(Closed) Did your FI ask your parents first?

posted 6 years ago in Proposals
  • poll: Did your FI ask your family for your hand in marriage
    Yes : (98 votes)
    64 %
    No : (54 votes)
    36 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    793 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    He wasn’t planning on asking me when he did, so he ended up asking my parents afterward. Everything worked out fine. :]

    Post # 3
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    10367 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I would have been really offended if he’d asked my parents first, so no, he didn’t. I know it’s a tradition for some people, but it really isn’t for me.

    Post # 4
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    2254 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    He called my father as at the time we were living in AZ, and my dad was living in LA. It was hilarious. I never seen my Fiance that nervous before, and it didn’t help that there is a bit of a communication barrier as my dad’s English is not the best, and my FI’s foreign language skills are not that great. I also recorded him on my phone while he was calling. Every now and then I send him the video clip. lol

    Post # 5
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    667 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    He asked you know I am glad he did because I think they appreciated the first ones in the know. Plus I would have hated for them to find out via facebook or something that would have been terrible.

    Post # 6
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    9056 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    He did, and as much as I’m not really like that and neither is my dad, I think he appreciated it.

    Post # 7
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    14 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    Of course he asked my parents first!  That tradition I really wanted.  My dad and I are very, very close and I am the first to get married in my family so it was important to me.  

    Post # 8
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    1642 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Kind of. He knew I wanted to wear my grandmother’s engagement ring. So he had to go to my parents to get it from them. According to my mom, Fiance was (understandably) nervous and said something to the effect of “So, rubyroad10 and I have been together for almost five years and…yeah, I think I’m going to need that ring.” Lol. No permission-asking, but he already knew what the answer would be, anyway. My parents love him 🙂

    Post # 9
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    2589 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Yes, he asked both of my parents together – and it meant a lot to both of them that he did, even though they both viewed it as a formality and not a requirement (ie – they wouldnt have been angry if he hadnt, just thought it was nice that he did).

    Post # 10
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    3176 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    He did not really in an “asking permission” kind of way but he knew it would be a sentimental thing for my dad.

    Post # 10
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    1866 posts
    Buzzing bee

    FH did ask my parents first, but honestly I would not have cared if he didn’t!

    Post # 11
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    3068 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    He didn’t necessarily ask but he did inform that he was going to propose.

    Post # 12
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    4352 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    No, but I kinda wish he had. Both of my parents were shocked [no clue why because we had been together 4+ years, so it should not have been a surprise]. They claim the thought that I would get engaged soon just “had not crossed their minds”. They took a couple days but then they were very happy for me. I think if he had asked they might have responded a little nicer when I told them I was engaged. His parents on the other hand were more along the lines  of “took you long enough” lol

    Post # 13
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    842 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Definitely not.  I’m a grown up and I find it demeaning to think that my Fiance should have asked my dad whether we can married or not.  My opinion is what matters, no one else’s. 

    Post # 14
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    3068 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    He didn’t necessarily ask but he did inform that he was going to propose.

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