Post # 1
Just wondering what people’s situations were. I’m assuming the “norm” is for the man to pay for the ring on his own but I am just wondering if anyone either chipped in or split the price of the ring. For example, me and my boyfriend own a business together (50/50 partners) and we make the same money and have the same bank account so I am (obviously) basically paying for 1/2 my ring. In turn I get the big FAT rock that I want cause HEY I’m paying for it!! How about you ladies?
Post # 3
He paid for it all. Totally spoiled me too but I love it
Post # 4
well cough it up lady…let me see 🙂
Post # 5
I voted no as a technicality. We went shopping for the ring together, but Fiance had $X (larger amount) in mind and I didn’t want to spend more than $Y (smaller amount), so of course I fell for a ring that was $150 over his proposed budget. I insisted on paying for the overage; he could have afforded it, but why? He doesn’t have to prove anything to me.
Post # 6
He paid for it. Even though we lived together when we got engaged I had gone back to law school and not really contributing anything to the household income, so there’s really no way to pretend I even helped pay for it.
Post # 7
He paid for it in cash. If he had to fiance it, I didn’t want it.
Post # 8
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
Mine’s a family heirloom (on my side) so neither of us really paid for it. He did pay for the resizing, rebuilding of the prongs, etc. This was the best possible scenario for us because I get a beautiful and sentimental ring, and he/we don’t have to spend a bunch of money on a rock so we can put it towards our mortgage/honeymoon/etc instead.
Post # 9
I had a diamond and an anniversary band with 6 small diamonds from my previous marriage plus 4 small, high-quality diamonds from a ring that was found when remodeling my house. My guy and I took the diamond back to the Shane Co where it’d been originally purchased and traded it in for a sapphire we both loved. Then we mailed the large sapphire, 5 smaller sapphires we bought, the smaller diamonds and anniversary band to the designer who would make the ring. He used the yellow gold, added white gold, most of the stones and created my e-ring and the wedding ring that fits into it. My Fiance had $3,000 earmarked for my ring (we lived together and shared finances but this was money repaid from a loan he’d made to a friend). The e-ring cost only $1800 because of al the materials we’d sent and the wedding ring was $500. The set just appraised at $5,500 but only cost him/us $2,300.
Post # 10
@Lily_of_the_valley: Other, sort of. The diamond is a family diamond and he paid for the setting on his own.
Post # 11
I’d need an “other” My ring was an heirloom from my dad’s side of the family, so all my fi had to do was pay for it to be sized.
Post # 12
Very interesting to hear everyone’s stories. I should have added an other because I totally forgot the ring could have been handed down!
Post # 13
He paid for it.
Though I suppose I did pay for nearly half indirectly! I had sent him money via PayPal more than a year and a half before, and he had completely forgotten it was in that account. He went to pay for the ring and discovered a nice sum in his PayPal! So he used that plus his own cash to cover the cost of the ring. The PayPal money was technically his, but I find it funny that I sort of helped to fund it.
Post # 14
My Fiance paid for mine. He took me shopping, and had me pick a few so he could then surprise me based on my selection.
Post # 15
Mine paid alone but, he’s also 10 years older than me. I think it all depends on the situation. If paying half gets you the ring you want…why not?! 🙂
Post # 16
i didn’t vote, but i guess technically, i helped pay for it. when we picked out the rings, the jewelry store gave us his wedding band for free. i didn’t think it was fair for me not to pay anything, so i helped pay for it. i contributed the amount that his ring would have cost and he wouldn’t let me help beyond that.