(Closed) Did your BMs have an influence on the dress you chose?

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Absolutely–two of my BMs were with me when I was deciding on my dress, and seeing their reactions really helped me to be sure of my choice.  It wasn’t so much that they influenced me in any particular direction, but more like they really helped me to feel confident about finding "the one." 

Do you ever wish you would have gone with the shorter and strapless style?

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

My BMs are choosing they’re own gowns. I just told them a length and color.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

My dear bridesmaids – they definitely helped me narrow down a style, and then we all seemed to agree on the eventual choice (or at least they agreed with me to humor me). I wasn’t sure about strapless but that is what they all wanted, and we went with a bubble hem, which I initially worried would be too trendy, but I think the rest of the dress is classic enough to balance it out.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I am asking my BMs for help.  I am okay if they all pick different styles, as long as they’re long and the right color.  One of my BMs will be 8 months pregnant, another is 5’10" and a skinny minny, and the third is barely 5 feet tall – so I don’t think I could find one dress that worked for all of them anyhow! 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Two of my bridesmaids came with me and really helped me out. I fell in love with a gown instantly, but a sales person talked me out of it because it would need alterations. But I never felt the same way about any other gown. When I came back to that dress a month later, my girls eased my fears and I bought it. I am so glad they were there to reaffirm my decision.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Yep – they all chose their own.  I went with one of my sisters and we each tried things on, and in the end I just picked out the type of fabric and the color & said they could get whatever from there.  My sisters are both really really tall and thin and my FI’s are petite, one friend is tall and average, another is medium height and curvier… I did NOT want to wrap my mind around flattering all of them with one dress, haha.  They all appreciated getting to pick their own dress so I was happy!

Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Well, I picked my color scheme and told them I wanted champagne or champagne pink dresses, then sent them on a hunt to find them. I wanted to make sure they were OK with the price. 3 are still in college and $150 was too much to ask. I felt them out beforehand about costs to get an idea. Well, NOBODY responded with cute dresses. And I didn’t want to change my colors. Champagne pink and champagne were perfect for a summery, outdoor garden wedding. So, fine, I picked them out myself! They were $300+ and i was in love….so I found a version I liked just as much at Joann’s, bought the pattern, bought the perfect champagne pink bridal material from a company called Casablanca Fabrics and put my mother to work. They were all iffy at first about wearing something that "loooked" too homemade, but my mom is an AWESOME seamstress and they all LOVE the dress now. They have gorgeous goldish champagne sashes to make them "bridal"ish. And they can wear belts with them after the wedding b/c they’re cocktailish. The only complaint I’ve gotten is "oh i have to tan big time"…champagne pink just isn’t flattering on pasty skin unfortunately. But you know what, I’m not making them pay me for them or anything, so if they don’t like it, tough, it’s not like they paid anything out of their own pocket except for their own shoes (i told them gold shoes, pick your own) and the tanning package, haha. Luckily my BM’s are all happy campers about this.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Oops, I totally misunderstood the original question–I thought you were referring to your bridal gown, not the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses.

But yes, my BMs definitely played a role.  As it turned out, 4 out of the 5 were able to join me at a Lazaro trunk show, and while we were there, we found the perfect dress.  What’s funny is that I never intended to invite so many of them along shopping–too many opinions can make it even more difficult to decide.  But they were all available and so we went, mostly just for fun.  But then we found this amazing dress, and each of them looked GORGEOUS in it and they all loved it (and they’re all different body styles, too).  I don’t believe in fate, but it sort of seemed like fate.  The only other Bridesmaid or Best Man that couldn’t be there would look amazing in anything, so we decided that those were the ones.  I love them, they love them… and I love even more that they are happy with them and comfortable wearing the dress.  I never imagined it could work out the way it has. 

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Mine are picking their own with a little approval from me to make sure they all flow together.  So long and black is the common thread.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009 - Harbison Chapel & The Maple Lane Farm

One of my BMs volunteered to come with me when I thought I had found the one, and her loving it made me reassured but she didn’t really help me pick it out.

 As for the BMs dresses I talked about style with my Maid/Matron of Honor then set guidelines and sent swatch samples to each Bridesmaid or Best Man so they could chose their own dress at their own price point and pretty much their own style (sadly we do not have the funds to buy the dresses).  Everyone seems really happy with this direction, and my Maid/Matron of Honor is the go to person for any questions and I’m here if they need help too.

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

i’m just having my bm’s pick out any little black dress that they want. I never felt comfortable picking out a dress that i don’t have to pay for or wear myself…so i just gave them general guidelines. I’ve been a bm several times and know that its frustrating if the bride doesn’t take anyone’s opinion into consideration!

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