(Closed) Did your FMIL go with you when you went to find your dress?? *POLL*

posted 4 years ago in Dress
  • poll: Did you FMIL tag along?
    Yes : (60 votes)
    36 %
    No : (50 votes)
    30 %
    Didn't want to : (5 votes)
    3 %
    Wasn't invited : (53 votes)
    32 %
  • Post # 2
    Member
    954 posts
    Busy bee

    I invited mine and she came 🙂  I honestly always thought it would just be me and my mom and maybe my long time best friend/moh but in the end I had my mom, mil, moh, and two bm.  I wouldn’t change it if I could.  It was a really great afternoon and a nice moment having them all there to support me.  My Mother-In-Law flew from PA to FL so she could be there.  DH is an only child and I thought it would be nice for her to be a part of it and I’m really glad she was able to be there.

    Post # 3
    Member
    941 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 1975

    RedheadMeggs:  Oh man :/ What a situation. I think that’s very nice of you to invite your Future Mother-In-Law. Have you tried having a conversation with your mom, telling her your point of view and why you invited your Future Mother-In-Law. Maybe putting that into perspective for her will allow her to accept and welcome your Future Mother-In-Law to dress shopping.

    I did invite my Future Mother-In-Law to my (future) dress shopping. I am very close with her, value her opinion, and she too has no daughters. My family was very happy I invited her, they even suggested it way earlier.

    Post # 4
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    2074 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    RedheadMeggs:  no, but mainly because I took my mum and my grandma with me and most places asked that you didn’t bring more than 2 people on a Saturday. It was important to bring my grandma with us because my granddad had recently died and it was a good way to get her out and about doing something happy. Otherwise, I would likely have invitedy Mother-In-Law to at least one shopping trip. I did invite her to my first fitting and it was lovely to have her there. If you are close with your Future Mother-In-Law and want her there then I think it is a lovely thing to invite her. Maybe plan one appoinment on a different day just with you and your mum to make your mum feel better?

    Post # 5
    Member
    6534 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    RedheadMeggs:  she didn’t come with me dress shopping because she couldn’t make the appointment but if she did come, my mother would not have cared. She did come with me to all my fittings because my mother couldn’t make it to those appointments lol

    Post # 6
    Member
    525 posts
    Busy bee

    No. Didn’t want her there.

    Post # 7
    Member
    1917 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    No, because both my mother and Mother-In-Law live far away and would have to travel in for the appointment.  I couldn’t deal with the idea of both of them staying in my tiny NYC apartment.  I feel bad, because my husband is an only child.  In the end, I didn’t up buying my dress with my mom either, but did go to a couple of salons with her.

    Post # 8
    Member
    2786 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I did, and she came. My Mother-In-Law has a daughter, but I wanted her to feel involved, because I really love her, and she’s always been wonderful to me. She also came with us to the salon on the day of the wedding. My mom and her get along, and my mom had no problem with it.

    I think your mom is being unfair in giving you a hard time. You have the right to invite whomever you choose.

    Post # 9
    Member
    8696 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I really just wanted it to be my mom and I. My mom would’ve been upset knowing her. Luckily, my Mother-In-Law lives 5 hours away so I never even invited her. She has a daughter so she’s okay.

    Post # 10
    Member
    1080 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    My Future Mother-In-Law is from out of town so it would be difficult. I invited just my mom and Maid/Matron of Honor to the first time, it will probably be my mom and I for he second time, but I would like my Future Mother-In-Law to come to one. I’ve shown her pictures so far. 

    Post # 12
    Member
    489 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I brought my Mom, Dad, and Future Mother-In-Law.  My Future Mother-In-Law loved being a part of it.  She has two sons so I thought it would be nice for her to get to be a part of the dress experience.  I don’t know how your Future Mother-In-Law is but mine was very respectful during the appointment.  She mostly just sat back and watched and when I found my dress, my mom and I had our moment and then I went over and hugged Future Mother-In-Law.  Her being there did not take away from the moment with my mom at all!  

    Post # 13
    Member
    4703 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I think your mom is acting immaturely. I think asking your Mother-In-Law was a nice thing to do, she doesn’t have a daughter and you wanted to share the experience with her.

    My Mother-In-Law didn’t come with me because she has a daughter, but I’m also not a fan of being the center of attention so I kept it just me and my mom.

    Post # 14
    Member
    1671 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - Church

    RedheadMeggs:  I hadn’t invited her because there were already so many people. I’m going to invite her to come to one of the fittings (not the first one), though. We get along but I am not that close and didn’t feel up to trying on dresses in front of her. You’ve already invited her, though, so you don’t really have an option. I think your mom is being a little silly. My Future Mother-In-Law is being respectful of the boundary that she isn’t my actual mother so it’s not a big deal.

    Post # 15
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    52 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I had intetions of bringing mine with me I just happen to find my dress much quicker than expected with just my mom there. My sister wasn’t even there. But I would have brought her with me and she wanted to go.

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