(Closed) Did your fiance have an influence on your dress choice?

posted 7 years ago in Dress
  • poll: How much influence did your fiance have on which dress you chose?




    We picked the dress together

  • Post # 32
    2253 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Actually the only thing he ever said to me regarding the dress was for me to be absolutely sure if I wanted to go the route of getting a nonwhite dress. At the time, I was thinking of getting a blush colored dress but that thought flew out of my head when I tried my dress on in ivory. Looking back, he was right. It would have been trendy at the time, but personally I would have probably regretted it later down the road. How the man knows me so well!

    Post # 33
    244 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @vintagebride143: Over the years I’ve noticed he’s not a fan of certian textures, so I tried to keep it simple. Less beading, not rough, etc 🙂 So he influenced it, but not really directly or intentionally.

    Post # 34
    766 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I made Fiance watch some Say Yes to the Dress with me! We talked a little about what he liked me in (althoug he’s never seen me in a white dress). Basically he said he didn’t like anything poofy and isn’t too big on dresses with a lot of cleavage. 

    Post # 35
    69 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    I’m still in the process of choosing a dress, but so far he hasnt given any input. I’ll show him a couple pictures of what I’m generally going for and he’ll say its nice or pretty. I think he just wants to get married already, haha. 

    Post # 36
    2543 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    He kind of had some say but not really. He pointed out what he didn’t like in some pictures but all the dresses he didn’t like I didn’t like either. But I picked my dress without any input from him.

    Post # 37
    9950 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012


    First Wedding (circa 1980) little to no influence… My Ex & I were having a Traditional BIG White Pouffy Family Wedding… fairly formal (Church Ceremony / Country Club Reception)… I knew I’d be doing the fancy dress, and he had chosen to come in Morning Dress.  Scene set.

    This time round…

    Mr TTR and I “sort of” discussed it.  It was to be an Elopement to a Destination Wedding … just the 2 of us saying our Vows on a beautiful beach… rather informal.

    I knew I wanted a Wedding Dress… Mr TTR wanted something more casual… lol, shorts & flip flops ??

    We talked some more… we agreed I’d do a less fussy Wedding Dress (Destination Dress… light flowy fabric not a lot of details) and he’d up his game from shorts to long pants… he surprised me and decided to match more my look… he opted for Tommy Bahama… cream silk shirt & pants to my ivory gown.  It was perfect.  He still got his leather flip flops (infact I wore mine too… kicked em off on the beach to marry barefoot).  It was perfect.  NO REGRETS.

    On the otherhand, I was a bit old fashioned… I didn’t want to reveal all the details (have him see the dress beforehand).  But he did say he wanted me to go more casual… hence the Destination Dress vs BIG White & Pouffy (or Lace to the nines… which was my first choice)

    He looked thru a Bridal Mag, and told me what he did like… and I have to admit that influenced my choice in the ultimate styling (Marilyn Monroe ala Seven Year Itch).

    Lol here’s a laugh… Many couples have difficulties come their 7th Year… while we were getting married.  Seems fitting therefore that my dress reflected that movie.

    In truth…

    I believe that a Wedding Dress should include an element of surprise for the Groom…

    It is a great thing to be a Bride and see the look of overwhelmed emotion on a man when he sees his Bride on their Wedding Day looking all radiant & spectacular.

    Cannot convey how amazing BOTH those experiences have been for me.


    Post # 38
    1719 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    Fiance wanted me in a form fitting gown but I wanted a ball gown so I got a ball gown, I know for a fact that he will think I look awesome in anything.  Yeah I care about his opinion but this was something I always dreamed of so my opinion mattered more lol.  Besides I think he cares more about whats under the dress.

    Post # 39
    8482 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2014

    None, but not for lack of me trying! I kept asking him what he thought he would like and he wouldnt say anything.

    Now though, he’s only too happy to tell me what kind of dresses he likes.

    Post # 40
    227 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    My DH has quite good taste in what to wear and will often suggest I wear a different pair of heels with what I have on because it would look better, and I tend to think he is right… With my dress, I’d always imagined if I did get married, that I would have a massive dress. I knew he hated that idea but hell, it was my day and I’ll wear what I’ve dreamed of! Turns out he loved the dress I chose! I was so surprised to hear him say how much he loved it and how he’d never seen one like it in our first glance session. It meant the world to me, and even more because I could tell he wasn’t lying!!

    Post # 41
    1078 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @vintagebride143: I have not got my dress yet but he is impacting it


     well the 1st way he is impacting my dress choice is he gave me a price point 3000 … most my friends spend under 1000 so all of a sudden my ideas got grander lol like dresses and things i would have never though of b4 


    2nd i was curious if he liked bigger ball gowns or more slim fit dresses and kinda fished to find out he thinks the puffy ones look silly soo the fact some how i rock a ball gown seems to be less awesome then ti was when i 1st twirled in one lol … back to more flowy romantic looks lol 


    so he is impacting the dress even though he does not know that 

    Post # 42
    303 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    He helped me choose.. Kind of..

    He never told me what style to go with.. I like ballgowns, as i think it is the only time i could wear it and not look stupid, and he had no problem with what i liked..

    I chose so many ballgowns, and he helped me pick the best one between them.

    So basically i showed him the options i liked, and he helped me choosing the dress:)

    Post # 43
    2541 posts
    Sugar bee

    Not really. He just said he didn’t like big poofy ballgowns. I got an A-Line and he loved it.

    Post # 44
    8573 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Some.. I’m a bit of a girly girl, so he fully expects the big, poofy “princess” ballgown.

    Post # 45
    903 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    He had no say in my ceremony gown, but helped me pick the reception gown. I was looking at mermaids for the reception and he said “how are you going to dance in that? you know girls who buy mermaid dresses usually end up buying a second dress for the reception because they can only waddle around so much…” so there it was. there would be no mermaids and no waddling. lol I think hell like both though 🙂

    Post # 46
    544 posts
    Busy bee

    Mine had quite a bit. He went with me when I tried on dresses so I could get his opinion. I’m glad he did because I knew he hated ballgowns, but had no idea he would love mermaid/fit and flare. Although he knows what my dress looks like, he hasn’t seen my actual dress, so I think we’re safe.

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