(Closed) Did your ex(s) congratulate you on your wedding?

posted 10 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
78 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

my ex boyfriend called ME before he got married, to let me know he was getting married. then, when he found out i was engaged (eventually), he congratulated me.



Post # 4
2695 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2008

Good question!! One of them congratulated me, one my dad sent a text message to to tell him the news (don’t ask me why!) and I never heard from him and one went on our wedding website and left infantile comments in the guest book. 

Post # 5
216 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2018 - Outdoor ceremony, banquet hall reception

Yes, tearfully (and not tears of joy), through my sister at a wedding. AWKWARD!

He was basically my last serious relationship before Mr. Puffy, and he saw my sister at a wedding and started crying, asking her if she likes Mr. PP, and to tell me congratulations. Needless to say, he will not be invited to the wedding! 😉

Post # 6
5822 posts
Bee Keeper

My ex calls me occassionally to see if I’m single.  I don’t think he’ll stop until I’m married!

Post # 7
359 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I called my ex to let him know I was engaged, since he was my last serious relationship before I met Darling Husband. We also shared a lot of friends so he was bound to find out.

Darling Husband and I even invited him to our wedding, which he attended with his new gf. Everyone was very mature and I think he genuinely wishes us well.

Post # 8
163 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

My ex which is also my son’s father is coming to the wedding. I wasn’t sure whether to invite him or not so I thought I would just ask if this is something that he would like to be a part of. He said he would love to come and so there it is he and his date and of course his mom whom I love who has to bring her husband but, they are all coming to the wedding!

Post # 9
195 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

One of my exs sent me a message just saying ‘congrats on the engagement’  but i know it was snyde because we later spoke and he was like ‘why didnt’ you call and tell me’. 1. because it was akward and 2.  i didn’t think it was important for him to know (we kinda had an ugly break-up.  Another ex I acutally called and told.  He and I are very close friends still (we dated over 6 years ago) and are better friends then relationship people together. 

Post # 10
55 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

My last serious ex before the Mister invited himself to the wedding!  I let him know when we first got engaged (We were still doing the be friends thing), and then as the wedding got closer, he emailed me to say he had bought his tickets!

 The Mister was not pleased but all was fine minus a very serious "Take care of her, or else" encounter at the reception.

Post # 11
588 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2007 - Radisson Hotel

Oh yeah, I think I blogged about it! He even said it would be "good" for him to be invited to our wedding. A sense of closure. Really?? And then, another called my dad’s house to find my contact info, and was told by my dad that I was engaged, and he was like, wow, um, congrats? Doof.

Post # 12
70 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2007 - a beautiful church and hotel reception

Yes, it was quite odd except for one of my ex’s whom I’m still OK friends with.  But when my very first heartbreak ex (who tramatized me) IMed me to say congrats, I felt VERY awkward. But I suppose that was very nice of him to do that!

Post # 13
2292 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

A couple of ex boyfriends with whom I’m still friends did sent cards, which was nice.  Neither of them live near us, so I didn’t even consider sending them invitations. 

DH’s ex-wife didn’t congratulate him as such, but she did keep bringing up (at the hearings to modify the child support she pays to him to factor in cost of college tuition) that "The woman he’s marrying makes A LOT of money."  I suppose that’s congratulations of a sort. The judge told her that unless "the woman he’s marrying" was formally adopting the children, that didn’t change her obligation at all.

Post # 14
54 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

mine sent me an email about 3 weeks before the wedding. It was pretty awkward since we don’t really talk (and hadn’t since the breakup) but he seemed sincere. Knowing him, I think it was more for him than for me, but whatever he needs for closure or to move on or whatever…

Post # 15
2004 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

One of my exes called about a month after the wedding to congratulate me. We had communicated intermittently by email only for about a year and a half so it was funny to hear his voice again. But he was genuinely happy for me and I was pleased to hear from him.

Post # 16
45 posts
  • Wedding: September 2008

I called my ex (THE ex) after I got engaged to tell him, and also to let him know that he is not invited to the wedding, he agreed that he wouldn’t want an ex-boyfriend at his wedding either.  Then he proceeded to complain to anyone who would listen about the fact that he wasn’t invited.  *eyeroll*  I got a text from him the night of the wedding saying congratulations and that my husband is a lucky man.  I hope that’s enough closure for him.

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