Did your groom dress different then his groomsmen?

posted 3 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 31
4036 posts
Honey bee

Mine wore a white tuxedo, with tails, and his men wore black. It was in the late 1970s, though. Today, I think the only thing that would be different might be his flower.

Post # 32
488 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

Mine are all wearing the same suit but my fiance will wear a slighly different buttonhole. Everyone one else will have just a cream rose buttonhole and fiance will have a cream rose buttonhole and a little something extra with yellow in it. (can’t remember the flower’s name haha)

Post # 33
4232 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom

Post # 34
231 posts
Helper bee

All the guys wore the same suits and ties, but the boutonnières were different. My husband’s matched the deep red in my bouquet and the groomsman matched the lighter shades of the bridesmaids bouquets. It looked pretty sharp actually!

Post # 35
2523 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

They all wore the same black tux, but my husband wore a white shirt with an ivory vest and tie, and the groomsmen wore a white shirt, black vest, and a darm purple tie (that matched the bm dresses).  The also had a different bout- the gm had a yellow freesia, and my husband a yellow freesia and a small ivory rose (which went with my bouquet).  

Post # 36
302 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

soontobemrswaller :  Mine will be buying his tux and the groomsmen renting. So he will look slightly different.

Post # 37
230 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2016 - Ed Oliver Golf Club, Wilmington, DE

My husband wore a gray tuxedo with ivory vest and tie; his groomsmen wore black tuxedos with black vest and tie… totally his idea; but I do love the distinction in our photos. 

Post # 38
995 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

I have seen it both ways so I think it’s your FI’s preference. My Darling Husband wore a black tux with a bowtie and had his guys in gray tuxes with regular ties.

Post # 39
1218 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I spent way too much time figuring this out.  My husband just had a best man.  Husband did not want to wear a bow tie and I didn’t want to make the best man wear a bow tie.  So they wore similar suits (husband’s was custom made by a high-end clothier) and identical ties then best man had an ivory rose boutonniere and I added some purple lisianthus to husband’s ivory rose boutonniere.  

Post # 40
89 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

Mine wore a bow tie, and his groomsmen wore long ties. It was his decision; I couldn’t have cared less!

Post # 41
863 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2017 - historical mansion

Fiance is wearing a tux and a black vest with a white striped tie. Groomsmen are wearing black suits and blue striped ties.

Post # 42
466 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

We recently found out that in our church’s renovation, they’ve opted against adding AC.  So.  The current plan is for an August wedding.  As this last year has reminded us, August in Ohio in big historic buildings with no AC is not a fun thing.  So if we do the August wedding, the groom is likely to eschew pants and wear a formal kilt.  Because A) he can, and B) why wear pants if you have to?

Meanwhile, of all things, my bridesmaids want to wear tuxes.  I’m not opposed on principle.  I’m opposed because August.  Ohio.  No AC.  Why wear pants if you don’t have to?!

So the options are looking like this.  If we have the August wedding, the groom will likely be in a kilt, although the groomsmen likely will be in normal tuxes.  If we have a fall wedding, everyone but me will be in a tux.  And at that point, we think it would be fun to coordinate the bridesmaids and their partnered groomsmen so they match each other, but not the rest of the party.  The pink couple, the blue couple, etc.  Of course you can get fun colors in tuxes and vests for men much easier than you can for women.

Regardless, though, it doesn’t look like the groom will match the groomsmen, either because he won’t wear pants and they will or because they’ll all be in different colors.

Post # 43
528 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2016 - Long Island, NY

Technically, my husband’s tuxedo was not the EXACT same as he purchased his and it was “slim” cut… but the only visual difference between the Groomsmen and hubby was that hubby’s boutonniere was 2 white Calla Lilies, and Groomsmen all had 1 yellow Calla Lily. They all had the same socks and hubby wore different socks, but no one saw that either.

Post # 44
2658 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

We’re getting married outdoors in early summer, so my Fiance was very against wearing a full suit (he runs hot anyway, so is worried he’d overheat/be super sweaty). Instead, he and the groomsmen are wearing charcoal slacks with a vest and white shirt. My Fiance is wearing a maeve bow tie and the groomsmen are wearing maeve neckties. He didn’t want to stand out too much but also knew he needed to look at least a little different, so this was our compromise.

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