(Closed) Did you write your own vows? Looking for some inspiration!

posted 4 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
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Honey bee

My daughter didn’t do a standard vow structure – like “for better and for worse.” She basically wrote a narrative of 4 paragraphs and read it. She cried a lot through it and it was very heartfelt and sincere. 

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

These were my two inspirations: 

[ANNA], on our first date we [ACTIVITY WE PERFORMED ON OUR FIRST DATE] and I felt [ACCOMPANYING EMOTION].

Over the next few months, we [RELEVANT ACTIVITY(S) FROM OUR EARLY DATING LIFE] and I realized [WHATEVER YOU REALIZED AFTER DATING ME FOR A WHILE].

And then everything got awesome.

You are my [SERIOUS THING] and [SILLY THING], my number-one [VERY SILLY THING] and future [THING THAT IS EITHER SILLY OR SERIOUS], the [SAY MANY MORE THINGS HERE ABOUT WHAT I AM TO YOU, MOST OF WHICH CAN BE SILLY, BUT SOME OF WHICH CAN BE SERIOUS TOO].

And I vow, going into our lives together as man and wife, to be [WILD CARD — THROW WHATEVER YOU WANT IN HERE, OR LEAVE THIS LINE OUT ENTIRELY].

I vow to love you as you deserve to be loved: with admiration, adoration, passion, pragmatism and respect, and to treat you like the [WOMAN] that you are, even when you’re [PERFORMING UNWOMANLY ACTIVITY].

I vow to support your interests and nourish your passions: from [ANNA INTEREST OR PASSION #1], to [ANNA INTEREST OR PASSION #2], to [ANNA INTEREST OR PASSION #3], up to and including [TRULY OUTRAGEOUS ANNA INTEREST OR PASSION] and [OTHER TRULY OUTRAGEOUS ANNA INTEREST OR PASSION].

I vow to remain loyal to you physically, emotionally and spiritually.

I vow to take you seriously when you need to be taken seriously, and to laugh with you the rest of the time: because [REASON IT MAKES SENSE FOR US TO SPEND MORE TIME BEING SILLY THAN SERIOUS].

I vow to take care of you when you are [STATE THAT WOULD REQUIRE CARETAKING #1], [STATE THAT WOULD REQUIRE CARETAKING #2], or [STATE THAT WOULD REQUIRE CARETAKING #3], or just when you forget to take care of yourself. [SAY SOMETHING KIND OF FUNNY ABOUT ME NEEDING YOU TO TAKE CARE OF ME HERE. JOKES ARE ACCEPTABLE.]

I vow to create a household and raise children with you as partners and as equals, and [SOMETHING KIND OF FUNNY ABOUT OUR FUTURE FAMILY].

I vow to [VERB] every [NOUN] you [VERB], [VERB] every [NOUN] you [VERB], and [VERB] every [NOUN] you [VERB] — even the ones that are [ADJECTIVE].

I vow to remain your [WHATEVER YOU WANT TO REMAIN TO ME], creating [GOOD NOUN] from [OPPOSITE, BAD NOUN], [VERB-ending-in-ING] [PLURAL NOUN] and [VERB-ending-in-ING] [PLURAL NOUN] that will make our lives [ADJECTIVE] or at least [OTHER ADJECTIVE].

And I vow to remain by your side as we grow old, to [OLD FOLKS ACTIVITY #1], [OLD FOLKS ACTIVITY #2], and [OLD FOLKS ACTIVITY #3].

[ANNA], you are not only [ADJECTIVE OR NOUN DESCRIBING HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT ME] but also [EVEN MORE AWESOME ADJECTIVE OR NOUN DESCRIBING HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT ME], and that is not something to be taken lightly. I love you [OPTIONAL QUANTITATIVE MEASURE OF LOVE], and I can’t wait to [THING YOU CAN’T WAIT TO DO WITH ME, KEEP IT CLEAN BECAUSE YOU WILL BE SAYING THIS IN FRONT OF OUR FAMILIES].

