Post # 1
We’re having an outdoor wedding with first look pictures taken about an hour and a half before the ceremony begins- it’s just the way the timeline has to go (photog contract starting at 1, ceremony at 3:30, limo contract blah blah) I really can’t rework anything else anymore. Our FL pictures will happen from 2-2:30 and then we’ll do wedding party pictures (BMs first so I can go “hide”). How often does it happen that an earlier guest accidentally sneaks a peak at your before the ceremony? Our grounds don’t really have a lot of hiding places, but I am going to conact a small church across the street to see if we can use their garden. I know it won’t be the end of the world, but we all want that moment when the bride first walks in and everyone gasps. I don’t want a nosey guest to tell people about how I look!
Just FYI, we can’t do many pictures after the ceremony. It will end around 3:50-4 and sunset is at 5, so only family pictures can be fit in in that time. Plus no outdoor lighting 🙁
Post # 2
- Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast
I was seen. But I didn’t care?
Post # 3
I’ve seen a few brides before the ceremony. Not on purpose by all means, but just in the wrong place at the wrong time. It happens.
I am going to have the same issue with mine. The only place to hide is in this tiny little room at the top of the barn… I am not spending an hour in there to avoid the early arrivers. We are hoping to have the staff try to keep guests at the far end near where the ceremony will be and not in the area I will be. unfortunately, short of holding people down, you can’t stop them from wandering.
Post # 4
- Wedding: March 2015 - City Winery New York, NY
I was seen while we were taking pictures. I didn’t care. It was kind of fun and I think those guests got a kick out of it.
On the other hand, my lovely brother posted a pic of me on Facebook right before the wedding and that did piss me off. I don’t know why one bothered me and the other didn’t. I guess it is just that fickle “bride brain.”
Post # 5
I was seen before our ceremony started. We also got married outside, and there wasn’t a place for me to “hide” so that none of our guests could avoid seeing me before I walked down the sidewalk to the Gazebo. So, once it started, I just waited at the very back with my dad, until it was time to walk. I could have been somewhere FAR away from the Gazebo, but they still be able to see me as I walked towards the Gazebo. It worked, and I didn’t mind!
They also probably saw me as they were walking to the Gazebo, as it was cold and everyone (we just had a family only ceremony) sat in their cars until the last second to walk.
Post # 6
Same here. It really sucks because the place we would primarily be taking pictures is where the guests will be seated. That’s just the nicest, photo friendly part of the grounds. I’m hoping the church across the street lets us use their garden. Maybe then someone will mistake me for a different wedding 🙂
Post # 7
A handful of people saw me. Given that we were taking pictures at the hotel where everyone was staying and had to get from that same hotel to the venue, it was inevitable. We did what we could to avoid me passing by large crowds of guests, but otherwise I didn’t sweat it. I wouldn’t worry what guests say to other guests either. I mean, what can you say that’s going to truly capture your look? “She’s gorgeous, in a big white dress” doesn’t really paint a helpful picture. There’s no way someone could describe your look in any kind of detail that would do the real thing justice, you know? Definitely one of those things that isn’t worth stress on your big day!
Post # 8
We had a lunch reception first, then a break and the ceremony, but everyone met up at the reception location to get to the ceremony (there were no sensible directions to give). A few people were still around to see us, plus we were wandering around all over the ranch anyway. We didn’t care at all, though I do remember someone (no idea who anymore) saying I needed to hide from my groom. I laughed and told them we’d already been hanging out together the last hour for photos.
Also if people are going to gasp (doubtful, honestly, though awws are possible), they’ll gasp anyway. There’s a difference between seeing someone wandering around or from a distance and seeing the ceremony itself in how everyone behaves and looks, including yourself.
Post # 9
Yes, quite a few haha. They all started walking into the reception space (instead of the church across the street) and I had to ask my Darling Husband to ask them to leave. We were trying to do our family photos before the ceremony, so the whole family saw us as well. 🙂
Post # 10
About five people who showed up really early to the ceremony saw me as I was arriving; I was sequestered in the basement of the church shortly thereafter and no one else saw me until I walked down the aisle!
Post # 11
A lot of people saw me but I didn’t care.
I have been a Bridesmaid or Best Man a a few times recently so obviously I saw the bride quite a bit beforehand, however, I still had that “awwww” moment as a guest watching the bride walk down the aisle because of the way the bride and groom are looking at each other. I don’t think people seeing you is going to change that.
Post # 12
Yeah, I guess you all are right. All of this is getting me so excited! Now I wont be so stressed and just take pictures where I want to 🙂
Post # 13
- Wedding: Hawksnest Cove Beach St John USVI
My wedding coordinator was huge into not habing anyone see me before I walked down the aisle. She personally escorted me from the salon to the outdoor park and let me stay (with my mimosas) in the air conditioned car and ensured everyone was in place before getting me. I loved it! She grabbed my dad from the group and he got me out of the car and fixed my dress and had even found a path that was trees covered so I could have a grand reveal.
Can you hang out in your limo in AC waiting for the ceremony?
Post # 14
A few did. Some of my parent’s friends were at the hotel bar having a drink, and the only way out of the hotel was to walk by the bar. We were far enough away (probably 50-75 feet), so they didn’t see anything too closely, but they cheered for us, which was nice. I thought it would bother me (I actually sent my dad down to the lobby to scope out if anyone we knew was there), but it was a fun, sweet moment. Didn’t bother me at all in the moment – I was plenty nervous and preoccupied with bigger, more important things.
Post # 15
I went to a wedding a few weeks ago, and due to the lack of signage, my Fiance and I (and a few guests) saw the bride in the venue. She didn’t mind, but she said hi and scurried off with the photographer to hide.
My wedding will be at a hotel, and I imagine most FL and family photos will be taken in the hotel lobby because of the beautiful decor and natural lighting it provides (and A/C!!). I’m sure we’ll be seen by some earlybird guests, but meh, it’s the least of my wedding-planning worries 🙂 You’ll be fine!!