(Closed) Did your FI’s parents give you any money toward the wedding?

posted 10 years ago in Money
Post # 32
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Nope! They told us that the bride’s family pays.

Post # 34
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

FI’s mom is a florist so she will be doing all of the flowers.

She is also paying for our ceremony music, 2 acoustic guitarists which she first heard play at an art show.

Rehearsal dinner and bridal shower which she is helping my MOH(FSIL) plan.

Post # 35
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

They paid for the rehearsal dinner and our honeymoon.

Post # 36
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

We planned on paying for the wedding ourselves. They have not contributed though.. They are still debating weather or not to pay for the Rehearsal Dinner. I didnt expect them too.. But I think Fiance has been a bit dissapointed as the time has passed realizing they really arent going to do anything. 

Post # 37
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

It was budgetted as if we were paying for it, and we did end up saving enough for it.  My mom had said in passing in the beginning that they would pay for it, but we didn’t really discuss it so I didnt want to count on it.  In the end, my parents did pay for the reception and his parents paid for rehersal dinner.  My parents also bought my dress and cake.

Post # 38
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Bumble bee

FI’s dad is paying for the rehearsal dinner, he offered and we accepted. Fiance hasn’t talked to his dad in ten years and we wanted to nurture the relationship hopefully.

Post # 39
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Fiance and I both knew our parents would want to help, but we began planning as though they wouldn’t be. Suddenly my parents were offering to pay for the dress and catering (our catering will be less than $700, but I’m still very thankful!). Then his family offered to pay for the photography- almost $3500! We would’ve had to cut back a lot had they not offered to help, but we were able to raise the budget a bit once they told us they would.

Thankfully neither of our parents really cares to have any say in the wedding planning- they both agree that it’s our wedding and we can do whatever we want.

Post # 40
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

They paid for the rehearsal dinner and the booze. 

Post # 41
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2008

My husband and I knew from the get-go that my parents wouldn’t be able to contribute anything to our wedding. My sister had gotten married nine months prior, they had just gotten done putting two kids through college and had two more to go, and in general they work very hard to make end’s meet. However, my very generous in-laws asked if they could pay for our entire wedding. I still paid for some things here or there (my dress, the trolley, some decor items, beautiful letterpress invitations) but they got all the big things.

Post # 42
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Not yet, but I still dream that Future Father-In-Law will suddenly call us up to offer!  However, as Future Sister-In-Law had two weddings for her one marriage, one paid for by Future Mother-In-Law and one by Future Father-In-Law, we expect that Future Father-In-Law is burnt out by the cost (even years later) and will not offer a dime.  Future Mother-In-Law we have already turned down her offer to help out a little (she has helped Fiance in too many ways, from emotional support to financial help, over the years to accept it).  My parents offered the same lump sum they gave my siblings, which will cover ~40%, but we could have entirely paid for it ourselves if need be.

Post # 43
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

LOL!! No, FI’s mom did not contribute anything. If you knew her then you would realize why I’m laughing. She works and practically has no expenses, but no she didn’t offer anything….His dad has passed away and they were divorced.

We are paying for some and my parents are paying for the majority of it.

Post # 44
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - An amazing non-profit retreat

We are paying for it ourselves and I know my family won’t contribute, but his probably will. His parents love to help us out because they can.

Post # 45
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@DeathByDesign: same here.

My parents couldn’t help at all, they are living paycheck to paycheck. His parents are pretty well off. Fiance and I are young (I’m 22 and he’s 24), but we had planned on saving and paying for it ourselves. His parents took us to lunch one day and offered to pay a huge portion of it. I’m incredibly grateful! Sometimes I feel really bad that they are contributing so much, but I know they are doing it because they love us. 🙂

Post # 46
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

we wanted to pay for our wedding ourselves and have enough saved up..so when it comes to our day, we told our parents we would do so. My parents offered $10k that we turned down, so she insisted giving us at least $5k in cash gift. My mother in law didn’t want us to get marry so soon because she wanted to save for it. Now that we are 1 month away, I heard she borrowed $30k to give us as a wedding gift and bought me diamond earings.  We’re going to give them back the 30k somehow. It’s just sweet of her to want to help us..so the thought alone was overwhelmingly wonderful.

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