Post # 1
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Busy bee
My Fiance was really surprised that I didn’t want him to see my dress before the wedding. He didn’t know that was tradition and assumed he would be dress shopping with me. I don’t want him to see it, not because of tradition, but because I want the first time he sees me in the dress to be when I have my veil, my make up done, etc. He’s kind of bummed but respects my decision. As a compromise (not really a compromise because I am still getting exactly what I want lol) I showed him the 2 other dresses in my top 3. So this got me wondering if a lot of brides still follow tradition of the groom not seeing the dress until day of. What did you bees do?
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Post # 2
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Bumble bee
He saw the dress because I needed to steam it the night before. I think clothes do look different on a body vs a hanger, but I’m not terribly traditional or superstitious anyways.
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
I didn’t particularly want him to see it, but after agonizing all day after going dress shopping about whether I should snap up the $99 bargain dress or splurge on a $975 dress I broke down and showed him pictures of me in both dresses so he could help me decide. I’m glad I did because I trust his opinion when it comes to how clothes look on me, plus he knows me well enough to know I’d probably have regretted spending nearly $1k on a dress, so his confirmation that the $99 one looked great on me sealed the deal. I was able to go back to the store and nab it before it sold out. I hope it’ll look different enough on the day of the wedding once I’m all made up, have a veil, and aren’t smirking like I was in the dress shop pic.
Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
- Wedding: April 2016 - Gorse Hill, Surrey, UK
my Fiance down right refuses to even discuss my dress with me. I just happened to mention how I was worried about it fitting and he completly cut me off saying he didnt want to know anything about it until the day. I’ve never known someone be that blunt about it to be honest! I would never give away what my dress is like to him, but he doesnt want to hear anything about it, not the smallest detail.
Post # 5
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Helper bee
- Wedding: October 2016 - Cambridge Mill
I showed Fiance pictures of me in several dresses (all the no’s) and I had mixed in the one I picked as well. He was able to guess right away with how excited I was in the photo!! OOOPS oh well!!
Post # 6
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Blushing bee
I don’t know whether I should show him or not. I showed him a lot of the ones I didn’t pick. Then the first dress that I was going to choose, I ended up returning it because I thought he wouldn’t like it. Then I showed him and he said he liked it!!! Gahhhh, now it’s too late because I don’t want to pick that dress because he already saw it.
Post # 7
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Busy bee
MrsMtoBE2016: I was thinking of doing this! But some of his family saw my dress so I didn’t want to risk them describing which one I picked and him knowing!
Splodge2003: I haven’t brought up my dress again, neither has he. I think he is coming around to the idea of being surprised 🙂
CakeSniffer: I think it will look different! I thought of showing Fiance a pic of the dress, plain no embellishments (I have one pic with jus the dress and one pic with a sash, veil, shoes, etc) because I want to add a lot to it to make it sparkle!
molokoa: Definitely agree. I’m keeping it at his brother’s house. If he is there and sneaks a peek at least it won’t look the same as it will on me!
Post # 8
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Busy bee
dexlovely: Oh man! I’m sure he will like you in anything you pick, so just go with what you feel most beautiful in! Good luck!
Post # 9
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Blushing bee
My Fiance was actually the only person that went with me to buy. It was a pleasant experience. I knew he would like anything, so truly, the only opinion I had to listen to was my own. We went to eat at a resteraunt we’d never been before (we had to go out of town a little) and made a day of it. It’s a day I’ll never forget and that was really special to me. 🙂
Post # 10
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Sugar bee
DoubleA903: He doesn’t want to see it, hear about it, or know anything. He wants to be totally surprised. His brother asked me about it and asked how I was doing my hair for the wedding and my Fiance yelled ‘Dude! I’m right here! Stop asking questions, I don’t want to hear any of this!” lol. I really, really want to show him a picture of it because I’m having major dress regret and I know hearing him tell me I look beautiful would totally put my mind at ease (even if he hates it, he’d tell me he loves it lol).
He’s actually seen a picture of it without knowing though. I was searching on the internet for pictures of a certain tux color. I found the tux I really liked and showed him a picture of the bride and groom. But he doesn’t know that the bride in the picture just happened to be wearing my dress!
Post # 11
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Honey bee
Yes, he saw it hanging up. We eloped, so he saw it when we were packing to travel and unpacking at the hotel. It wasn’t that big of a deal to me.
Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
DoubleA903: DH didnt want to see the dress bc he wanted to be surprised.
Post # 13
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Busy bee
My DH saw the sleeve of my dress before the wedding because it had to be altered and I HATED the alteration it changed the part of the dress I brought it for I was so up set I ended up sobbing in front of him about two weeks before the wedding so he insisted on seeing that part so he could reassure me. I still hated it but he made me feel much better
Post # 14
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Helper bee
- Wedding: October 2016 - Cambridge Mill
DoubleA903: I didn’t even have that chance!! HAHAHA I can’t lie either so as soon as he saw the photo he knew and said that that was the one..and i went all red LOL
Post # 15
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Honey bee
Splodge2003: my Fiance is the exact same way! He refuses to see it, wants to know nothing about it, the style or anything.. Says he wants to be completely surprised! He’s also very superstitious so I’m sure that’s part of it…