in my opinion. What feels best to you? At our wedding my wife walked with a close friend whom she considers her brother. I chose to walk by myself. We were both really happy with how it worked out.
Post # 5
@cowoman: Thanks 🙂 I am leaning towards walking alone, but I also like the idea of him meeting me halfway.
Post # 6
I’m walking down alone. Relationship with my dad is less than stellar.
Post # 7
I’ve seen a lot of brides walk alone or with others. The only thing I haven’t seen is a bride walk with her Fiance. Either way I think it’ll matter much more to you than anyone else so just do what feels right!
Post # 8
my dad just bailed on me, and my mom doesn’t walk very good, so I’ll most likely just walk alone. I’m ok with it though, I don’t really need to be “given away” I’m almost 30 with two kids lol
Post # 9
I’m having both my parents walk me down…but I’ve been to a wedding where a bride’s mother walked her, another where her brother did…and a third where the bride and groom walked together.
Of the weddings I went to where they did something less traditional, I thought the bride and groom walking together was the best, honestly. It really showed that they were in it together–and that they supported one another. It was VERY sweet.
Post # 10
My dad passed away so I also don’t have him to walk me down the aisle. I think I will have my step-dad or brother do it. But if I didn’t have them as options, I’d probably ask my mom.
Post # 11
While my situation is a bit different because my father has passed, I think that I will have my mom walk me down the aisle. I just feel like if I were to go it alone everyone would feel bad for me, which is definitely not what I want as I walk down the aisle! No one can replace my father so I don’t want to bring in an uncle or other male figure in my life.
I’m definitely not ruling out meeting Fiance half way, but I’ve honestly never seen it done — does anyone have any video footage of this anywhere? I think it would be nice for my mom to escort me and FI’s mom to escort him and for us both to meet in the middle all together as Fiance and I have both lost our fathers in the last two years and we are both only children so it would be a nice way to show our new family in a positive light. Not sure if moms can make it down the aisle without bawling though!
Post # 12
I love love love the look of a bride walking alone – such elegance, confidence and a feeling like she is an independant, free woman. I really wanted to walk alone, but I felt bad and had my dad walk wiht me. He totally ruined the experience for me and I wish I could have walked alone.
Post # 13
You can walk with anyone you want…or no one at all 🙂 YOUR day 🙂
We (bride and groom) will be walking down the aisle together. My dad is deceased and he doesnt want me to walk alone 🙂
Post # 14
My father will be on the cruise ship; but, there’s no telling if he will be at my wedding. Long story: Basically, he’s never been to any of my siblings weddings because he didn’t agree with their spousal choices, premarital sex, or living together before marriage. Yeah strict Catholics who forget about Love and Forgiveness! Either way, I have plenty of other male family members who would be willing to walk me (uncles, nephews, etc); but, would be apprehensive if my father was in attendance. So I’m walking myself down the aisle and might have my FH meet me halfway so we can walk together the rest of the way.
Post # 15
@gemchick82: I really like the idea of meeting halfway! I’m sorry to hear about your dad tho 🙁
Post # 16
@badabing88: im sorry to hear about your dad. I think it’s great you’re waking together!
@stargurl101: I love the idea also, but I really don’t know if I will make it alone! Lol
@CelticBeachBride: you’re right about it showing we’re in toy together. I really like the point it makes!!!
@chanara: I am in the same boat! My fiancé is 34 and I will be 30 this year. Plus I have two kids and this is both of ours second marriage! If my dad was coming I would want him to do the honors. But I think given the situation, my Fiance meeting me halfway would really show that we are in it together. Ha ha, and also my mom would probably cry the whole way!