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I promise to always leave the lights on in the bathroom
I promise to mysteriously take three hours to make a simple omelet
I promise to create a life for us of unexpected and strange adventures
I promise that I will love you
I pledge to listen to your advice, and occasionally take it
I pledge to never take score… even if I’m totally winning
I pledge to always admire your huge, strong, kind and determined heart
I pledge that I will love you
I vow to listen, for as long as it takes for you to feel heard
I vow to watch in awe as you kick ass and take names
I vow to be your unrelenting cheer squad on the days it feels too much
I vow that I will love you
I believe that ‘Julie time’ is an actual concept, that can be proven by science
I believe that carefully folded socks make you happy
I believe there is no time or place I’m more content than when you’re close
Because of this and so, so much more… I believe and know that I will always love you.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

Thrburko89:  that is actually super helpful! Thank you for sharing!

We just received the text of our ceremony from our celebrant and I freaked out when I saw a section for personal vows. My SO is really excited about it, so I feel terrible that I’m so stuck! The wedding isn’t until the end of September so I have some time thankfully.

I’d also love to see other people’s ideas!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

We’re writing our own vows (mine are done, Fiance hasn’t even started), here’s mine:

Today is mostly an ordinary day – the sun rose, babies were born, people slept in, and we just so happen to be getting married.

But the not-so-ordinary part is how we are making promises to each other for the rest of our days, no matter how ordinary or unusual they may be.

So I promise to you:

To forget to turn the lights off or close the kitchen cabinets

To always laugh with you and try to never go to bed angry

To comfort you in times of sorrow, including tough Royals, Chiefs, and Jayhawks seasons

To never use a recipe when making diner

To always do my best to listen to what you have to say, even when I don’t agree with you

To leave my keys hanging in the door

To support your dreams and goals

To take care of you when you are sick and to always make you eat your vegetables

To spend the rest of the my life rehashing the same argument with you over and over

To get so old with you that our clothes are considered retro

But most of all, I promise to love you, under any circumstances: happy or sad, easy or difficult, through the sunshine and through the rain for the rest of my days.

 

I decided to go the funny route with a little weepy at the end.  Nothing like a little levity!

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper

Your vows are supposed to be the solomn promises that you are vowing forever in front of god and man. When you include silly promises that you obviously aren’t going to keep, it devalues the real ones. Sorry, but I cringe when I hear stuff like that at weddings and it makes me wonder if they even know what a vow is. Also, vows are not a story. “When we met at that party…..” is not a vow. “I love you more than…” is not a vow. Keep it simple and think about what you really seriously are promising. Your wedding ceremony is not the time to try your hand at stand-up. Just think about what you really are promising for the rest of your life. If you’re not still going to be doing it in 20 or 50 years, it doesn’t belong in your vows.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015 - Malibou Lake Mountain Club

xstitchgal75:  i wrote my own vows for our upcoming wedding. i just meditated on what my Fiance has given to me; and wrote down those gifts he has given me since he met me (not material of course), and what i hope i can do, give, commit to him.

Post # 8
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Helper bee

Daisy_Mae:  Where is there a universal rule book telling people what to say in their vows? What a rude comment, completely disrespectful and not relevant to the question asked as you didn’t  bother your share your vows like OP asked.

There are many ways you could have phrased this to get your point across without being nasty.  How about “I want to make sure my vows are something I can maintain for 20-50 years, so my Fiance and I are saying (insert your vows here).

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

Christina1015:  Thank you! I worked hard on my vows, and I think they are a good reflection of us, our relationship, and add a touch of realism of the little things that are annoying and endearing.  It makes me sad when people say they devalue the promises we are making.  Why can’t our wedding be fun, and funny?  (And I am 100% certain that unless door locks become a thing of the past, I will probably be leaving my keys in the door until the day I die.)

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