Did you/would you ring shop together, or have it be a surprise?

posted 9 months ago in Rings
  • poll: Ring shop, or surprise?
    Shop rings together and purchase right then and there and then just wait for proposal. : (15 votes)
    42 %
    Shop to get sized & show him styles you like, let him choose the ring another time and surprise you : (14 votes)
    39 %
    Tell him what you do/don't like in a ring, have the rest be completely up to him : (6 votes)
    17 %
    Don't give hints, just let him surprise you one day. : (1 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 2
    2758 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    We bought it together! As I will be wearing it on my finger every day for the rest of my life, I seriously wanted to have a say in what it looked like (especially because I had somewhat unusual taste). I didn’t have to wait long for the proposal though, he asked me the next night.

    Post # 3
    3086 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2006

    I picked #1 because it’s the closest, but I didn’t wait for a proposal. We bought the ring and I just started wearing it as soon as it got back from being sized. I dont understand the hype of getting a ring and KNOWING they have it and needing it to be this big elaborate ordeal. 🤷🏻‍♀️

    Post # 4
    118 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: February 2020 - Breckenridge, CO

    I chose mine and he bought it with me knowing. My proposal was a surprise though! I waited over a year after he bought the ring. Ugh. 

    Post # 5
    27 posts
    • Wedding: City, State

    We went shopping together and I picked out a few styles that I liked, and then Darling Husband went back on his own to make the final purchase. 

    Post # 6
    145 posts
    Blushing bee

    We bought it together.  He proposed when we were on vacation in Victoria. It was a total surprise. He wanted me to chose my ring. He thought I wanted an emerald and he was having a hard time finding one that he knew I would like. He was right. I do love emeralds but decided on a diamond. What was important to him was that we buy the ring in Victoria.

    Post # 7
    765 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2019

    ysel :  I chose #1 as it was the closest. We went ring shopping together and tried on different styles. I later sent him a link to the ring I wanted and he ordered it online in his own time as he wanted to do the proposal his way. He wanted me to pick the ring as he knows I have very specific criteria in most things so he preferred I select it. 

    Post # 8
    706 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2018 - UK

    michellelynn9175 :  Same here. We bought the ring together, it was my size so I started wearing it right away. We didn’t do a proposal, I don’t understand knowing he has a ring but still having to wait either, I’d never even heard of that concept until I joined these forums. 

    Post # 9
    543 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2018

    He proposed without a ring and we went shopping together afterwards to buy one. He knew I wanted an emerald. We only went to one shop (they were having a sale) and bought it from there.

    I’d always wanted to visit Hatton Garden, so we went there together the following year to look for wedding bands.

    Post # 10
    3545 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 29th, 2016

    ysel :  My husband asked me what kind of ring I wanted and my size when we talked about our ideal timeline for getting married. I didn’t have answers to either of those questions and that’s what prompted me to join this site as well as shop around. So I did most of my research on my own, first online and then in stores to get sized and try things on. Once I figured out what I wanted, I told him and sent him pictures, and he took it from there! I had no idea that he had my ring made when he did and he proposed a bit sooner than I anticipated so it was an amazing surprise 🙂 

    Post # 11
    208 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2019 - Mountains

    I gave him an idea of what I wanted. He then bought a ring that he could return in 30 days- he insisted that he wanted a real ring- I told him a ring pop or blade of grass tied around my finger would be fine. After he proposed we returned the ring he initially bought as a fill-in and then went shopping. I definitely wanted a ring I wanted. I know myself well enough to know that if I left it all up to him that my ‘surprise’ may not be a good one.

    Post # 12
    1218 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2019

    We went and got sized together, then I sent him some examples and details of rings I like. He designed the ring on his own and has purchased it, so now I’m just playing the waiting game lol.

    Post # 13
    192 posts
    Blushing bee

    Went in to try them on, get sized and give him some options to choose from. I can’t stress enough how important it is to try the rings on! I wound up hating a lot of things I thought I’d love.


    I have no clue if he’s bought a ring yet. All I know is that the proposal will be by the summer, and I quite like it that way.

    Post # 14
    27 posts
    • Wedding: November 2019

    I designed the ring myself and had the company send him the invoice. I had a very specific idea in mind so it required some customization.

    I know the date the ring will be delivered. We are “engaged” as we have a venue and date already booked. I still would like some sort of proposal story though so I know he is planning something a little romantic once the ring comes in.

    Post # 15
    322 posts
    Helper bee

    We went ring shopping together, I picked out exactly what I wanted, once it was made I wore it right away! The ladies at the store kept hinting that they should call him when it’s done or trying to give it to him at the pick up and I was like guuurl I’m not waiting any damn longer for this ring lol

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