(Closed) Did your bridesmaids get you a gift?

posted 10 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: Did your bridesmaids get you a shower and/or wedding gift?
    Yes, group gift : (10 votes)
    15 %
    Yes, individual gift : (37 votes)
    57 %
    Yes, but just something very small! : (3 votes)
    5 %
    No, being in the wedding was expensive enough : (14 votes)
    22 %
    Other (explain below) : (1 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
    1042 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    we havent had our wedding yet but my 3 bridesmaids gave us really nice shower gifts!

    Post # 4
    1417 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    When I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man we gave the bride a group gift (we each purchased a place setting) for her shower and then I gave her a gift at the wedding. I don’t care what my BMs plan to do but as far as I know, everyone I know does this and gifts seperate gifts for each occassion regardless of being int he wedding or not…

    Post # 5
    6377 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Every wedding I’ve been in, I’ve gifted as if I was a guest both for the shower and wedding (registry item for the shower and a monetary gift for the wedding).

    My bridesmaids gave us gifts even though I specficially told them not to. They didn’t go in on anything, they just gifted us with what they felt was appropriate which was beyond what I ever expected. They were all very generous.

    Post # 6
    419 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I am interested to see the results….

    When I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man – 2 of the weddings we gave a big group gift, and the last one I gave an individual gift.  BUT, I told my BM’s not to get me anything….they are already coming, not to mention throwing me a shower and b-party……which is MORE than enough!

    Post # 7
    3358 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    For my shower by BMs all went in on a big gift, (our KitchenAid Mixer).  Then they all gave individual gifts for the wedding.

    I’ve also always gifted for the shower and the weddign when I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man.  

    Post # 9
    85 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I was a bridesmaid A few month ago and I didn’t give a wedding gift only because of how much it had cost me to be a bridesmaid, I just couldn’t afford it I still feel quite bad that I didn’t give a gift. But the dress alone was $400.

    Post # 10
    1099 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

      I’m not getting married until June, but I have been a bridesmaid four times. I have given a gift each time. In two of the weddings, they were group gifts. However, with all of the weddings…I did factor in how much I had to spend on the wedding. I know it sounds horrible, but at that point I had just started my career and didn’t have a ton of expendable income. I think you do what you can.

    Post # 12
    2674 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I was Maid/Matron of Honor in my friend’s wedding last year and one of the other bridesmaids and I bought a whole bunch of the small things off of her registry and gave them to her as a joint gift. We were both students, so we could not afford much after our dresses, but it was nice to still give something. I would have felt weird about not giving anything. The third bridesmaid was the brides’ Future Sister-In-Law so we didn’t meet her until the wedding day. I don’t know if she gave a gift. I know the bride registered for a lot of small (under $5) items which let us feel like we were giving a lot without spending more than we could. It was a small, casual, quickly planned wedding. We gave gifts for both the shower (which we did not throw because the Future Mother-In-Law insisted on throwing and prevented us from really helping set up/help with) and the wedding. They had a large backyard reception 6 months later which I did not attend (I was out of state for the summer) and I don’t know if the other BMs gave gifts for that.

    Post # 13
    2297 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    We didn’t have a shower, but each of our attendants gave us a gift.  Then again, we also made sure that the wedding was as inexpensive as possible for them.  They wore clothes they already owned, and we covered their accommodations and food.

    Post # 14
    146 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2007

    My bridemaids & Maid/Matron of Honor already spent a lot of money being in the wedding party and paying for the bachelorette party so they didn’t get me a gift.  

    Post # 15
    474 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I was only in one wedding and I did give the bride a gift both and her shower and the day of her wedding. I didn’t get her anything off of her registry but, instead had custom items made for each gift and she loved them. I felt the custom made gift was more personal and not something should would expect since she didn’t register for it.

    Post # 16
    12340 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    For the shower, I’ve done group and individual gifts before.  And for the wedding, always an individual (or with SO) gift, but not a group gift.


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