(Closed) Did you want opinions for your wedding?

posted 4 years ago in Beehive
Post # 2
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2076 posts
Buzzing bee

If you are paying for it then you don’t have to get anyone involved.  Well except your Fiance.  His/her opinion should matter and be taken into account.  But if you don’t want any input or opinions from anyone then try to refrain from talking about your wedding.  Becasue once you say “oh we are thinking of doing this” or “we have decided to use these flowers” you open yourself up to opinions/comments.

Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

misskitty90:  Not wrong,but maybe a little unrealistic.People are going to share their opinions whether you ask for them or not. I’m betting you have likely shared an opinion or two yourself, regarding someone else’s ideas in the past.

The thing is, you don’t have to let those opinions upset you or even change your mind. Acknowledge  what people say, then make up your own mind. “Thanks for the idea. We’ll take it into consideration.”

 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

ME! 

With the exception of a few whose opinions and input I truly value (FI, mom, etc.), I really don’t want anyone else to give their opinion. I made an exception concerning food and whenever I was around guests (family functions, birthdays, whatevever) I asked for their input because I really want guests to enjoy what they eat, but everything else? No. I understand it’s my wedding and no one truly cares about my day the way I do and I just didn’t want anyone messing with my mojo, lol. I could talk about it for hours and I get other don’t want to so I just chose to keep mostly to myself and WB! No regrets so far.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I want absolutely ZERO opinions. I think for the most part on here, I’ll ask about logistical issues that I don’t know how to solve, like changing my name, or family issues that I’m at a loss on. Otherwise, I can do all of the research and planning and whatnot myself, thankyouverymuch. You’re not wrong at all– to some people, getting everyone involved is a lot of fun. To me, it’s hugely stressful. I’m open to suggestions when it comes to things that I don’t have an opinion on yet, like centerpieces, but on other things I know exactly what I do and don’t want and don’t want to deal with people telling me that I should do something else (unless what I want is impractical or something.) So don’t worry– do your wedding your way.

Post # 6
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672 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

I’m doing almost everything myself as well and don’t care for other people’s opinions. I’ll ask for advice when I need it, but design/style stuff…I know what I want. Other people’s opinions are for other people’s weddings!

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee

misskitty90:  That sounds normal to me!!! I wanted opinions sometimes when I was torn between things, but for the most part I was happy to just pick stuff out and not hear if someone disagreed. But, like most people working hard at something, I also wanted praise for all my efforts. So I showed lots of pix of stuff I was doing to my besties, but I expected them to react the way a woman reacts to a friend texting her a baby pic of her newborn. Nobody is supposed to react anything other than “Awwww! So Cute!” or “Love what you did with that mason jar!”

Unless I specficially asked in a way such as “Hmmmmm does this bolero flatter my arms?” Then the recipient of text can say “Hmmm, maybe one more like this?” and has an opportunty to express their opinion.

But generally, did I have a lot of input unless I asked for it? No, I was happy to plan and pick all on my own. So to me, that is normal. I didn’t need a lot of input from my family or my husband on much, of course I wanted the bridesmaids to say they liked the bridesmai dress (they were paying for them after all) and I wanted my husband to help me pick out music and ceremony stuff. He was happy to leave a lot of decor to myself as well as about 97 percent of choices 😛 

Post # 8
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2852 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

Im 100% like this, I dont want anyones opinion on anything, besides my FI’s. If I show someone something I’ve chosen for the wedding I dont want their opinion. Just say you like it or dont say anything at all.

Post # 9
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9588 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

I am a very decisive person with a style background professionally so I knew exactly what I wanted. I would nod and smile and use Jules line for most unwanted advice. If they were really insistent I’d get my point across with humor and say “well you can feel free to put your comments in the comment box” with a big smile 🙂

Post # 10
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39 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: A backyard

My family and Fiance family and many of our friends ae… very opinionated. There fore we have decided to not include any of them except my Maid/Matron of Honor (better friend then my sister) and just telling them what we have decided. its so much easier and I am so much less stressed!!its awesome! I just went out and picked my dress with only the opinion of the gals at the store, and its exacly what I want. (I also was super clear about my price range and they were very supportive and didnt even try and upsale) 

They also commented I was the most relaxed bride they had ever met, win! Trust your gut. Its like collecting art. pick what you guys want and it will some together, even if it doesnt seem like it in the begining, it will come together because its YOU. 

But Im also having a nacho bar and dinosaurs on my cupcakes. so take it at face value

“Never trust anyones opinion you wouldn’t trade places with” Was the BEST advice I ever recieved.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee

Hmmm…if I was currently planning a wedding, I would want an opinion on the dress from my sister to whom I am super close…other than that, nope…dont care to hear from others.

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