Post # 1
I’m having 3 BMs but 2 had to back out due to personal reasons. The 3 BMs I now have never met before. I’m trying to think of a way to get them all to meet. One of them lives 3 hours away and comes to visit once ever 2 months or so. I was thinking of getting them all together for brunch or something when the out of town Bridesmaid or Best Man is around. If your BMs have never met, how did they/will they finally meet?
Post # 3
I invited all my BM’s over for dinner to meet and greet. Another option that people have suggested on this board is to create a Facebook group for your girls to post short bios and say hi to each other.
Post # 4
I’m using my sister, FI’s sister and my two best friends, since we were young. My two friends know eachother, but aren’t super close, and know my sister as “SapphireSun’s little sister”. FI’s sister just met them at my shower two weeks ago.
It does make things more difficult, and they were spread out all over the province (and my sister was in Australia for most of my engagement), so there was no really good time to ALL get together, but we’ve managed.
Post # 5
I have 2, and they have never met. (My Maid/Matron of Honor is my sister who lives in Florida, my other Bridesmaid or Best Man is my fiance’s sister who lives in Kansas.) So yeah… they won’t be meeting until the week of the wedding! I did give them each other’s email address in case they need to talk to each other about stuff.
Post # 6
I have two and they have never met, but they are very close in personality so I think they will get along great. They are both funny and energetic people. We will be getting together for the first time all together when we go to the Bridesmaid or Best Man luncheon with my mom, his mom, and my oot aunts the week before the wedding. We are not doing showers or anything.
You might try getting them all together for pedicures, the lunch is a good idea, or some other fun activity.
Post # 7
I have 4 friends who all know each other then my sister and FI’s sister who don’t know any of the other girls. They’ll meet some at the bachelorette party and they won’t meet the others until the day before the wedding! Not a big deal – all of my friends are outgoing and easy to get along with!
Post # 8
My 4 have all met each other and get a long pretty well. My sister, who is my Maid/Matron of Honor is probably the most different personality from the others, so I’m just hoping that she keeps a lid on herself and doesn’t piss the others off too much. They’re all going to be at my bachelorette party, so that’ll be the test run, I guess!
Post # 9
I had my sister, my 3 closest friends from college and my two closest friends I have here in Ireland. My sister knew the girls from college but only one of them really well, the college girls all know each other well and my Irish friends didn’t know anyone! They all met at the rehearsal. I don’t think they mixed a TON but between the rehearsal, rehearsal dinner, hair/makeup the morning of the wedding and hanging out at my parents while we got ready I think they all got a chance to get to know each other a little and at least enjoy the wedding together (I hope!) It would be great to have something casual to meet ahead of time if you can organize it – I’m sure your friends would appreciate it too!
Post # 10
I have 3. One from “home”, one from college, and one from law school… and none of them have ever lived in the same place at the same time haha. So 2 of them met at a party I had once… but that is it. Luckily they’re all super down to earth and fun… I sent out a few group emails and they’ll probably meet for the first time really on the day of my shower. then we’ll get to hang out again for my bachelorette and again for the rehearsal dinner. by the wedding i expect they’ll be buddies 🙂
Post # 11
I’m having one friend from college and two friends from home as my BMs. My home friends know each other well, but my college friend has only met the home friends once or twice. To help everyone get to know one another, I set up several non-wedding related get togethers. It seems like its been very successful in building new friendships and making everyone feel comfortable!
Post # 12
Most of my Bridesmaid or Best Man know one another or at least 2 other BMs and have heard plenty about the others.
I agree with tksjewelry, I’d try and do an activity with them and then do a brunch? (Pedi’s, shopping, bowling, paint pottery, etc.) This will break the ice before having a sit down meal 🙂
Post # 13
Not engaged yet, but I’m pretty set on my BMs. None of them are in the same circles of friends, but they’ve heard a lot about eachother. My Maid/Matron of Honor has met two of the other BMs. But that’s the only connection. When the time comes, I plan on having a lunch for everyone to get together and meet.
Post # 14
I’m having my sister, my cousin, two friends and my future hubby’s cousin.
Everyone knows my sister. And my cousin has met my one of my friends many times before. So no one is a complete stranger.
Personally, I would go for coffee or drinks. Something casual. Bring some wedding magazines to browse through with them. That would make a good ice breaker and help make conversation.
Or perhaps plan a pre-shopping trip. Browse the mall or bridal shops for wedding ideas. Having an activity will make it more comfortable for all the girls to hang out.
Hope that helps! 🙂
Post # 15
I’m pretty sure mine had all met each other before becoming my bridesmaids, but just briefly. Two (out of 4 of my BMs) are actually friends with each other. The rest had only met through parties at my house, etc. They’re all getting along great though…
Post # 16
Nope. 2 BMs are my childhood best friends (who are each other’s friends as well) and the third is a friend I met in adulthood (who doesn’t know the other two). I know they’ve had some contact planning my shower, but they won’t meet until the morning of the shower.