(Closed) Did you/are you planning to include your parents names in the invitation?

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 31
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

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hermionegranger :  we did –  

My parents and husband’s parent request the pleasure of your company to celebrate the wedding of cmsgirl and Mr cmsgirl

Or something along those lines!

My parents paid for two thirds of our wedding and me hubby paid the rest. In laws didn’t contribute financially but we still went with that anyway as its pretty standard to follow that format in my circle, irrespective of who pays.

Post # 32
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Buzzing bee

We put my parents names, I wasn’t too fussed and neither were my parents, but they are paying for it and Fiance insisted they should be on there. I think my mum and dad secretly liked it hehe xo

Post # 33
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

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hermionegranger :  we didnt put our parents names, but said ‘along with their families’. 

Post # 34
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2016

I will be including my parents’ names.  They’re being incredibly generous with us in terms of budget/support, so I think its the right thing to do.  

Post # 35
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

We did.  My parents names were listed as the host, and we listed DH’s parents as “DH, Son of …”

My parents hosted the event with minimal contribution/support from DH’s parents (they weren’t at most of our reception, period), so I didn’t feel as if I was being unfair by not putting them on equal footing on the invitation. 

Post # 36
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Busy bee

I will probably just be having ‘Together with their families’. 

Avoids conflict for me haha

Post # 37
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

We didn’t. My parents are separated (dad is remarried, mum is not) and my Father-In-Law had passed about 2 years before our wedding (MIL is not remarried and is unlikely to even date again). As all 3 sets of parents were contributing financially, we knew it would get quite wordy. In the end, we went with “together with their families”.

Post # 38
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Sugar bee

I’m glad someone asked this! I definitely won’t put parents’ names but have been debating whether to put “Together with their families” or skip entirely and say something like “The honor of your presence is requested for the marriage of…”

Post # 40
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Nope. Now, if they were hosting their names would be on the invitation. I haven’t really gotten that far but “you’re invited” or “please join us.” 

Post # 41
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2017

My parents paid for most of our wedding with DH’s parents paying for the bar. We put (my parents names) together with (his parents names) invite you to share in the joy of the marriage of their children (my name) & (his name)

Post # 42
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

“Together with their Parents, Bride and Groom, Invite you to celebrate their marriage”

Post # 43
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

We’re paying for everything ourselves so we can have our wedding day the way we want, and so it’s just our names on the invites as we’re hosting. We put:

‘Eirlys and Fiance request the pleasure of your company to celebrate their marriage’.

I’ve only seen ‘together with their families’ once, but I think it’s nice diplomatic wording, it’s less clunky than listing all four biological parents and any step parents etc. Every other wedding invite I’ve had has been ‘Mr and Mrs bride’s parents’, with the exception of two friends, who both also did ‘Bride and Groom’.

Post # 44
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Bumble bee

We’re not including parents names, his are passed away, mine aren’t paying as this is my and his second marriage. I simply out, Please join us as we celebrate the love and marriage of D & K.

Post # 45
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

We did include both. 

“_____daughter of ______ & _______ 

Blah Blah Blah

_____ Son of ________ & ______” 

I think both sets of parents needed to feel included. 

 

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