(Closed) Did your FI’s parents give you any money toward the wedding?

posted 7 years ago in Money
Post # 3
1843 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

We planned on paying for our wedding ourselves.  FI’s mother offered $1,400 to hold the venue and has given us an additional $1,500, plus is paying for the rehearsal dinner.  We were not expecting ANY of it and were very (pleasantly) surprised and appreciative.

Post # 4
5797 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

No, they did not contribute at all but they are not well off and I know our having a semi-destination wedding was a strain on their finances. They did give us a VERY generous gift that we refused to cash for months (Dh gave in last week)

ETA: Oops forgot that Mother-In-Law bought my gorgeous earrings

Post # 5
1090 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011


Rehearsal dinner , his mom is taking care of though.

Post # 6
3671 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

We didn’t expect anyone to contribute but us.  My husband’s mother made my veil and offered to pay for our invitations.  His father paid for the cookout for everyone the night before the wedding and gave us $1000 to complete any payments or get anything we really wanted but couldn’t afford otherwise.  We were extremely grateful for everything they did for us regarding the wedding. 

Post # 7
1189 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

They did not contribute to the wedding, but they did put on a lovely rehearsal dinner, and they surprised us with a generous monetary gift to take on our honeymoon.

Post # 8
9029 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Myself and my husband paid for everything ourselves. towards the end his mom decided to pay for pastries which we gave out during the cocktail hour in chinese take out boxes and people loved it. My parents hosted a few of the guests that came to visit and paid for food ad our last minute engagement party that occured the weekend before.

They were there for support but didnt contribute to anything that was in our budget.

Post # 9
5778 posts
Bee Keeper

At one wedding, no one on his side contributed to the wedding itself, but the groom’s Dad covered the Rehearsal Dinner.

At the other wedding, the groom’s parents paid for the invitations, photographer, wedding night suite, flights for honeymoon, Rehearsal Dinner, and split the day after brunch with us, and gave a generous cash gift.

Post # 10
3344 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

His mom planned and paid for the rehearsal dinner and that was it.

Post # 11
5544 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

My parents gave us X and we could use it how we wanted, which we used for our Honeymoon, and the wedding. His parents are doing the Rehearsal Dinner, and at first that was all I thought. His mom really loves crafting and such, asked if she could help make pew cones for the ceremony, I didn’t care and turns out she paid for them too! I had it all budgeted for them and she paid for pretty much all the ceremony decor. It was very nice.

Post # 12
2192 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

They didn’t contribute to the wedding or reception as we wanted to take care of it ourselves since we are adults and capable.

They did however insist on paying for our honeymoon which was $1500 that we didn’t have and wouldn’t have even worried about finding. We wouldn’t have taken a honeymoon but they said that was out of the question.

We are very grateful for their honeymoon gift to us.

Post # 13
567 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Fiance and I are paying for the wedding ourselves.  We never had expected anything from either one of our parents. My mom did end up buying my wedding dress and veil, though. Completely unexpected, and she made me cry! If anything was to come from his parents we would be absolutely greatful, but we don’t feel like they have to give us anything.

Post # 14
3564 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Yes they contributed about 35-40% of the cost of the wedding. They volunteered to do this, we didn’t ask them. I guess I did have some expectation that they would contribute SOMETHING (could have been like a couple hundred dollars), since the guest list was about 65% DH’s family (and mostly people that his parents wanted there, not people that Darling Husband cared about being there). I was surprised and grateful by their generosity and that they gave so much and gave it without any strings attached (didn’t expect it to be used for certain things, didn’t hold it over our heads). 

Post # 15
4887 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We are not expecting to see any kind of contribution from my fiance’s side.  Future Mother-In-Law has told me to let her know if there’s any projects she can help with (labor wise, not monetarily), and that’s been the extent of their involvement.  We’re planning on paying for the Rehearsal Dinner ourselves.

Post # 16
5667 posts
Bee Keeper

No, they won’t be. We expect that though, his family is very frugal and sees expensive weddings as a frivolous expense.

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