(Closed) Did your FI ask your parents’ permission?

posted 7 years ago in Family
  • poll: Did your FI ask your family for your hand?
    Yes : (131 votes)
    64 %
    No : (64 votes)
    31 %
    Other (explain) : (11 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
    4485 posts
    Honey bee

    No because we are both adults who don’t need parental permission for anything. Once you hit 18, your parents no longer have any legal say in what you do or don’t do. Asking for a blessing is fine if you are both of age but it’s completely different from asking permission.

    Post # 4
    265 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    Date Twin! My Fiance is very traditional and he did ask my parents for permission but my sister’s husband didn’t. He did it months before he asked so pretty much everyone ended up knowing but me lol!

    Post # 5
    6473 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011 - Sydney, Australia

    I said ‘Other’ – He TRIED to contact my dad before my surprise birthday weekend away (THE proposal weekend!) but dad’s phone wasn’t working… so he asked me anyway as he didn’t want to wait! (Of course, my dad was touched by the thought!)

    Post # 6
    23602 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    He did, and I always thought he wouldn’t. I was so relieved that I was in tears. Hardest thing he ever had to do, he says.  Not that my parents are scary, but he was terrified! 🙂

    Post # 7
    5106 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Fiance and I had been together for just over 4 years when he proposed, and he asked my parents. I never knew if he would or not. But I’m happy he did. 🙂

    Post # 8
    899 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    He asked after we were already engaged but hadn’t announced it yet, lol. I wanted a real proposal, instead of a random “wait, you want to marry me, does that mean we’re engaged?” So, he did it all the proper way.

    Post # 9
    224 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    He didn’t ask permission, but he did tell them that he bought the ring and was planning on proposing!

    Post # 10
    148 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Mr. PB will not be asking for my parents’ permission…but he WILL be asking for their blessing. Big difference in my mind. People wouldn’t think it was strange if he didn’t ask, it’s just something that’s important to both of us. I think he’s planning to ask his own family too.

    Post # 11
    5118 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Mr.ND told my mom and grandma and asked for their blessing. Grandma gave him a family ring for me. He also went the extra mile and asked for the blessing of a family friend of ours who is like my dad (I lived with these family friends for college, the man, wife, and 2 kids). I don’t speak to my real dad, but I had no idea he’d go and talk with my ‘fauxdad.’ I was so teary when I heard that 🙂

    Post # 12
    775 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    No my Fiance did not ask my parents permission or their blessing. My mother knew he bought the ring. He showed her and she loved it. She even had it hidden in her room for him so I won’t find it. I would think it was weird if he asked her permission since we aren’t very traditional and don’t do anything by the book really. 

    Post # 13
    814 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    I told Fiance that if he dared ask my parents’ permission, I wouldn’t marry him. And I was 100% dead serious. To me it would be one of the most disrespectful things he could do. I’m glad he didn’t (I didn’t think he would after finding out how against it I was, but I had to double check with my mum anyway haha).

    Post # 15
    1577 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    No, he didn’t.

    When my e-ring arrived, we announced our engagement to our parents first: we drove to his Mom’s house, and then called my parents together.

    It was so special to hear them react with such happiness. If he had notified them beforehand, I would have missed out on their initial excitement and joyful approval.

    Post # 16
    891 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    He did ask both my mom and dad, but specifically my dad. It was a beautiful thing he did, my Fiance.


    Edit: He asked for my hand in marriage the same evening my dad died. He at the same time asked my mom for her permission, to technically it would be he asked them one by one.. I guess..

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