(Closed) Did your BMs EVER get excited? When?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
2385 posts
Buzzing bee

I think it depends on the people. Some are super enthusiastic, some are apathetic. Your BMs will never be as excited or think this is as high a priority as you do, though. 

Post # 4
3830 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Depends on the people. I anticipate 3 out of the 5 to be super involved as they have repeatedly asked what they can do to help. THe other 2 live further away so i understand its probably harder for them. And thats fine.  But so far they have all been super excited to be asked to stand with me. 

Post # 6
8446 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

I think my BMs are more excited than me lol.  I think it helps that my girls are really good friends with each other and they’re long distance from me (I’m in NC, they’re in CA) so they’re not hearing wedding stuff constantly.  They’ve been messaging me with ideas, feedback, info, etc. 

I was the girl that never wanted to get married.  Since I didn’t have any preconceived ideas of what my wedding should be, I’m really open to anything, which means my BM’s ideas don’t get shot down.  They have a lot of freedom with helping me plan.  If you get excited about their ideas, they’ll get excited about yours.

Post # 7
2587 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - UK

Well, one recently moved to Canada, so I probably won’t see her until just before the day.

Equally, my other two live a good couple of hours from me, and frankly I imagine they’d be pretty bored with the whole thing. One of them might be coming to look at dresses with me, but I think for all of us going it’s more of an excuse for a day out, a ponce and a play. If they want to be more involved, then absolutely great, and I’ll match enthusiasm with enthusiasm, but I just want this to be fun for everyone, so if they’re chill with just rocking up on the day, then I’ve got no problems with that.

For my older cousin’s wedding, I was a bridesmaid, but I basically went to the hen night, the dress fittings, and rehearsal, then turned up on the day. Wasn’t even invited to the engagement party!

Post # 8
1144 posts
Bumble bee

Well I haven’t officially asked all of my BMs but my sisters know they’re in the party and they’re SUPER excited. I think it’s also the fact that they’re both younger than me and I’m the first to get married. lol We went to a wedding show together and they were just so happy and excited. One of them, she’s 18, created a Pinterest board with ideas for me lol

Post # 9
3175 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Mine were all different- some seemed interested the whole time, texting me to ask how it was going, offering to help, etc. Some seemed excited for me during pre-wedding events, like the shower or dress shopping. Some didn’t really seem that interested until the wedding. That was fine by me, I know the day didn’t mean the same thing to them as it did to me, and I’m lucky that they all made sacrifices to be there (my sister making arrangements for her infant, some girls taking off extra days of work, some flying in for events), and I appreciate them supporting me.

Post # 10
2107 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

My Maid/Matron of Honor, who I expected to be the least supportive and excited about the wedding, since she’s completely anti-wedding herself, was my rock during wedding planning.  She was there for me the entire time, and even if she wasn’t actually excited, she sure as hell did a good job pretending, because I never knew the difference. 

On the other hand, the bridesmaid who actually asked me to be a bridesmaid was very unenthusiastic for most of the year prior to the wedding.  It wasn’t until we got closer to the wedding day, and I guess things became more “real” did she show excitement. 

Post # 11
2023 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

My Maid/Matron of Honor created a Pinterest board for me – with her suggestions for the wedding… haha… She is my “balance” and has really helped me. 

Post # 12
2781 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I think my Maid/Matron of Honor is a little too excited by it. She almost always wants to go look at Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses. She has strong opinions and doesn’t really like that my Fiance isn’t just giving me free reign over the wedding planning. 

Post # 14
2239 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I had a very involved bridesmaid who would send me ideas pretty much daily which was AWESOME.  And then there was my sister and my maid of honor who would help me craft (so would the other bridesmaid)…and then my other sister who basically acted like I was torturing her.  She didn’t show any enthusiasm until the day of and she jumped into organizing mode and really went for it.  It was like she was saving it all up for one day LOL

Post # 15
6256 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

A little, but only in the beginning when I announced the engagement. We are a little older (around 30) though. Most of my friends are married already, so while they were happy, it didn’t have the sort of electricity that something completely novel probably would have. Don’t feel bad if they aren’t excited, as long as they are happy for you.Besides, it looks like your wedding has already passed, so it’s not like you can do too much about it at this point.


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