Did your FH purposely throw you off about your engagement timeline?

posted 1 year ago in Engagement
Post # 31
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Sugar bee

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mixybee :  Yes! After he proposed I realized he had been carrying around a ring box in his pants pocket for a whole week — he had intended to propose at the beginning of our trip but kept getting nervous and waiting for the right time, so he ended up proposing on the last day. Afterwards he was like, “You really didn’t notice?! I was so worried I had blown my cover.” It was honestly the last thing on my mind, but when I look back at some of the pics of our trip I can see the bulge in his pocket lol. 

Post # 33
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Location

He tried but it didn’t work! I knew it was coming, but played along anyway ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 35
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - Canada

He didn’t try to throw me off on the time line because we didn’t really have one. But he did think that if we just didn’t talk about wedding/engagement anything, I would forget all about it and he’d catch me totally off guard (we picked out the ring together and I knew when he picked it up). During normal weeknight evenings I sort of forgot about it, but any weekend or anytime he asked me to “come here”, it was all I thought about lol. He proposed on my birthday and as it got closer, I was 99% sure it was going to happen then. After dinner I came out of the bathroom to our chairs facing each other and my gift on the table, so I was absolute certain it was going to happen… But when I opened my gift, it was a box from a different store. IN that box was my ring haha. So he did trick me a little. 

Post # 36
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2020

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mixybee :  Our emails are both Gmail and we have logged onto eachothers phones so my emails are notifications on his phone and his emails are notifications on my phone. He knows this well as I remind him all of the time to check and email of his that came through. He signed up for the Peoples credit card thing (payment plan) which you only do if you make a purchase and for him to have to make payments it would have to be a big purchase. Peoples is the place I found the ring I liked. I didn’t tell him because I know he just didn’t think about it when he did it. He also had a private conversation with his dad a couple of weeks ago (I had left the house because he wanted to talk about a sensitive topic), when I got back he asked me to help him compose an email to his dad about what they were discussing and handed me his laptop, in the middle of me typing his dad texted him and it showed up on the laptop saying “did you tell your sisters about you getting engaged?” and I said “whats that?” and he kind of stuttered until he said “I don’t know, I don’t know what he’s talking about” so I left it alone. There are some more little things but basically he’s not good at lying at all lol.

That’s tough but I think the being suspicious and not quite knowing can make it very suspencfull and exciting!! I’m very excited for you! Out of curiosity do you have a picture of the style you liked?

Post # 37
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

My best friend’s boyfriend is kind of throwing her off. He told her that they’d probably get engaged in about a year or so, so they have more time to save up for the wedding. That was the original plan, but that was when he was planning to buy a house. However, he decided this summer not to buy a house for another couple of years, because his job is likely transferring him in a couple of years. So then he decided he’d propose sooner (most likely this New Year’s Eve), but he didn’t tell her he had decided to move up the timeline. He told me all this so he could get my input on the ring and proposal plans.

She’s not super anxious to get engaged, though. She does want to be engaged, and would be happy if it happened tomorrow even, but she’s also not really rushed about it, so she’s not pushing a sooner timeline. Knowing her, she will be SO happy with it being a huge surprise and much earlier than she thought it would be.

Post # 40
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2019

Yes! Similiar to others on here I recieved the “I know we are going on vacation but I just dont want you to be disappointed, there won’t be a proposal just yet”. I totally believed him because a. he had said that once before another trip and b. financially it made more sense to wait I thought.

He thought he was being so sneaky and smart and I think it’s totally adorable! Not mean or anything like that. BUT my first trip story does prove that sometimes they mean it when they say it isnt coming on a certain trip! HA HA

Post # 41
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - Canada

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mixybee :  The first week was tough, I was a disaster and upset he didn’t propose right away. I talked to a friend who reminded me that Fiance wanted it to be a total surprise but I wanted to be included in the ring process & we picked out the ring together so now he was doing it his way and to give him a little space to make it special. After that kick in the butt it just became exciting. There was no more “will he/won’t he” anxiety, just fun build up. Even the day of my birthday I remember leaving work thinking “I’ll be coming back tomorrow as a Fiance!” and that was really fun. He had no idea I was onto him and he still doesnt get how I was so sure about it from the small unintentional hints he gave me lol.

Post # 42
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

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mixybee :  I thought he did but he swears he didn’t haha

I had kind of been expecting a proposal last summer (2017) and then when that went by without one I had kind of anticipated a Christmas proposal. Instead, he surprised me with a puppy he had been on a waiting list for a long time for that I really wanted. After that, I had figured we probably wouldn’t be ready to start planning a wedding until he was house broken and settled down, and then my fiance started looking for a new job because he was really unhappy at the one he was at, so I wasn’t expecting anything until he figured that out. When he was offered a new job to begin in July that unfortunately paid less than the one he was leaving, I assumed there wouldn’t be a proposal on the table until around Christmas this year. He ended up surprising me by proposing on Canada Day weekend! 

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