(Closed) Did your DH go to first doc appt?

posted 9 years ago in Pregnancy
  • poll: Did your DH go with you to your first appointment with your baby doctor?

    Yes

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  • Post # 17
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    My husband went with me thought he didn’t really need to. Poor guy had to sit in the room while they put me on a table and examined me haha. He wanted to be there though to get the confirmation. I think he will come to the next one too since he hope to hear the heartbeat. after that i’m sure he will only come to the milestones…no need to have him there every time.

    Post # 18
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    Busy Beekeeper

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    @totheislnds:  me too DH sat there while they examined me! i didn’t know i was going to get examined though as i had called earlier in the week to ask if there would be an ultrasound and they said the no the first appt is just taking my weight, blood pressure and history!

    Post # 19
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    Worker bee

    Id call and ask if they routinely do an ultrasound. At my first appointment they took blood and a urine sample, that was it. They scheduled a dating ultrasound, which he came to, and then my first appointment with the doctor he didn’t. All she did was an internal check.. so he didn’t need to see that!

    I think he’ll just come to the 20 week ultrasound after this until it gets closer – no point in him taking off work to see a doctor all up in my business 🙂

    Post # 20
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    My husband has only missed one of our prenatal appointments.  I think it helps him to feel more involved in the process and then he can ask the doctor his questions.  If he can go to this appt, I’d suggest that he does.  They will probably take a family history and since the baby is 1/2 his genes it could be helpful to have him there. 

    Post # 21
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

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    @dynamic_duo: our poor DH’s! guess they need to get used to it though if they are going to sit through giving birth haha! Can’t wait for my ultrasound! a week from tomorrow!

    Post # 23
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    My first appointment wasn’t a confirmation appointment but he went with me because they were doing the first ultrasound.  He also sat through the internal exam (I told him being in the room was just a fraction of what he’d see during birth and he did well) plus I had to have blood drawn which I hate so having him there was nice.  After that he came to my 12 week appointment to hear the heartbeat, 20 week anatomy scan, and my 28 week appointment because I had another ultrasound.  Right now I’m 31 weeks and he only plans to come to the 36 week appointment for my last ultrasound.  

    I do think even if I hadn’t had an ultrasound that it would have been nice to have him at the first appointment though since I was so nervous.  Right now it’s so routine that’s it not a big deal.  

    Post # 24
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Ex-DH came to the first appt.  It was at 8 or 9 weeks and they did a trans vag u/s.  Hate to be a downer, but I was glad he was there for the appt because that’s when we discovered that the PG wasn’t viable; both for the support and I was sobbing so hard walking out of that appt that I wouldn’t have been fit to drive anywhere.  If he can come, I’d have him come.  Most of the time, things turn out just like they should, but you never know.  

    Also, it’s good for him to hear what your doc has to say regarding eating habits/restrictions/sex so that you’re not having to parrot it back after the fact.  Hearing things from an authority figure sometimes makes them sink in more.

    Post # 25
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    this is kinda a tough subject at our house right now. SO travels alot for work and he will now me out of state for two weeks (just left today) and my first appointment is on monday (next week)  🙁 we are both very sad. but my mom will be there with me.

    Post # 26
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    Fiance went with me to the confirmation and the first u/s, both of which were at a non-profit clinic in town. As for the first actual prenatal care appointment (to which I went elsewhere), no. He hadn’t gotten any sleep the night before, and he wasn’t feeling so well that day, and I thought at the time that him getting the rest he needed was more important than going with me to the appointment so I left him alone on that. (Besides, it was mostly them getting samples of my blood and urine and me getting some information.) He might be able to go with me to my follow-up on the 23rd of this month, though.

    Post # 27
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

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    @mrshersch74:  If my husband couldn’t be there my mom would be the next person in line. you are in good hands! he wont miss too much in the first appointment…just confirming what you already know (that you are pregnant!) get your weight, blood pressure, calculate due date, possible pelvic exam, go over your history and most likely have blood drawn. Other than that nothing exciting happens.

    Post # 28
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Well I took my pregnancy test (well, 4 of them!) this weekend, and we got all positives!!  So I call my doctor this morning to see when I needed to get in.  They said they see patients between 6-8 weeks for confirmation, ask health questions, boring stuff (all with the nurse).  They then make the first appointment for a few weeks later to meet the doctor and for the first ultrasound.  I told Hubby he didn’t have to come to the first appointment, but I wanted him there for the second.

    Post # 29
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    DH has gone with me to every single appt. He has had no negative reactions to any of the exams I had.  

    I don’t mean to be the downer, but for me, I had miscarriages, so if I was going to find out something terrible during one of my appt’s I wanted and needed him to be there. 

    Post # 30
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2010

    1. congrats!

    2. DH has come to every single appointment except the first one….only because he couldn’t make it. BUT I am SO GLAD he didn’t. It was a pap smear and a breast exam and peeing in a cup and drawing blood. Everything sucked. He would have been super bored & probably grossed out at some point. 

    Just for reference, I think the “fun ones” are the heartbeat ones (mine was at 8w), the ultrasound one (nt scan at about 13w) and the anatomy ultrasound….and then so many of them in between are short and pointless…..Its nice to have DH there just so he can experience it & so he can meet and get to know your OB. (my opinions)

     

    Post # 31
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    DH didn’t come to my appointments, just one appointment toward the end. But he did come to all the ultrasounds except the first one. 

    Personally, I felt that the ‘pee in a cup, get weighed, get measured, see you in a few weeks’ routine was a silly excuse for him to reschedule his days. That’s just me, though! My appointments were less than 20 minutes each time. 

    I do regret not having him there for the first ultrasound. I didn’t think we’d be able to see anything at barely 8 weeks so I told him he didn’t have to come with but I got to see the little flicker heartbeat and hear it. It was so amazing I cried and there’s no way I could get him to understand how cool it was without seeing it first hand! 🙂 

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