Did you/are you planning to include your parents names in the invitation?

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 16
1205 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

We did “together with their families, courtney and Austin……”

Post # 17
11947 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

Invitations are issued by the host or hosts. However, that is not necessarily limited to just those who pay. The honor can also given in recognition of all parents have done to get you to this day, or to parents who help plan and host guests. Conversely, those who pay are not always on the invitation.

Personally, if the relationship is good, I think it can be a gracious gesture to include them. 

Post # 18
1572 posts
Bumble bee

We didn’t mention parents or families,…. We said ‘Fran and X invite you to join them in the celebration of their marriage’  or something along those lines. Parents aren’t involved in any of our wedding planning 

Post # 19
129 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

My parents are hosting/paying for our wedding, so technically, they are the ones inviting everyone – so yes, their names will be on the invite “x and y request the pleasure of your company at the marriage of their daughter…”

Post # 20
602 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2018

My parents are paying for almost everything but they felt uncomfortable with their names on the invite and not FI’s parents, so our invitations said ‘Bride’s Parents full names and Groom’s parents full names request the honour of your presence at the marriage of…’

We are also hosting a reception in FI’s hometown since he’s from NZ and we are getting married in Colorado. For that invite we said ‘Together with their families, Bride + Groom invite you to…’

Post # 21
1713 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I did. We wanted to include them to honour them and they loved it. 

Post # 22
136 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

Included both parents’ first and last names – FI’s parents are married but his mom did not change her name.  My parents have never seen a wedding invitation that did not have the parents’ name and I felt that it was unfair to exclude his parents.  Both are paying for the wedding but even if my parents paid for the whole thing, I’d include both parents.  We’re in our late 30s, but still felt it was respectful.

Post # 23
1976 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre

Yes we had our parents names on our invitations our wedding was a family affair so we wanted to honour both sets of parents 

Post # 24
758 posts
Busy bee

Yes, of course their names were included on our invitations. 

Post # 25
1254 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2018 - The Venue, Barkisland, UK

Ours will be worded quite casually I think so probably won’t include anything about parents. If we do, it’ll be a “together with families” type thing because my parents are separated, his are divorced and remarried, so we’d have to go for A4 invites to print everybody’s names!

Post # 27
50 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

hermionegranger :  I haven’t made the invite, but I won’t be including their names. I will put something like “You are invited to celebrate the marriage of…”

Post # 28
6276 posts
Bee Keeper

We didn’t. They weren’t hosting. We were adults getting married so we just had our names. 

Post # 29
14 posts
  • Wedding: September 2018

We’ll write “together with their parents, bride and groom..”. I wanted to write their names but as my mother is a widow (and it’s hard not seeing my dads name next to hers) and my fiancé’s parents are divorced and his father re-married, it just seemed a LOT easier to put only “parents” instead. My mother is paying for half of the wedding, and his parents are contributing as well. 

Post # 30
1665 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

We did include ours. We split the wedding cost 3 ways between us 3 couples so we felt it right to honour them on the invite as Co hosts. They’ve also each been married 30 years so there was no complication in terms of having step parents etc etc


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