(Closed) Did you/do you plan to release butterflies at your ceremony?

posted 8 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
566 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Please make sure you get butterflies that can survive in your area. 

Post # 4
1920 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I’ve only seen it on TV but I think they do it right after the kiss. I’m not planning on doing it..not really my thing. But if you want to do it then go for it. But as PP make sure the butterflies are meant for your area and maybe research the company as a lot of people end up with dead butterflies.

Post # 5
966 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I don’t think you’ll have to worry about this, but if it’s a cold day, or even too windy, the butterflies will just fall to the earth and not fly. 

Post # 7
1480 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Search some of the previous threads on this topic. Remember that you can’t be sure it’s humane just because the butterflies are indigenous. The butterflies are often refrigerated to sedate them for delivery, and then warmed up again so they’ll fly when the boxes are opened. I’ve read a lot of stories about butterflies who had been injured or kill by mishandling, refrigerated too long or at too low a temperature, or not given enough time to warm up again. You don’t want your guests to open the boxes, only to find dead butterflies or butterflies too cold or shocked to fly out. Or the butterflies to sort of fly out, fall to the ground, and get trampled.

Also, there are a fair number of people who are scared of butterflies (I am one of them, so maybe take this post with a grain of salt). If I was at a wedding with butterflies I’d have to restrain myself from running away screaming.

Post # 9
301 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

My sister went to a wedding where they did this and they didn’t tell everyone that it was a butterfly in the little paper container so by the time it came for the release, most of the people had crushed the butterfly and less than half of them actuallly flew away.  The others all fell to the ground dead. 

Not exactly the effect they were going for.  My venue actually prohibits this and I had to sign a contract saying I wouldn’t do it. IMO it’s kind of cruel and the butterflies rarely survive after the release.  Kind of sad, I think.

Post # 10
6394 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@kingytobe: That does seem like a great compromise. I would also have people appointed to release them instead of letting guests do it. I can’t imagine being at the wedding @RingAroundtheRosie talked about! I think butterflies are kind of gross, too, though, so I would have really freaked out!


Post # 11
317 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I would have freaked out too if I had attended the wedding that ringaroundtherosie talked about!  I wouldn’t have wanted to commemorate the start of my new life with my husband surrounded by dead butterflies!

Post # 12
9053 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’ve only seen this once, and it didn’t work out so well.

They either froze them, or crushed them, or didn’t take them out of the fridge early enough or something, and they all just kind of thunked onto the ground…

Post # 13
858 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I had butterflies released by the maid of honor and best man at our wedding. They had four dozen each and none of them were dead when they got to us/ when released. We released monarchs, and our wedding was when the monarchs are most active in our area. You also have to make sure that you are getting them from the correct side of the Mississippi river. Ours came from California. Good luck! It is really amazing to see them all fly away.

Post # 14
7300 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I don’t like it because I don’t like people using animals/insects as entertainment/decoration. 

Post # 15
3049 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

I never planned on it. But my venue actually provides several doves that are released once you get married. It’s a bit much for me… but I’ll think about it. If it comes with the price I might as well. They have a butterfly garden so we can just go hang out there if we want to play with butterflies 🙂

Post # 16
785 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@jayce:  I have a friend who is scared of butterflies too!  I don’t think that is very uncommon, especially since a lot of people are just scared of bugs in general.

I would never do this.  I am an animal lover and even if I knew for certain that the butterflies would be pampered and treated like winged princesses (which I could never be sure of) I would still never want to use an animal for personal amusement or as an accessory to my wedding.

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