(Closed) Did your dad walk you down the aisle?

posted 8 years ago in Traditions
  • poll: Did your dad walk you down the aisle?

    Yes

    No - I chose not to do this

    No - but only because I don't have a relationship with my dad or he is no longer with us

  • Post # 17
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    DH and I walked down the aisle together per Swedish tradition. You can have your dad walk you if you really want to, but it’s not something that the church encourages. Their viewpoint is that by walking in together, you show that you’re equal and that both parts walks into the marriage with joy.

    Now, in our case DH is Canadian, so I asked how he felt about walking in with me as it would have felt very strange for both my dad and me to walk up to the altar together. DH loved the idea and that was it, everyone was happy. However, if you’re from a culture where it’s tradition I could see why ones parents might be hurt. In that case, I would try to incorporate them in some other way to make it clear how important they are.

    Post # 18
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Dad walked me down the aisle. My mom wanted to walk me down too because both her parents walked her down, but I wanted to share that moment with my daddy <3

    Whatever you choose will be fine. There is no right or wrong thing to do. If you want to walk down alone there is no shame in that.

    Post # 19
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I love tradition and don’t get hung up on what it used to mean, I’m more into the emotion that it evoques.  My dad was looking forward to walking me down the aisle since I was his actual baby girl (at 32 I still am).  I wouldn’t deny him that honor (though he wouldn’t blink if I decided otherwise).  And even though I’ve been on my own for 10 years, I love the symbolism of my father giving me to my husband. 

    I love at weddings all the moments that connect generations.  Mom can look at me and remember her dad (now passed) walking her down the aisle.  Dads can look at their daughters and think “someday!” 

    Post # 21
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    My father passed away several years ago. I might be having my mom walk me or I might just walk alone. Havent decided yet.

    Post # 22
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    Bumble Beekeeper

    @mscuppycake:  He will be provided his treatments go well and he is here to do it. If not, then I will walk by myself and probably cry the whole time. I am not trying to be dramatic, but I highly suggest that you enjoy these meaningful moments when you are able to. Some of us may not have the chance and would give anything for it.

    Post # 23
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    I talk to my dad but don’t have a great relationship with him, so my mother will be walking me down the aisle and we’ll have a mother daughter dance as well, she means the world to me! 

    Post # 24
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014 - Banff, Alberta

    I think it is something every dad secretly wants to do, no matter what they say. Get photos of him seeing you for the first time and then walk down the aisle together. 

    Post # 25
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    Sugar bee

    @mscuppycake:  I had a destination wedding also and didnt want it at first but in the end I decided it was nice to have him walk me down. I got married in my hometown first in a religious ceremony before the destination wedding where me and DH walked down together so it was nice to have my dad walk down with me at this ceremony to my DH who was waiting

    Post # 26
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I won’t get to walk down the aisle with my Dad, and it makes me a little bit sad. It’s something I’ve been imagining for many years. However my Fiance and I are having an Orthodox ceremony, and part of it involves a small ceremony at the back of the church where my Dad gives me away to Fiance, and then Fiance and I walk up the aisle together. I think my Dad’s a little sad about it too, but he respects that it’s part of Fiance and I’s religion. Plus I think he’s a little releived that everyone won’t be looking at him while he’s walking down the aisle!

    Post # 27
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    My dad is going to walk me down the aisle, I think it will be sweet. I’ll be 33 and I don’t really care about the symbolism, I know it’s something that is really important to him!

    Post # 28
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @mscuppycake:  I will be escourted by my dad and grandfather but it is really whatever you think it best. Do you think he could be secretly offended by it?

    Post # 29
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    My dad did! As much as he grumbled about having to wear a penguin suit and whatnot, I think he secretly liked it. I don’t even remember if the pastor asked “Who gives this woman…” or not.

    I also thought it was funny how when we were standing in the back stairwell waiting to walk in, my dad points to the door that leads outside and said “It’s not too late to run if you want to change your mind!” He didn’t mean anything against my husband (they have a good relationship), but I like to think he was just being sweet and just had my best interests at heart, even though he knew I wouldn’t runaway.

    Post # 30
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    My dad did not walk me down the aisle.  I walked alone (and loved it!). 

     

     

     

    What it really boiled down to was that I have a rather strained relationship with my father, we aren’t that close, and him walking me down the aisle would not have been a good happy sappy moment, but an awkward strained moment.  

     

     

     

    So I made up a different reason on why he probably shouldn’t walk me down (so as not to upset him or hurt his feelings), and instead I met him at the end of the aisle, we hugged and then he “handed me off” to my groom.  It actually worked really well, and everyone was happy in the end.  

     

    Post # 31
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    Two of my sons (will be 10 and 11) will walk me down the aisle. My daddy passed away a few years ago and my boys want to give me away. I wouldn’t have it any other way.

    Post # 32
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    Both my parents walked down the asile, both of Fi parents walked him down the asile. I likd having them there more then I thought they would. I felt strongly about both my parents walking me done, even though my mom claimed it wasn’t right(eye roll) she came around.

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